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12 Reasons Why Women Prefer Bad Boys

My friend Jane (We’ll call her Jane) was totally smitten with her new boyfriend John .

They met at a wine tasting party, he possessed all the qualities that she had dreamed of in her knight in shining armor—except for him being a Partier! John loves to visit dive bars with the guys.

Cindy didn’t mind him hanging out with his guy friends. However more than occasionally John gets slammed drunk and behaves like an ass (behaving badly to Jane when he’s drunk)…while all Jane’s friends know he’s a train wreck and not good for her…she can’t seem to break off this toxic relationship.

And Jane’s not the only one for sure!

Meet my friend Lucia

Lucia is an internationally known dating/relationship expert and TV personality. She hosts “The Art of Love” on L.A. Talk Radio, is the author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love”, a keynote speaker and syndicated columnist.

She has been on over 100 national and international radio and TV Shows as an expert, including “Dr. Phil”, “The CBS Early Show”, “60 Minutes Australia”, “The Tyra Banks Show”, “E! Entertainment”, “The KTLA Morning Show”, “Fox 5 News”, “Playboy Radio” and “Cosmo Radio”.
(To find out more about Lucia Click here)

 

Elegant and Authentic

I like Lucia because she’s both elegant and authentic! She’s both sensitive and not afraid to “tell it as it is!”

So here’s Lucia’s expert Advice on why women prefer Bad boys-And don’t forget to read all the way to the end to get her comment on the ideal man!

Why Women Prefer Bad Boys

Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys.  Here’s why:

Not real:  Nice guys are too nice.  No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that.  Bad boys “keep it real”.  Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

Respect:  No one respects a doormat.  Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands.  A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him.  Women can’t respect a man they can control.  No respect = No attraction.

Predictable:   Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and unpredictable.   Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge.  Predictable = No excitement = No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.

Mother Nature:  Women are designed to nurture.  However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys.  They think their love will save them.  Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

Fixer-Upper:  Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed.   Bad boys usually do, so they become a project.  Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them.  Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

Sperm wars:  Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes.  Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving.  Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

Fear of intimacy:  If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there.  A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

 Low self-esteem:   We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves.  If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief.  A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re unfamiliar with.

Sex:  Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed.  They like to be manhandled sometimes and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done.  A bad boy comes across as being able to get the job done, even though that may not always be the case.

 Hot:  Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot?  I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good.  Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot”.

Charm:   Nice guys don’t always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words.  Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish.  By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

Protection:  Historically, men have protected women – physically and otherwise.  Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure.

Life is about balance.

Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category.   The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two.  Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

 

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