Make the leap
Once you’ve made the leap and asked the question—or been asked the question—there’s always the problem of where you go for that crucial first date.
Picking the right location
Ideally, an idea for a great place will have popped up during your first little email exchange. If you know the person you’ve been chatting with likes the beach then a beachfront café is likely to be a good choice. If they said on their profile that they’re into salads and sushi then proposing a veggie bar or a Japanese restaurant will make it hard for your new friend to say no.
Wherever you choose, the crucial rule is to make sure that you meet in a public place.
There’s no getting around this one. Even if you’ve been talking for a couple of weeks about how great the hiking route you’ve discovered is and how much your new pal will enjoy it—and even if they’re as enthusiastic as you are to check it out—the first date should still be in a spot where other people can see you.
Remember, you still don’t know the person you’re planning to meet, however long you’ve been swapping messages across the ether. It always pays to be cautious, especially on that first meeting.
For some people Cafes are good choices for dates because they’re relaxed, laid back and much less formal than dinner for two—which can feel a bit like a job interview. And activity dates are usually safe bets as well. If you run out of things to say about yourselves or each other, you can always talk about what you’re seeing or doing.
You could also take a historical walking tour of your local town, pay a visit to a museum, even take a spin on a rollercoaster. You could also make it a group thing and join two sets of pals together to take some of the pressure off that first meeting.
The first date isn’t just about whether or not you both walk away feeling as though you’ve been struck by lightning. Not all great relationships start with a bolt from the blue. It’s about whether you feel comfortable in each other’s company, can make each other laugh and find that you’d like to see each other again and get to know each other better. Many of the best relationships are those that grow out of friendship and a first date should always be seen as the first meeting with a new friend.
If that turns out to be a friend with benefits—and then a great deal more—so much the better.
And if not, maybe your new friend has friends…
Don’t sweat it
There’s always a huge amount of pressure on a first date. Don’t sweat it. Just think of it as a couple of hours with a new friend and if it doesn’t work out, just remember: there’s a dating site full of better options.
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