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Should I respond to someone without a photo?

Meet Julie Spira.

She’s known worldwide as a top online dating expert. She’s a Los Angeles based dating coach with clientele located throughout the United States, (as well as in numerous countries around the world.)

Julie’s the Publisher and Editor-in-Chief at Cyber-Dating Expert and is a frequent guest in the media with her expert dating and relationship advice. Julie coaches singles from college-age to the large population of baby-boomers who are looking for a chance at true love.

Julie’s articles and dating advice have appeared on relationship and online dating sites including HurryDate, Betty Confidential, Date Daily, eHarmony Advice, Galtime, GenConnect, JDate,, MSN-Glo, She Knows, Yahoo! Shine, YourTango, and Zoosk. (to find more about her click here)

She’s also been named in the Top 10 Best Online Dating Experts by

Many people have asked me the question of “Should I respond to someone who doesn’t have a photo?”

Should I respond to someone who doesn’t have a photo?

Here’s Julie’s expert answer to online dater who asked her the same question…

Dear Julie,
I met this guy online before the holidays and he seemed interested in me.
The conversation pleasant enough, but I’m a little creeped out about his recent message.
In this most recent one, he asked me, Have you been single long? What kind of men are you typically interested in?” He also never put up a photo of himself.
I’ve been single for longer than I really want to mention and I don’t really have a type, but I don’t want anyone super unattractive or unhealthy.

What do you think I should do?


Julie’s expert answer

Dear C,

It’s great that you’re communicating with someone online.
When a guy posts a profile without a photo, he doesn’t really have all ten toes in.
While you’re concerned about how to respond to him, you actually don’t need to respond to him at all.
The questions he’s asked of you are generic questions. Sometimes guys just don’t know what to ask and are trying their best to open a digital dialog.

You don’t have to say how long you’ve been single to someone you’ve never met. It doesn’t matter if it’s been 3 months or 3 years. He’s single, you’re single and you’re both on a dating site.

If you feel uncomfortable, just don’t reply

If you feel uncomfortable, just don’t reply. If you’re still interested in getting to know him, ask him if he can post his photos so you can see who you are chatting with.

If he isn’t willing to do so, he just isn’t date ready. There are plenty of guys who are genuine and will post recent photos. Take your time and put your energies into a relationship that has the potential of turning into a pleasant date.


Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.~Julie

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