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Profile Photo Tips for Christians

Choose your advice carefully

Whether you’re 25 or 95, having great online photos is essential to your profile. However getting good advice on posting dating profile photo can prove to be a frustrating experience. Many articles advise women to show more cleavage and men to look mysterious and aloof by not smiling. This is terrible advice for anyone seeking a healthy, long-term meaningful relationship.

ChristianCafe.com has much stricter photo standards that other dating websites (probably because it’s also the only major Christian dating site which is actually Christian owned). They don’t permit photos showing cleavage, bikini shots, or shirtless men.

Love not lust

The important reason for this is that while they recognize that physical attraction is very important in a relationship and often the spark which initiates the relationship, the focus is on long term, healthy relationships between Christians and not short term, physical relationships which often fail. (The key is to be guided by love not lust.)

The idea here is to give you some simple advice on looking your best online and NOT to focus too heavily on the physical (or worse, sexual attraction with complete strangers on the internet-as this won’t bring you any lasting happiness.)

A specific kind of photo

Most of us know that we need good photos when online dating but- after looking at data from 11,400,000 profile photos we found that there is a specific kind of photo that gets people more attention online (For full disclosure: I’ve take the data we collected and using a little “common sense” adapted it to make it appropriate for Christian’s.)

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I’ve lost count of the number of people I’ve met who think they have good dating photos but don’t (ironically I nearly missed meeting my Fiancé because she had blurred photos.) People blame dating websites for lack of matches, or worse end up feeling unable to meet that someone special and find lasting love when it’s often their photos that are holding them back form meeting someone special

And while it’s not all about Physical attraction first impressions are important- and that’s especially true when you’re dating online…most people won’t look at a profile unless the pictures are good enough to hold their attention.

The Right Image Produces the Right Responses

There’s a difference between a photo that generates lots of responses and a photo that generates a life-long relationship.

A photo shouldn’t just show what you look like; it should also show who you are.

For example, if you’re a little edgy then a preppy photo will attract responses from people who won’t be great matches. Conversely, nice guys don’t wear ripped tee-shirts and show attitude, even if people tell you that those are the looks that get responses.

And women, while some people will tell you that cleavage shots might bring women more messages, AVOID them. (As I said earlier in this article be guided by love not lust.)

Success in online dating isn’t based on the number of responses. Forget the dating advice that you need to have lots of replies…You don’t need to bring in lots of replies; all you need is that one special person for you!.

Clothes Count

What you wear in your dating photo is as important as what you wear on the date.

You should look smart and casual at the same time- show that you clean up well without looking stiff and formal. And remember that casual doesn’t mean a dirty shirt and baggy sweats. Too casual suggests that you don’t care what people think-

Before heading to the shoot, put together several different outfits in strong, solid colors that look good on you.

When picking your clothes, try to put together more than one look for the profile. A dressy outfit would show you ready for a dinner and a more laid back outfit would let the viewer imagine walking with you on the beach or sitting under a tree, enjoying a picnic.

Arrive for the photo session in the dressier look; it’s always easier to dress down as the photo session progresses than to try to dress up.

Avoid busy patterns, prints, stripes, paisley, and elaborate designs. Stick to classic looks that won’t date and choose colors that look good with your skin tone. If you’re not sure what those are, there’s a ton of advice online that will help match shades to skin.

Also your outfits should be kept on hangers, not folded in a bag, so that they don’t wrinkle for the photo-shoot, and a lint roller always comes in handy for removing those flecks of cat hair.

Finally, (and we might have to break this to you gently) before the shoot, ditch the sunglasses and take off the baseball cap; As that the eyes are the window to your soul don’t take photos wearing sunglasses? You may think that wearing sunglasses looks cool but you’ll simply make it difficult for that someone special to see your face. And guys if you’re wearing a cap most women will assume its hiding a bald spot.”

Glamor Shots, Make-Up and Hair

A glamor shot is never about creating a photograph that shows your real personality. It’s about creating a shot the photographer finds the most pleasing. The photographer will often use heavy make-up, hair styling, unnatural lighting and lots of post-production retouching.

The result might be fantastic but it fails online…

People avoid these types of dating pictures because they know no one looks like that in real life — and if they do bite, they avoid them after the date because they didn’t measure up to the dating photos on the profile.

When it comes to using a make-up artist before having a picture taken, guys can do without. Women probably can too if they’re a dab hand with the mascara. One easy option is to stop off at the cosmetics counter at a nearby department store for a free make-up session on the way to the shoot.

Also know that spending hundreds of dollars on hair and make-up can backfire. If you can’t re-create the same glammed-up, flawless look for your dates, you’ll disappoint.

When your profile photos don’t look like you, they don’t serve their purpose.

When doing your own make-up, keep it natural. Apply using natural window light even if that means using a room other than the bathroom. Good lighting is essential to a good, even application.

Lips look great when shiny, either from transparent or colored lip gloss. (Matte, dark lipstick tends to have an aging effect in photos, so it’s best avoided.)

Face foundation and powder should be matte and exactly match neck and body skin tone, so that it
becomes invisible. You’d be amazed at how many women think they are wearing a perfect skin

tone color, when in reality the foundation is visibly darker or lighter than the true skin tone of their

neck. The camera sees everything, so you might want to update your make-up supply before their session.

And forget about that “age-defying” mineral foundation that contains light reflecting particles to give a youthful look. While it might look great in real life, it’s not camera-friendly. Self-tanners and bronzers will invariably make skin look orange, and glittery body lotion or make-up tends to show up in pictures as little white flecks.

Shine is the enemy of photography. Dewy skin is attractive in real life, but in photos it looks like an oil slick, so skin should be matte.

Eye shadow can look darker in photos, so if you normally wear a dark color, think about using a lighter shade for their photo session. Mascara, though, will make eyes appear brighter.

Grey hairs and dark roots are also something the camera sees, so if you color your hair, try to have it done no more than a few days before the session.

Ultimately, you should style your hair the way you would normally wear it to a date. If the shoot will take place outdoors, hair spray will tame flyaway strands away from face and hair, hands and nails may also end up in the shot. A plain clear nail polish always works. For dry lips, bring Chap Stick and for dry eyes, there’s Visine.

Guys have it easier but it’s worth spending a few minutes the day before the shoot tweezing away facial hairs to eliminate nose hair or unibrow.

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What to know if you take your own photos

As stated earlier we looked at the data of over 11,400,000 profile photos and found that there is a specific kind of photo that gets people more attention online?

We found that:

The type of camera you use has a huge effect on how good you look in your pictures”

AND

“Interchangeable lens cameras (digital SLRs) make you look more attractive than point and shoot cameras, and MUCH better than a camera phone”.

The reason that they say this is that the specific kind of photo that will get you the best results is one where the subject (That’s you) is photographed in Sharp focus while the rest of the picture is blurred.

Look at these photo examples and notice how the subject (that’s me) is in sharp focus while the rest of the picture is blurred.
Photos (Like these) feel more intimate and personal; they get a better viewer response.

Posting photos in this style WILL get you noticed more, and getting noticed online means a better chance of finding that someone special!

You’ll either know someone who has the skills and Camera to take these specific kind of photos OR you’ll need to hire a professional photographer who really “understands what they are doing”

Remember…Photos where you’re in sharp focus while the rest of the picture is blurred.

Before taking your photos

I’m amazed at how much money people (women especially) spend on hair and clothes in preparation for getting great profile photos only to turn up for the session looking tired or stressed!

Get a good night’s sleep the night before you take your photos, avoid wearing sunglasses for a couple of hours before the shoot; they leave marks on the bridge of the nose and don’t experiment with skin treatments the night before the photo session, though. The last thing you want is a skin irritation or allergic reaction.

On the day of the shoot itself, if you’ve chosen to hire a professional you should know how to reach the location, relaxed and with plenty of time to spare…turning up late and stressed will give you awful photos

After the Shoot: When to Retouch?

Photo retouching is best left to remove a stray hair, to correct color and lighting or help someone who has a minor acne breakout or razor burn, but no more than that.

“Often people work too much and get bags under their eyes for lack of sleep. Digital retouching can remove a few minor lines and show them looking their best. But if you have a mole the size of a quarter on your forehead, and you want it removed,  people are going to notice and there is no point looking like someone you don’t in real life.”

Retouching should enable you to look as you do on your best day. It shouldn’t change a body or a look….stick to “Light retouching” at most.

Some Good Advice

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photosis important.
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Los Angeles Dating Tips (A relaxed easy date that’s garanteed to impress)

Do you live in Los Angeles? and need some Los Angeles Dating tips? Well here’s an idea for an amazing date!

The Getty Villa

If your date likes museums or Art Galleries than this is a  perfect weekend venue for a date to remember!

What I like about this venue is that:

  • There’s plenty of parking space an its an easy place to find!
  • You can meet your date here for 30 minutes or spend longer if you like.
  • You can admire the beauty of the place and the focus is on the surroundings so it’s a relaxed date where you can have a good time and get to know each other slowly and let things unfold naturally (Rather than a pressure of a dinner date)
  • As you need to book tickets in advance you’ll show your date that you’re good at planning things and that they are special!
  • If you want to eat there’s a REALLY good cafe, that has excellent food at great prices.

Go to the Website

And reserve tickets…its not that difficult to do! And Tickets are FREE simply click HERE and then click on the GET FREE TICKETS LINK

Some Good Advice

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

Spotlight on Top Boca Raton photographer

Meet Ben

Ben’s a great photographer!-whether its the candid dating profile photos that he offers LookBetterOnline customers or his masterful Nature photos.

Highly skilled & experienced

Ben graduated from Florida Atlantic University in Graphic Design and has spent literally thousands of hours behind a camera.

And he’s photographed some pretty famous people (Think The Grateful Dead, The Foo Fighters,  Fergie, Beastie Boys, REM, and many more.)

Getting to know a master photographer

So that you can get to know a little more about Ben I asked him 3 questions!

LookBetterOnline: (Giles) What do you like about taking portrait photos?
Ben:
The challenge in animating a person into who they are through an image. (this is really important, it’s the real you that you want to post when you’re looking for love online, not a posed, tense version of you)

LookBetterOnline: (Giles) What advice do you have for customers?
Ben: Be yourself and it will be show in your photos! (Ben’s positive and cheerful and easy to be around and will help you!)

LookBetterOnline: (Giles) What’s your favorite local location to shoot portrait and why
Ben: My favorite locations are where the customer feels most relaxed, this shows in the photos!

What Ben’s customers are saying

“”Great Photographer; Easy to deal with; Fast, Supportive and Encouraging Great shots “- STEVEN

”Ben is personable and friendly, put me at ease and made the whole session fun. My pictures came out great, too.”-SHARYN

Think about this!

Having great online dating profile photos (Taken in a specific way) is the most important thing you can do when dating online, To Book a session with Ben simply CLICK HERE


The Chemistry of Love…OxyTocin and Dating for women? (And Men)

..Whether you like Science or Psychology or not here’s some interesting information!

Love is a Chemical?

Do you think LOVE is just a chemical reaction? or is there more to this? or are we plain and simply directed by are hormones?

There’s a hormone called Oxytocin that’s (Often referred to as the “love molecule”, Oxytocin is linked with helping couples establish intimacy)

What does this mean to Daters?

What does this mean to us when we’re dating?

Imagine going on a date with a man who you really like.  Imagine a romantic date You feel great and this is due to the powerful hormone called Oxytocin.

As the date goes on, you feel a real connection with this guy and after the date you go back to your apartment and make out….now your Oxytocin levels are really high and this  which releases even more of this “bonding chemical”.  With all this Oxytocin circulating in your system, you fell so “right” and s connected!

Some people would say that Oxytocin just like a drug removes your rational thought process and before long in your mind you’ve convinced yourself that he is your perfect match and you barely even know him!  While you’re dreaming of your perfect  future together, he’s just thinking that this is great sex.

Is this the reason that many women share too much/bond too quickly and end up getting hurt?

Bonding with the wrong people

And what happens if you feel Bonded with someone who’s just NOT right for you? (Just about everyone I’ve ever met has experienced this)

Deep down, you know he’s wrong for you, but you’re addicted to this Oxyticin  ‘high’ and just like a drug addict, you  keep going back for more.

Rational Mind

Taking a step back and seeing if this person is right for you is a good strategy…when we know rationally that someone’s a good choice AND we feel a strong bond then we’ve found a good match, when there’s just passion then walk away! (No Matter How you feel!)
Source: BestPsychologyDegrees.org

Think About This too!

Before you get a date you need to attract someone special!
Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, we all look at the photos first! so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Spotlight on Top Oakland Photographer

Meet Angela

I love Angela’s photos-whether they are the wedding or engagement photos or the candid dating profile photos that she offers LookBetterOnline customers.

Very Experienced

Angela has professionally photographed wedding and portraits for many years and currently owns her own boutique studio in the Bay Area.

Angela specializes in people photography for all types of personal and business applications.

Angela Encourages “On Location” Photo-sessions.

In Angela’s Words:

“Most of my clients end up choosing an outdoor “On location” portrait session as those are MUCH better for dating sites. Outdoor portraits of people are more “approachable” and casual in style. I am highly experienced in taking professional yet very natural photographs outdoors with natural light, which is lovely. most of my clients end up choosing to go with the outdoor look! I have a great park located about 1-2 miles from my studio that is perfect”!

What Angela’s customers are saying

“I was really happy with Angela. She helped me through every step of the process from picking out which outfits to wear to making sure my hair was OK after I changed clothes! She picked a local park instead of her studio, which was nice. She made me feel very comfortable throughout the whole process. Thanks, Angela!”- GRETCHEN

 “Angela was excellent. She helped me pick out the best clothes for the shot and positioned me to take advantage of the best angles. She was very easy to work with, I’d highly recommend her!”-KAREN

Think about this!

Having great online dating profile photos (Taken in a specific way) is the most important thing you can do when dating online, To Book a session with Angela simply CLICK HERE

Choosing an online dating photographer! (What makes a good Online dating photographer?)

How Do I chose?

With a choice of many different photographers how do you chose the right one for you?
(Here’s a list of Online Dating Photographer “Must haves” to help you!)

Relaxed and Friendly

A good online dating photographer…is friendly and  communicates well with his/her clients.

(A good online dating photographer will understand that you  might  get a little stressed out or nervous, about taking online dating profile pictures.

Shallow Depth of field

A good online dating photographer will understand “Shallow Depth of field”…now it amazes me at just how many professional photographers don’t get this concept (The  term “Shallow depth of field” for non-photographers this is where the subject (YOU) are  in sharp focus and the background is blurred.

Did you know that that this style of photography gets the best result when online dating?
(These are the kind of photos that we’ve been providing our customers with for years)

Never Force a smile

A good online dating photographer will NEVER force a smile! They will know that it’s never a good idea to force a smile out of a client. A forced smile isn’t genuine and nearly always looks fake and cheesy.

“The original photographer I used didn’t make me feel comfortable, she kept telling me to smile, when I’m not a smiling sort of person… I mean, I smile but not the “cheesy” grin that she wanted, I had a tooth repaired and I’m just not comfortable when forced to smile-and my photos showed it-I felt stupid when I saw them and never used the photos, they just sit on my laptop and every time I see them I groan”

“John,” 46, San Diego

Not All photographers are created equal

Don’t forget…all dating photographers are NOT created equal! (LookBetterOnline.com only hires 1 in 60 people who apply for a position)

Think About This too!

Before you get a date you need to attract someone special!
Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, we all look at the photos first! so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The Biology of love

I came across this TED talk about love.
Here’s some science about people who are in love. by Dr Helen Fischer
Anthropologist Helen Fisher studies gender differences and the evolution of human emotions. She’s best known as an expert on romantic love, and her beautifully penned books — including Anatomy of Love and Why We Love — lay bare the mysteries of our most treasured emotion.
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Interview with a Top Maryland Photographer (& Washington DC area)

Meet Ann

I’m Soooooo Grateful that Ann’s on the LookBetterOnline team! I realize this when I look at Ann’s photos-whether they are the candid dating profile photos that she offers LookBetterOnline customers or her family photos that capture the beauty of a family moment.

Highly skilled & experienced

Ann’s definitely a top Maryland photographer…she’s had a camera in her hand since she was 15. As a professional freelancer for over 35 years, photography has been her way of expression and creativity, and has always been her passion. Ann enjoy’s the challenge that each job brings and finds the “creative connection” with each person. In Ann’s words

“With candid portraits, I have fun reaching in and pulling out your personality through my work.  In the end, everyone has had a good time.”

3 Questions for Ann

To give you a better sense of who Ann is, I recently asked her 3 questions about photography…here are her replies:

Giles (LookBetterOnline.com) What do you love about portrait photography?
Ann:
I learned early on that photography was a passion of mine. I’ve had a knack for relaxing people in photos ever since my teens.  I started photographing children, then my classmates for yearbook and on to families and events.  My first love will always be the intimacy of a portrait session. I think my calming personality relaxes my clients to allow themselves to open up to me and I find those sweet spots to capture.  Not sure what it is, but they feel I “get” them and I am able to express that in my work.  Anyone who starts out with “no one ever gets a good photo of me” comes away with the biggest smile when they see how I have captured them.  Their inner self comes out in my photos. Maybe its the angle or just catching the smile or look at the right time, but my clients can finally say “wow, I can look good in a photo”. Knowing I have created images that will help their self-esteem to use in work, on a dating site or sharing with a loved one, feels great to me.

Giles (LookBetterOnline.com) Can you share something about yourself that most people don’t know about you to our customers?
Ann: I’ve been a “people person” ever since childhood,  being the “welcome wagon” of the neighborhood. Having a very social personality has lend itself to a career in photography. Once I found my niche with my camera, I realized I could capture so many special moments and bring smiles to so many people with these images. Be it at a party, my daughters being silly with their friends, or a simple gathering of my own best buds, my photos stand out because I know when to wait for the right shot.  Photography for me is not simply a job, but an extension of my personality.  I love my photos so much that when I run into clients from years past, I can chat with them about specific photos, what they were wearing, doing etc. They are always in awe that I remember them, but that’s me, a “photographic memory” of special times.

Giles (LookBetterOnline.com) Any Advice and/or tips to a prospective customer?
Ann:
When getting ready for a photo shoot, think about those outfits that people have commented on in the past, as in “that look’s great on you”, “when you wear ___ color it really brings your eyes out”.  Have these clothes in mind when having your photo shoot. If you do an “on location” photo shoot, pick a time with the photographer where there will be less people around.  Having you relaxed is key and people mingling about probably won’t bring that out in you.  I find the key to good photos is the mental attitude.  When we chat during the session I sometimes have you think about what your goal is in these photos. Picturing yourself with the man/woman of your dreams and suddenly, the smiles and twinkles I get in the eyes shows through in the photos. Just remember, you can have a room with 5 different photographers, but it’s the one who can choose the right time and pose to make a difference in how you look.  Treat yourself to letting the wonderful you shine through in a professional photo shoot and leave the cell phone photos to Facebook.

Amazing results: What Ann’s customers are saying

They say the proof is in the results…Here’s what Ann’s customers have to say!

When I first joined Match, the photos I included in my profile were those that others had randomly taken of me on outings using a cell phone. I received a fair amount of views and winks. I am not photogenic at all and decided to have Ann take a few pictures. Wow, what a difference! Ann makes you feel so comfortable that you can relax and enjoy the process and the end result are professional but totally natural looking photographs. I have been on Match for about six months now and just had her take new photos for the fall. A small tweak in my profile along with brand new pictures and my responses have doubled. I highly recommend her services.-ADELE

After posting the new pictures on my profile, everything changed. I actually had women who had seen my profile before reach out to me and comment on how much better the photos were, and the responses to me emails were much more positive. I met my current girlfriend on Match.com using my profile with Ann’s pictures, and I know that at 50, I finally met the woman of my dreams. I KNOW that this would not have been possible without the new and improved photos that Ann provided. I whole-heartedly recommend letting Ann provide your profile pictures, if you are serious about on-line dating.-PAUL

To Book a session with Ann simply CLICK HERE

 

Awful Statistics on Date Rape (And how to avoid it)

No Intention

I had no intention to even write this post , writing this blog post isn’t easy, or fun or what many people might want to read. I had originally wanted to write a guide for women about staying safe when online dating!

Shocking statistics

But the reason I’m writing this is because while researching for to write the LookBetterOnline dating tip Blog that I came across some statistics that really shocked me:

  • Approximately one in four college aged women is date raped or experiences an attempted date rape during her college years.
  • Eighty-four percent of women who have been date raped knew their attackers.
  • Women between the ages of 16-24 are four times more likely to be date raped than any other age group.
  • Approximately 90% of date rapes happen with alcohol involved.

These statistics really got my attention! And made me angry to just read them, so here’s some practical advice to avoid date rape, and please pass this on to your friends who have daughters…if 1 woman can avoid this scenario then I will have fulfilled the purpose of writing this post.

Simple Tips to avoid date rape

Use good judgment and always meet initial dates in public, don’t allow anyone to come to your home immediately and don’t be pressured into inviting an individual into your home, even it’s for having a glass of water or using the bathroom.

Don’t get in a strange man’s car

Make your own travel arrangements when going to a date (If you have no transportation, call a cab rather than getting in a strange man’s car)…I know this sounds such simple advice.

Let a friend know

Always let a friend or family member know that you’re going on a date and where you’re going.

Trust your gut

Never be afraid to leave an uncomfortable environment. If your instincts are warning you to be afraid of a person or a situation, leave immediately…trust your gut. (Any decent man will understand and support you for doing this)

If You decide to drink…

If you decide to drink alcohol then don’t leave your drink unattended. If you think someone put something in your drink then find somewhere safe to go, call a friend to come and pick you up and go to the hospital and if this isn’t an option then call the police…

The bottom line is to know that alcohol impairs our judgment. The more you drink the more you are at risk. Keep yourself to a 1-2 drink limit, avoid secluded places and be aware of your own personal safety especially when with acquaintances and strangers.

Last thoughts and please share

NEVER feel obligated to kiss anyone simply because they paid for drinks or dinner. NEVER be obligated to engage in sexual activity with anyone who you don’t want to and never forget that NO means NO.

Please share this article if you know someone who’s at risk…

Spotlight on Top San Francisco photographer

Meet Alessandro

I realize this when I look at Alessandro’s photos-whether they are the candid dating profile photos that he offers LookBetterOnline customers or his masterful “From the sky” aerial photos that capture the beauty of nature.

Highly skilled & experienced

A professional photographer for over 20 years, Alessandro’s photography career actually started at the tender age of 19. He was in his native home of Sardinia (the famous island off the coast of Italy).  Moved to Milan when his work was noticed by famed modeling agency, Riccardo Gay. Alessandro worked for them for four years fine-tuning his craft – specializing in fashion photography and portraits – before taking his talent on the road. In the ensuing years, his work has taken him to London, Buenos Aires and New York to work with freelance commercial advertising, companies.

It was during his time in New York that Alessandro paid his first visit to San Francisco and one visit was all it took to fall in love with the city. He found the famed city to be more relaxed, international in atmosphere, and open-minded. Three weeks after returning to New York, he came back to San Francisco to stay.

What Alessandro’s customers are saying

“Alessandro is personable, skillful and delightful. He knows his business. He created a relaxing session. He had high quality equipment that was appropriate for the shoot. The proof is in the pudding. The photographs are excellent.”- STEVEN

 “Alessandro is professional, talented, and easy to work with. The last thing in the world that I wanted to do was have my photo taken, but Alessandro made the experience virtually pain free. I would highly recommend him.”-LEONARD

“Alessandro is a great photographer. He makes you feel very comfortable during the session and his pictures were amazing and natural. I highly recommend him.” FRANCIS

Think about this!

Having great online dating profile photos (Taken in a specific way) is the most important thing you can do when dating online, To Book a session with Alessandro simply CLICK HERE