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How to enjoy a date (Even if there’s no Chemistry)

A Question

I have the answer to a question that I bet you’ve asked yourself when online dating!…First, Here’s the question:

“What do I do when I meet someone on a first date and find that there’s ZERO chemistry?

A couple of years ago

I was dating, I had great photos, a good profile and was dating people each week. I met a nice woman and after talking on the phone we decided to go on a “First date.”

I’m waiting outside the Hotel Valencia, in La Jolla, California.(I’d planned that we’d have a nice glass of wine, watch the sunset in the ocean and get to know each other) I’d checked the sunset times, arrived early so that I could relax and dressed sharp.

My date arrives and she’s clearly 100lbs heavier (Literally) than she looked in her photos! Now I’ve nothing against people who are larger…I love curves in a woman I’m just not attracted to her body type so there’s no chemistry!

So what are my options at this point:

Option 1: I can be upset and leave
Option 2: I can be polite and quietly disappointed
Option 3: I can choose to be happy, have no expectations of the evening and focus on the positive.

Most people I’ve spoken with go for Option 2, it’s easier, no one want’s to confront their date, so most people suffer in silence and go home feeling disappointed and frustrated.

Before joining LookBetterOnline I had the benefit of talking with good friends of mine, The Clarks (Dating experts on the Dr. Drew TV show.)

They told me “Get great photos , forget the pressure of dating, meet people you feel would be a good match and have zero expectations on dating- You’ll be relaxed and you’ll enjoy the process of dating until you find that someone special”.

Back to the story of zero chemistry.

I ordering a glass of Champagne watched the sunset in the ocean, remained focused on the positive and found that she was really passionate about her job, had great values and made me laugh. We enjoyed our time and when it came to the end of the evening I told her truthfully and with compassion “While I don’t feel a spark I enjoyed our evening and I hope you’ll find someone special” We hugged, (in a genuine way) there was no uncomfortable silence and I came home feeling like I’d had a good time, no disappointment or frustration.

Dating without expectations allowed me to enjoy dating until I found the girl of my dreams!

It IS possible

I KNOW it’s possible to find love online…I met the girl of my dreams online…yet I so nearly missed her because she had average unremarkable photos, I even deleted her emails! And it wasn’t until she posted great photos that I even noticed her!

Some Good Advice

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