For many people times are tough!
Today’s post is kindly written by my friend Dave…if you are feeling the downturn, have lost your job, or house or just haven’t the money you used to then I hope in some small way that reading it will help you.
Dating On a Budget
Many men think that having money, power and influence are the most important attributes we need to attract and hold onto that special member of the opposite sex. While I can honestly say that those things contribute to our overall sex appeal, they are not, in and of themselves, the most important ones for a lasting relationship, or for starting one you want to pursue. First, you should know that I have occupied both ends of the “money, power and influence” scale. I know exactly what it feels like to live on both ends and the impact that living on either end has on the opposite sex.
I can tell you without blanching that being attentive, supportive, a good listener and being romantic are far and away more important than being rich, powerful and influential alone. That said, it certainly wouldn’t hurt your cause to be attentive, supportive, a good listener and romantic and rich and powerful, but let’s not go there today. What we want to discuss is just how important those alleged “lesser” attributes count, and in particular how they apply to the rituals of dating and how you can successfully date on a budget.
The first thing you want to get out of your head
The first thing you want to get out of your head is the idea of making yourself appear more rich, powerful or influential than you are. You’ll do this at your own risk. Such a charade is rife with pending failure. It’s a train wreck waiting to happen. Don’t do it. You can do this accidentally by trying too hard to “big time” her on that first date. Believe me it will show. You will embarrass yourself and her, too. So get it out of your head that you have to take her to the most expensive restaurant in town on that first date. Let those lesser attributes shine through and take her somewhere modest if that’s all you can afford. It will work to your advantage to be honest.
Find Somewhere Different and New – and Inexpensive to Take Her
Dating on a budget takes some planning and research. Start by going online and finding truly interesting or unusual places to go or eat in – that are not expensive. That’s a simple idea that you can leverage the hell out of. I’ve never met a woman yet that will turn down an invitation to eat in some unusual venue. Trust me. Women like new and different. The newer and more different the establishment is, the better. You can find such places in your geographical area on Google quite easily. They do not have to be expensive. They often are expensive, but we don’t need those to make a good impression; we’re clever and attentive and romantic.
If You Don’t’ Know How, Learn to Cook and Eat In
There’s not a better way in the world to impress your heart’s desire than to cook for her. I can’t tell you how valuable this attribute is. Mix “good
cook” with attentive, romantic and good listener and you’ve got the holy grail of valuable attributes right there ready to work for you. Cooking and eating in is the most inexpensive date there is. Learn to do this and you’ve learned a skill for life.
Imagine that you are very rich, powerful, influential and also extremely dull and unromantic and can’t cook. Get the idea now? So don’t be too discouraged that you can’t afford the most expensive places to eat. Focus on developing those other “lesser” attributes; the ones that count. Money can’t buy feminine interest. Well, it can – but that’s another issue altogether. That discussion would revolve around the idea of renting, not dating.
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