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Building A Relationship Online

When you begin a relationship with someone you’ve met offline, you can often have a pretty good idea of how things are going to develop.

The first stage

step1It usually starts with physical attraction. That could be a look across a crowded room, a double-take as you’re crossing the street, a sideways glance on the subway or any of the other million ways of making eye contact and hoping it leads to a conversation.

That’s the first stage.

Then there’s the getting-to-know-you stage: the first date, the second date, the weekend dates and eventually, the first all-night date. Those are the weeks and months when you try to figure out how much you like each other, whether you’d be prepared to make the sort of changes that every individual has to make when they become part of a couple, and whether you really do have a future as a pair. It’s a time of adjustment and doubt, but also of hope and expectation. And yes, often of disappointment too. That’s the second stage.

Finally, if all goes well, there’s the shift into permanent couplehood. This is the third, final and longest lasting stage of the relationship when you begin to see the future in terms of “us” and “we” instead of “I” and “me.” That’s the third stage.

A little different

Online, relationships develop a little differently.

First of all, love at first sight is even rarer online than it is offline. While it’s not impossible for you to feel a quick thrill when you spot a pic of a great-looking hottie who lives near you and meets your criteria, it’s not quite the same feeling as suddenly seeing a drop-dead gorgeous person standing next you on the bus or alongside you at the bar. You only get to see fireworks when you meet in the flesh.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Often the relationships that start with the biggest bang can burn themselves out pretty quickly. If online relationships tend to have cooler beginnings that only gives them the opportunity to warm up slowly and develop a heat that burns longest.

It also means you’re less likely to put all your eggs in one basket.

Hundreds of emails

When you spot someone truly fantastic on a dating sitea, your first thought is likely to be that that person must get hundreds of emails.

You’re probably right. They probably do. But that certainly shouldn’t stop you from writing as well. You’ve got nothing to lose except the few minutes it takes to scoot out a quick email—and a lifetime of happiness to gain.

But knowing that you’re certainly not the only person to have seen that profile—and written to the person behind it—will mean that you’re not going to rely on that one option in the same way that you might have done if you’d met them on the bus. What it will do though is free you up to send lots more emails out to lots of other people. If it’s considered bad form to hit on more than one person at a time offline, online it’s the best strategy for lining up successful dates. With less early passion, you don’t just get longer-lasting passion, you also get more chances at a life of passion.

Second stage

That first look and first email marks the end of the first stage of online dating. The second stage is online flirting. This isn’t quite the same as dating. Dating means going out, having fun, meeting in person and checking out the chemistry. Online flirting is nothing more than the quick flurry of short emails that lets you both get a slight feel for each other’s personalities.

Normal and compatible

For the most part, this stage is about not making any mistakes. You each want to make sure that you’re normal people with the kind of compatible social skills that lets you make a go of it. You want to be certain that your new pal—a new pen-pal at this stage—is capable of holding a conversation, shows curiosity about the kinds of things you put on your profile, is genuinely interested in the same things that you are and is capable of communicating. If someone sends you a series of giant emails stuffed with family photos, filled with their entire life history and laying out their opinion on everything from the state of Africa to the sex life of Zebras before you even get a chance to reply to their first effort, then you might think they’re a bit weird.

Similarly, if they take a month to send a reply to your “I’m fine, thanks for writing. How are you?” it’s a fair bet that they’re going to be too flaky to build a reliable relationship.

Once you’ve both decided that you can each write a normal email as well as create an inviting profile, you can then begin to move the relationship offline.

Think About This!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Online dating tips: How to write a first message that gets results (Part 3)

Writing a first email to someone with an interesting profile is dead easy (To see Part 1 of this article CLICK HERE To see Part 2 of this article CLICK HERE)

Long boring emails

Three-word emails cluttering up your inbox might be infuriating, but at least they don’t take long to read. If they’re not the kind of thing that’s likely to get you writing back, you can give them a quick glance and knock them straight out of your inbox.

Emails that seem to last forever are a whole different game. They take ages to read. They contain all sorts of uninteresting information and they describe every little detail of the writer’s life from their love of overripe cheese to how they supercharged their car using nothing more than empty toilet rolls and spit—complete with blueprints, sketches and diagrams

What you’ll rarely find in emails like these is any sign of you. They’ll be all about the writer—and about all of the writer—and pretty much ignore you and your interests.

If an email like that sounds dull to read, just imagine how the date would be.

For two hours, you can expect nothing more than a monotonous monologue that demands that you pay your full attention… and get just about nothing in return.

Of course, if you have the time to read emails that are the length of a short book—and you don’t mind doing it—then you can still look at the profile and see if you think the face outweighs the risk of being bored. They’ve got to be pretty good-looking though to make it worth your while. Long, boring first emails do show that your possible partner-to-be is interested—but mostly in themselves.

If you have a good enough profile, with great pictures and a well-written description, there’s a good chance that you still won’t have enough time to write back to everyone who drops you a line. Many dating sites allow you send automated messages to anyone who writes to you. If you see that you’re getting far too many emails to answer, make sure that everyone who writes gets an automated message back saying that you’re away from the site for a few days but you’ll answer as soon as you can.

Sure, it’s not exactly the truth. But it’s a lot better than saying “You’re one of hundreds who have written to me. If I think you’re attractive enough, I’ll drop you a line. If you don’t hear from me, don’t feel bad.”

The chances are, if you don’t write back in a few days they’ll already have moved on and will assume that you have too. In the meantime, you’ll have kept your options open without actually handing out a rejection that you might later regret.

How you choose who to wrote to will depend of course on what you’re looking for. In general though, you can expect to cut out people who use canned emails, who ask for personal information and who don’t seem to want to spend the time to develop even a short online relationship before taking it out to the real world

Off the Internet, we often find ourselves slapping our foreheads as we make our lonely way home from bars and parties thinking, ‘Why didn’t I say that?!” or “Why didn’t I make my move when I had the chance?”

On the Web, you’ve got the time to think of the right thing to say. You’ve got models you can use to create the kind of approaches that invite responses and get relationships rolling.

But it doesn’t matter how great your first email. It doesn’t matter whether you ask a perfect question that the person you’re writing to will barely be able to resist answering or whether you capture their attention with a truly original letter

The first thing someone’s going to do when they get your email is check your profile.

The fact is, in the end, everything comes down to the profile. If your picture still isn’t professional, if your descriptions are dull, colorless and un-enticing, then it’s still pretty unlikely that you’re going to get a response no matter what you write in the letter.

Your profile is always the most important part of the online dating process…

Online dating tips: How to write a first message that gets results (Part 2)

Writing a first email to someone with an interesting profile is dead easy. Follow either of the models we’ve supplied in our last article CLICK HERE, back it up with a well-written profile with an excellent picture, and you should get a positive response.

A few things you should NEVER say!

There are a few things that you should never say in a first email though.

First of all, never ask for personal details in a first email. That will automatically raise a red flag and toss you out of the game. You wouldn’t expect to walk up to someone in a bar and get a phone number right at the start of a conversation—and you won’t get it right at the beginning of an email conversation either.

At some point, when you’re both feeling comfortable, when you’ve sounded each other out and decided that you have enough in common to make meeting up worth the time, you can exchange details or at the very least arrange to meet in public.

But that kind of trust takes a little bit of time to develop. It certainly won’t come with your first email

Similarly, you shouldn’t ask for a date in your first email.

Your goal

The goal of your first message is simply to make contact, to persuade someone to look at your profile and write back with questions of their own. It’s a chance to get a feel for each other’s personality, to begin to see how compatible you are and to decide if you want to meet in the flesh and check out the chemistry. That doesn’t usually require a huge amount of time. A handful of emails zipping back and forth is often enough for you to figure out whether you find each other interesting enough to take it further. Ask for a date right at the beginning though and the answer is most likely to be a big fat no

Chat up lines

And finally, steer clear of corny chat-up lines.

Chat-up lines tend to have pretty limited success offline. Online they’re completely unnecessary. One of the biggest advantages of dating across the Web is that you get the time to think up something smart and witty to say. You don’t need to churn out some old cliché quick before your intended target leaves.

Online, chat-up lines just make you look a bit sleazy. Actually, they pretty much do the same offline too.

How To Reply When You’re In Demand

When you have a great profile with a professional picture and solid, original descriptions, there’s a good chance that you’re going to get a lot of emails. In fact, it’s not uncommon to find that your inbox picks up several hundred emails in the first few days.

That’s a good response and it gives you wide range of possible dates to choose from. The chances that not one of the emails that you receive is a good prospect to get to know a little better is pretty small. (And if you can’t find anyone out of several hundred applicants, it’s more likely that your criteria are too strict than that there’s no one on the site worth meeting.)

Obviously though, you won’t be able to write back to everyone so you’ll have to make selection. Not everyone writes a perfect first email, just as very few people produce the kind of outstanding profiles they really need to get results.  Many, if not most, of the emails you receive will say far more about the person doing the writing than the writer

More tips

Get more tips in our next post How to write a first message that gets results (Part 3)

Think About This!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Online dating tips: How to write a first message that gets results (Part 1)

A properly-prepared profile will attract emails. It will persuade passing singles to drop you a line and it will give you the chance to pick the best of the bunch and choose the people you want to meet for a date.

But successful online daters don’t just wait for emails to come in. They also use their dating site membership to look for partners themselves. They plough through the profiles, take their pick and send out well-written messages that get responses.

How To Write A First message That Gets Results

Online dating has the great advantage of making your first approach easy. Offline, there’s nothing harder, nothing more nerve-wracking, more difficult or more downright embarrassing than walking up to a complete stranger, letting them know that you find them attractive and trying to strike up that initial conversation.

“It takes the nerves of a lion to cross the room—and skin as thick as a hippo’s to cope with the rejection”.

With online dating though, you don’t have to worry that the person who caught your eye will take one look at you and burst out laughing. There’s no scrabbling around for a way to save face, and no long walk back to face your friends. You don’t even need a chat-up line.

A Quick message

You just need a quick messagel—one short paragraph is plenty—that says “I’m interested. Let’s talk.” As long as that email gets you a reply, it’s done its job.

And the way to ensure that your message does its job is to make sure that it contains a combination of introduction, flattery and interrogation.

What To Say, What To Ask And What Not To Do During Your First Contact

If you meet someone attractive at a party, your first instinct is usually to introduce yourself. You want to walk over, say “Hi, I’m…” and find some way to keep the conversation rolling.

Online, that’s not such a great strategy.

One of the differences between the first approach you have to make in a bar or at a party and the first message you send to someone whose profile you’ve seen on the Web, is that online, the person you’re talking to already knows a little about you.

Remember, you also have a profile on the dating site and the first thing someone does when they get your email is to look at it. They’re going to know what you do for a living, where you live, how much of an education you have and even what kind of movies you like to watch.

That’s the sort of personal information that might take a date or two to discover offline. It would certainly take a conversation or two.

Don’t repeat

That means you don’t have to repeat it in your first email.

Your first email shouldn’t be considered an introduction. Instead, think of it as an invitation: an invitation to continue chatting, to get to know you, to see whether you have enough compatibility to take it further

You want to create the impression that you’re a fun, interesting person—who’s also genuinely interested in the person you’re writing to.


What Attracted you

That’s why it’s crucial to mention what attracted you on the profile.

It lets the reader know that you want to get to know that person in particular, not just someone in general. Far too many people on dating sites send out the same email to everyone they spot on the Web—and it’s a terrible idea. Canned responses can be spotted a mile away and they’re about as attractive as someone who walks through a party hitting on just about everyone they see.

Let someone know why you’re writing and you’ll increase the chances that they’ll write back.

Opening Email—Type 1: All About You

”Hi,
I saw your profile and just had to write. I love the way you look in your pictures. That’s a great, warm smile and your kids are really cute. The dog’s smile’s a bit strange though; I don’t think saying “cheese” works with dogs. I teach math in a high school just outside Ventura and I’m also into SCUBA diving. I’d love to know more about you. If you’d like to drop me a line, that would be great.
Best,
Bobbie”

That’s a dead easy email that won’t take you more than a minute to write.

It’s short, and you don’t want your email to be long. No one will want to read a huge message sent by someone they don’t yet know, and emails that go on for page after page just appear scary. They make you look far too intense and demanding for a first approach. When you’re trying to attract someone’s attention for the first time, less is more.

But this email is also a little bit flattering. It starts by explaining why you’re writing (because you saw their picture and were captivated), and then picks out a couple of points in the profile that caught your eye. That shows not just that you read the profile; it also lets you point out that you have something in common.

 Humor

And finally, it includes a touch of humor.

That’s important because you don’t want you first email too look too serious or formal. Dating is supposed to be fun. You’re not writing a cover letter for a job application. Your letter should reflect something of your personality and the way you talk.

Just relax, try not to worry about the format of the email and let the real you flow out.

To write an email like this, all you need is a reason for writing (and if you don’t want to focus on the photo, you can always pick out their taste in music, their occupation or just about anything else on the profile) and one or two things that you can hold a conversation about. That could be family life, sporting choice or anything else.

The biggest strength of emails like this is that they already emphasize that you can do things together and have fun together. On the other hand they don’t force the reader to respond. If the person you’re writing to looks at your profile and is less than curious, impressed or blown away, there’s still a chance that they won’t write back.

 

Opening Email—Type 2: Who Are You?

”Hi,
My name is Bobbie, and after seeing your picture, I just had to write. I know what you mean about diving letting you feel like you’re flying. Kind of strange, huh? You go underwater with a big heavy tank and as soon as you’re down there you’re completely weightless. It’s total freedom. I love it. I have some favorite spots out near the islands where you can get right into the kelp and watch the dolphins. Where do you like to dive, and how do you find the time between kids and school? I find I rarely have time to breathe! Write back, and tell me about yourself!
Best,
Bobbi”

This kind of email makes one important addition to the previous one: it asks questions.

Again, you can begin by introducing yourself, explain why you’re writing and pick out one or two points on the profile. But by asking questions about those points, you turn the email into a conversation. You make it easy for the person to write back—instead of having to think of something to say, they can start by answering your questions—and you even make it rude for them not to.

The easiest types of question to ask are those that refer back to the profile. If someone wrote that they like walking on redwood trails, you can ask them where else they like to go hiking. If they say they like visiting the Met, you can ask which is their favorite section. If they say they like photography, you can ask what they take pictures of.

You know that what you’re asking about is a subject that they enjoy so if you can show that you can hold a conversation about it, you’re already onto a winner. It’s a good sign that when you meet in person you’re going to be able to talk in comfort.

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

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Dating tips for the over 40’s: The Right Time To Move Things Offline

If online dating has a disadvantage, it’s that it takes much longer to go from first look to first date. Sure, that disadvantage is certainly outweighed by the fact there are so many people to choose from. It’s also outweighed by the fact that when you do meet, you’ll also know a little bit about them.

A time

But there’s always a time-lag between spotting someone’s profile photo, sending them an email, getting a feel for each others’ potential compatibility and meeting in the flesh for the first time.

It’s always tempting when you see someone who looks good on a dating site to meet them as quickly as possible. If you wait, you feel, there’s always a chance that someone else might snap them up before you get a chance to seal the deal.

And besides, when you’ve spotted someone who looks like they could be a huge amount of fun, you want to start having that fun right now.

….It still pays to wait a little (Please Wait).

If you’re over 40 When you ask to meet someone in the flesh too quickly you first run the risk of scaring your new friend off. (younger people these days don’t seem so scared!) They might feel that they want to check you out a little more. They want to get to know who are, make sure you’re honest, reliable—and really the person it says on your profile. If you come on too strong, you could send the message that you’re too keen, too entranced, or worse, too desperate. Nothing kills a potential new relationship faster than that.

Third Message?

There are no hard and fast rules about how long you should wait before working towards for the date but in general, the third message is often a good time. By then you’ll have already asked the first questions that were at the top of your mind, you’ll have figured out whether the person you’re writing to is impressed by the way you look on your profile and you’ll have a fairly good idea about the level of your compatibility.

Chemistry

By the time you reach that stage, the only way to check whether there’s any real chemistry is to meet in the flesh.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you can’t even mention a real date before the third message. You certainly can, and some people will find it reassuring to know that you’re serious about making a real go of a new relationship and won’t be satisfied by keeping it virtual. It is possible to hint at the date in the first email as long as you don’t push it too hard. You can say something like:

Hi
I just have to say that that’s a great picture of you on the beach — and a very cute dog. I’m a 31-year old teacher living just outside San Diego, and like you, I’m into horror flicks, Thai food and hiking. (Although I can probably skip the mountain climbing — it’s hard enough climbing out of bed in the morning.) Where do you like to hike? I’ve found a great route near the coast that runs alongside a couple of streams with fantastic views out to the sea. My dog certainly likes it…
You look like a great person and I’m sure you’d be a lot of fun to meet.
Jane

That shows that you’re genuinely interested

The alternative

The aternative to asking for a date too soon is to leave it too long. That can be just as bad, and sometimes even worse. Not only because the longer you leave it, the greater the odds that you’ll lose your chance, but also because you want to go into the first date vaguely familiar with the person you’re about to meet but still curious enough to have a string of questions.

Nothing to say

You don’t want to arrive at the first date and find that you’ve got nothing to say to each other because you’ve already said it all in the emails.

And you also don’t want to go with a giant bank of expectations.

The longer your email conversation and the more you enjoy reading and writing your messages, the greater the chance that you’ll absolutely believe that you’re going to hit it off right from the get-go. That’s certainly possible. It’s even likely. But it’s not guaranteed.

Virtual vs Real

Unfortunately, there’s not always a direct link between the warmth of a virtual relationship and the heat generated at the start of a real one. Three emails and out is a pretty good rule, but the best rules are made to be broken and ultimately the best time to move from a Web meeting to a real meeting is when you feel ready so trust your gut on this one.

If the question feels awkward to ask, there’s probably a good reason: you ain’t there yet. Keep chatting, keep writing and keep going until the real relationship develops…

 

Dating online? Regardless of your age, an important thing you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Dating Profile Photo Secret from Top Californian Photographer

Today I want to Spotlight one of our talented dating profile photographers

Meet Stuart

Stuart is an internationally renowned Southern California photographer who found his calling when he was 17. Since then for 35 years, he has photographed literally thousands of people…

An impressive resume

And Stuart’s resume is impressive…He’s a Graduate of UCI BA in photography, Is a past President of Professional Photographers of Orange County and  has learned with the best. Dean Collins, Monte Zucker and Ken Marcus to name a few of the photography masters of this century
As you can imagine Stuart loves both people and photography and his down-to-earth character makes everyone he photographs feel completely at ease…

On Location OR Studio

Southern California offers some great settings… When I asked Stuart about his favorite locations he told me about some of the amazing beach and ocean front settings that he has available…these settings can’t help make anyone look like a million dollars, and get you the dating profile photos that get results.

Stuart also has a studio located in Newport Blvd. It is cozy and fully equipped with a make-up area, lights and a dressing room.

Stuart has been featured in Eye on L.A., Two on a Town, Hour Magazine, The Love Report with Fredrick , People are Talking (CBS), People Magazine, The Wall St. Journal, The London Sunday Times and Der Spiegel among others.

Photo Secret

When speaking with Stuart on the telephone today I asked him to share something with me that would help people get great photos and here’s what he had to say.

So here’s the dating profile Secret…….it’s so simple it crazy!

“The night before you take your dating profile photos don’t forget to get a Good night’s sleep!” 

Good practical common sense if you ask me (And Why is common sense not common?)

Fail to do!

99% of people fail to do this….

They spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars on buying the right clothes (And for women hundreds more on getting their hair just right) and then they forget to get a decent night’s sleep!

…Then when they see their photos they are aware that they need more sleep…think bags under tired eyes!

Get a good night’s sleep the night before, drink plenty of water to Hydrate and I guarantee you’ll look better in your photos…and as we all know Better photos mean Better Dates!

To book your own photo-session with Stuart go to:
http://www2.lookbetteronline.com/Photographer_Costa-Mesa_4490_92024.html

Facts You DONT WANT to know when dating (But need to know)

Imagine

Imagine walking into a room full of friendly people, there’s a great crowd, everyone’s smiling and you feel like this is a great place to find that someone special and start dating…

Now imagine that for each 3 people that 1 of them has a disease that could harm you.

While that might seem like an extreme situation According to US government Center for disease control….110 million people in the USA have an STD…

110,000,000….A number to blow your mind

If this number still hasn’t sunk in yet..imagine EVERYONE living is California, Texas, Florida, New York and Pennsylvania all having an STD….Does that put things in perspective for you! For me this number blows my mind just thinking about it!

This is a Fact You DONT WANT to know when dating (But need to know)

What you do as a result of knowing this information is a personal decision! I think anyone with a little common sense will think about this number? How will it affect the way you date? Whats the smart way to date? PLEASE if you have ANY feedback then leave me a comment at the end of this article!

One way of dealing with this information is to get tested yourself prior to dating and prior to having any intimate relations with anyone to see if they were tested! I know that this is the least romantic subject ever discussed, but sometimes we need to think smart and balance heart and head. You could ask that someone special discreetly to go to their doctor and get checked OR there’s another option…

Meet MateSafe

In response to these staggering figures comes a new business called “MateSafe” In their own words here’s how they describe themselves:

“MateSafe allows users to establish a Medically Verified Online Health Credential that they can control and share across various Dating and Technology platforms”

The concept

You Join Matesafe, get STD tested and can provide dates with this information that  you shows a level of personal responsibility that attracts others, and demands a higher level of safety. With a variety of safety measures, potential dates will feel confident that they chose someone who truly MatesSafe.

m8safe 001Click on the image below to see a MateSafe Video
m8safe youtube

To learn about Matesafe click HERE

Also think about this!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

GlutenFreeSingles.com Great news for 3,000,000 Online Daters who are Gluten intolerant!

According to the University of Chicago’s “Celiac Disease Center” 3 million people in the USA alone are Gluten intolerant or “Celiac”.

In Perspective

Now let’s put this number into perspective…

The number of people with celiac disease in the U.S. is roughly equal to the number of people living in the state of Nevada.

People who have Celiac disease cannot tolerate gluten, and even the smallest exposure to Gluten makes them sick.

So what’s this got to do with Dating? I hear you ask yourself.

Imagine

Well imagine having to do be aware of your intolerance to Gluten while dating, Imagine that first date proving to be a real challenge as you try to explain in that romantic moment how sick you’ll get if the restaurant isn’t super careful with your meal

Imagine getting sick after that first kiss…and you realize your date’s drunk beer. (Gluten can be found in a number of less obvious foods — things like pickles, candy and even meat) …Perhaps now you’ll get a picture of what many Celiac’s suffer.

Be mindful of that first kiss

What would you do if I told you there could be no kissing unless you brushed your teeth, flossed, and then rinsed with mouthwash?

GlutenFreeSingles.com started when two health conscious friends, one with Celiac disease and the other gluten-intolerance recognized the need for a gluten-free dating community that focused on singles with similar dietary needs. By creating GlutenFreeSingles.com they’ll help
the 3 million people who have Celiac disease and those who are gluten intolerant find valuable information, self-improvement, and long fulfilling gluten-free relationships.

“Being diagnosed with Celiac disease myself, I know that there can be a host of embarrassing situations that arise when dealing with special dietary needs on a date – especially when you are meeting someone new and going out to restaurants often. GlutenFreeSingles is a unique place where you can socialize and find gluten-free dating partners – or friends who share the same health goals,” said Marcella Romaya, co-founder GlutenFreeSingles

GlutenfreeSingles’ website also says that their goal is to create a community where users, “never have to feel alone, awkward, or a burden because you are gluten-free.”

Media comments

As this Dating website emerges and gets media Exposure I’ve heard journalists say that

“It remains questionable whether one’s dietary preferences or requirements are a useful basis for finding a romantic partner”.

Yet after looking online at the many Forums and groups for Celiacs to join…when I looked at the conversations around dating I saw that for many people who are Gluten intolerant that dating could be a nightmare and I couldn’t help but think that these words were written by someone who’d never suffered from Celiac Disease. I think that if I was Gluten intolerant that I’d sign up

Dating online? Regardless of your age, an important thing you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

How to overcome dating rejection and rebuild your self-esteem.

99.9% of people who date online will at some point feel rejection. Perhaps it’s an unanswered email, or you have a wonderful first date and then never hear from the person again, or perhaps you have a few dates and the person decides that you’re simply not a good match for them

For most people this really hurts! And many people are left miserable with a feeling of lower self-esteem, questioning whether that are smart, or rich or beautiful or good enough to find someone special!

“There must be something wrong with me” they often say.

The answer to overcome dating rejection is actually quite simple! After rejection you need to rebuild your self-esteem! OK let’s get started

Step 1: Make a list

Make a list of 50 qualities you have that are important in a partner such as being loving, kind, considerate, a great lover, a great friend, a great sense of humor…now this may take a while but don’t stop until you have at least 50 good things about you

Step 2: Do something you love

Take a day off and do something that you  love. Whether its golfing for a day, watching movies while eating Ice-cream or going skydiving take some time to treat yourself to show yourself that you’re worthy of some good times

Step 3: Change the way you think!

Change the way you think of the dating process! Meeting someone special can take a while so remember there’s nothing wrong with you! If you go into dating with the belief that you’ll meet people who don’t think you’re a match and meet people you don’t think are a match before you meet your “someone special” then  dating can be way more fun.

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

Stand out from the crowd! The Perfect dating profile part 3

What You Should Never Put On A Profile

All of the things that we’ve recommended for you to put on your profile in this chapter are things that you like to do. If you enjoy hiking, say you like hiking and say where you like to do it. If you like reading, say you like reading and put a word or two about the last book you read. If you’re into cooking, say you spent a lot of time in the kitchen and mention which type of cuisine gets your taste buds flowing.

But don’t say what you don’t like to do.

Your dating site profile should always be positive. It should show that you’re a happy, contented person who wants to be even happier and more contented, not a sad, lonely person who wants someone to cheer them up. Nothing puts people off more than the whiff of desperation. No one wants to be a cheerleader for a losing side; they want to be part of the winning team.

Stick to the great things

online dating profile tips and great dating photos 004It doesn’t matter how keen you are to find a partner, how many times you’ve been burnt in the past or how much you know what you don’t want, stick to the great things you have and the even greater things you want to have.

Saying on your profile that you’ve just come out of a difficult divorce or that you don’t want someone who plays head games for example, will do nothing but put people off writing. It simply declares that you’re carrying giant, heavy trunks of baggage and anyone who dates you is going to be in for a rough ride.

A happy life

Your profile should read like an advert for a happy life. It should look like a real estate ad that lets readers imagine how happy they’ll be if they dating advicecan just get past the admissions committee and win a chance to live with you. Of course, no one really believes that what they see in the ad is going to be completely perfect in real life. Every property has dust in the attic or cobwebs in the corner but no realtor puts that in the brochure.

Your profile should sell the joys of a life with you. You can then choose which person actually gets the sale. By the time your new partner finds the cobwebs and the dust, they’ll already be sold enough to look beyond it. So keep the negatives out and accentuate the positive.

We said that the idea of your profile is always to get as many prospects as possible but that doesn’t mean you want timewasters. If you’re looking for a serious relationship with someone, you don’t want your inbox bothered by people looking for quick flings. The best way to keep out the people you don’t want to meet—without putting up a sign that’s also going to put people off that you might want to meet—is to simply keep all references to sex off the profile.

 Your online name

That includes the name you choose as your online identity.

One of the biggest mistakes that you can make when dating online is to choose a tag that reveals your real name—or to choose a name that puts across the wrong message.

Names like SexyAngel, Hot4U or Randyandy can say far more than you intended.

It’s much better to create a bland name with a string of strange numbers than to try to attract passing singles with a tag that says more than you want. If you think your name is creating the wrong impression, it’s worth making the effort to change it. Unless you’re looking just for sex, never refer to sex on your profile.

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

13Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!