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3 Dating tips if you’re over 60!

A death of a spouse or divorces have left many baby boomers single as they head toward their senior years.
If your over fifty, are still full of life and want to spend your remaining years with someone to love, then what can you do?

3 Simple tips

Here’s 4 simple tips to remember when dating!

Tip 1: You’re never too old to look good

It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are going on a date , it is critical that you look your best on a date. Buy a new outfit for a date, get a new haircut and do whatever you need to do to look your very best!

Tip 2: Choose the right dating website

Ourtime.com or SeniorPeoplemeet.com are great websites to begin to meet people.
But remember things have changed since you were dating so remember that when it comes dating online, be careful before giving out your personal information to anyone you meet on the internet and always meet in a public space the first few times you see someone.

Tip 3: Have fun (And don’t worry too much about your adult children)

It’s your life and you deserve to enjoy it and have fun!valentines day dating advice 001
For many seniors with adult children the following scenario is a common one- You meet someone special online and then when you share that you’re finally dating your adult children don’t approve!
For many disapproving adult children regardless of how old they are they still feel that “you’re no longer with mom/dad”, and the thought of you in another relationship hurts them.
On a rational level your adult child may not say “I don’t want you dating,” but their behavior may reveal this!
The best medicine is to talk to them and tell them that you deserve to find love…and while
it’s tough to have this conversation is important to have…you deserve the opportunity to find love!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit www.LookBetterOnline.com and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

“Date the real person-Not the potential”

A couple of days ago while driving I switched the radio on and found a radio program that was just ending…

201109092029320393491It was all about women who were dating the wrong guys…the expert (Who I didn’t get to hear who she was!) Gave some really good advice to women listeners, she said.

“Date the real person-Not the potential”

This in my opinion the main reasons intelligent, attractive women remain stuck in a dead-end relationship

“OK” I hear you say… “But my date is different”- “He really does have potential, he just lost his job in a tough economy”!

Women…There’s a vast difference between a guy who’s lost his job and is doing all he can to get a new job AND a guy who has the potential to be a great match for you!

Successful daters-(Even if they find someone attractive) will dismiss a date who fails to meet their criteria for a happy relationship!

You’re not going to FIX him, and you shouldn’t even want to try!

Also think about this!

Online dating profile photos before and after (10)Having great online dating profile photos  (Taken in a specific way) Is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

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What To Put On A Dating Site Profile… And What To Leave Out

Important Tool

Your dating site profile is the most important tool you have to find love online—and fast. It’s the identity that you put forward to other online daters, it’s what people see when they’re looking for people like you and it’s all you’ve got to make a first impression and pull in the proposals.

No Exaggeration

It’s not an exaggeration to say that all that lies between you and the end of your single days is the skill with which you complete your profile.

The kind of information that you’ll be asked to reveal about yourself will vary from service to service. Dating sites put a huge amount of effort into coming up with the right questions to make matching easy without putting off new members. Some sites for example, will ask you to tick just a handful of boxes and write one short paragraph. Others will have section after section that grill you about your personality, your interests, your hopes and your history.

All sections

In general, it’s a good idea to complete all the sections of a dating site profile however many they may be. You don’t have to do it all in one sitting and you can certainly come back to fill in the gaps later, but as long as you have spaces in your profile that remain unfilled you can give the impression of looking evasive and less than completely serious.

The good news

dating adviceThe bulk of the profile won’t take long to complete. Even the most demanding sites don’t ask you to write more than three or four mini-compositions about yourself and your ideal date, and the majority of just about any dating site profile is always a series of checkboxes about your likes and dislikes.

Fill these sections in as accurately and as quickly as you can and move on. For the most part, online daters skip right past these parts of the profile. They look too much like shopping lists. Mostly they help the site’s matching engine far more than the dater looking for a match. The fact that someone likes jazz more than rock, or comedies more than documentaries, doesn’t really tell you whether they’re going to like you—or whether you’re going to like them.

Important

A few checkboxes though are important. When you come to tell the world the age range of the person you’re looking for, it’s important to be realistic. Many men in particular like to think that because there are so many women on the Internet, they can use it as a way to meet women half their age. That’s not impossible but at best it’s going to need a long wait and at worst, it’s going to be a complete waste of time.

All sorts

Internet dating can bring all sorts of people together. It can certainly match people up who are looking for something very specific—and even a little unusual. But when you begin looking for someone online, you want your profile to be as inclusive as possible. Once the emails come in, you can then start to focus on the most attractive responses. If you’d like to meet someone in their early twenties for example but would also be happy with someone in their mid-thirties then it’s best to choose a wide age range that casts a big net than focus on one particular group and change when you feel you’re not having any luck.

Age

When it comes to describing your own age range though, honesty is always the best policy. There’s always a temptation for people in their early-somethings to shave a few years off and slip back into an earlier decade. It happens a lot (and it’s a good reason to be suspicious of people who claim to be aged 29 or 38 etc.) But it’s just not worth it. At some point you will have to spill the beans and spilling them in front of someone you really want to impress is far worse than being honest to someone you haven’t met and might never meet. If the passing single really doesn’t want to date someone your age, it’s best not to meet them at all than date them and get the rejection face-to-face.

Find out more

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3 Tips for Finding someone special in 2014

If you’re reading this then I hope you’ll have your best year ever and find someone special.
Here’s 2 simple tips to get you started

1. Make love a priority without urgency.

We’ve all heard: “When the time is right the right you’ll meet the right person.” But “we’ve also been told to “Go out and make it happen”

I think a balance between these 2 points of view is a healthy balance.
Resolve to go out and meet people AND look online so that you have a better chance of finding love, and don’t force it…(forcing things is way too needy) the trick is to take action and spend time letting things unfold

And when you go on a first date don’t already start examining if you could spend the rest of your life with them. Don’t go there!…There is way less pressure just getting to know your date…learn more about a new person, not just fall in love with a romantic fantasy.

2. First impressions count.

Before you get a date you need to attract someone special! What kind of first impression do you make, whether online or in-person?
Online, having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, we all look at the photos first! so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!And your profile is well written- If your personal look could use some improvement, then do it whether it’s new clothes or hairstyle..

2. Confidence is key

Confidence is key! And I don’t mean cockiness…I mean the confidence to be authentic!
If you’re nervous about a first date then you might want to try some exercise an hour or two prior to getting ready and going out (Often being in your body will get you “Out” of your nervous mind)
And when it comes to talking- stay in the comfort zone by coming up with a few subjects that won’t get you into trouble (And AVOID at all costs Politics or Religion!…I know obvious eh!)
If you’re not sure what to talk about then  ask your date about their life, listen and go from there.
Also don’t forget there’s is a fine line between being confidence and cocky – nobody likes a cocky guy who is too cool, so keep it real

Ways to feel more confident:

Don’t slouch!
Take a couple of deep breaths and Stand or sit  tall! Pull your shoulders back  and pick your chin up No one looks confident if they are always looking down!

Slow down and take a breath
When you get nervous, your voice goes up and you’ll talk faster than you realize.  These are two dead giveaways for lack of confidence…so breathe deeply and relax…It’s not a race to impress her!

Seasons Greetings and an offer

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How to Avoid online dating scammers!

A lot of people

Millions of Americans use online dating sites to meet people, but “online dating scammers” also use these sites to meet “victims”. They make fake profiles to fool you into an online relationship with them, and eventually convince people to SEND MONEY in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money.

Not stupid

An online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist, and you don’t have to be stupid…often when we want to find love that we are more vulnerable than usual

Don’t be paranoid

OK so the purpose of this BLOG isn’t to make you paranoid or disillusioned! Despite the scammers online dating can still be a great way to meet someone special, but don’t forget to follow these 3 simple tips to make your experience safer.

1. Don’t give away personal information

Imagine meeting a stranger in a bar and he (or she) asks you for personal details, imagine him or her asking you for your Email, phone number or street address. Now you’d probably decline, yet online people often fail to see just how unsafe this is!

Your full identity

Remember that you don’t want to reveal your full identity until you can feel that you know the person a bit better– remain anonymous until you feel ready. Take advantage of most of the dating websites “member-to-member” messaging that protects you identity until you decide to reveal who you are
And also, leave any personal contact information out of your profile or username.

2. Never send Money.

Ignore ALL requests to send money-even if the person claims to be in an emergency. If someone asks for money it’s because they ARE a scammer…would you ask someone you met when online dating for money? Of course you wouldn’t-Yet thousands of people are scammed each year doing just this….DON”T send money for sick kids parents or ANYTHING!

3. Watch the language

Look closely at messages that people send you. The scammer will often send you an email which is full of bad grammar, for example.

“By the way I’m Green I am professional Doctor “…

OR

Hello, I go through you profile its look nice and lovely

Match.com also gives great advice…they say:

“Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or asks for personal information. There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you’re dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who”…

• Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service
• Claims to be from U.S. but currently travelling, living or working abroad
• Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name
• Talks about “destiny” or “fate”
• Claims to be recently widowed
• Asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts
• Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors
• Sends you emails containing strange links to third-party websites

Something else to think about!

The stats are in on good dating photos. The more effort you put into looking your best, the more romantic options you’ll have and the better choices you have to avail yourself of. Don’t sell yourself short. You’ll want options going forward and whether you have one or two or dozens, you’ll want every one of them. Good photos give you options. Once you settle on one of your new options, the heartbreak you felt a month ago or a year ago will be a distant memory. Just like your ex…

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

3 Happy Holiday Dating tips

While many people feel that the holidays are a great time to connect with loved ones, for many people who are single it feels like a lonely time.

Some people feel like the Holidays can be a difficult time to plan a date…with gift shopping and planning many people feel burned out and too busy to go on a date.

But it doesn’t have to be like that! It can be a fantastic time for dating…and here are a few ideas to make dating over the Holidays way more fun!

1.Take time to Refresh your dating profile before the new year!

That means making sure that you have great a photos and a great profile…many other single people will be feeling the same way as you so make sure that you look the best you can online…

2.Accept every invitation you can to a party

Accept every single invitation you can to parties.  You’ll meet a lot of people and maybe one of them will be someone special- And if you don’t know anyone ask the hosts to introduce you to some people who they think you’ll get along with. And don’t forget to dress up and look like a million dollars! (Although don’t turn up too early or drink too much as drunk is NEVER sexy. Enjoy but pace yourself)

3.Think Creative Holiday dates

Now use your imagination here…think asking someone to meet you for a cup of steaming hot chocolate, or wrap up warm and look at the Christmas lights, or ice skating…a little creativity
is romantic and fun.

Also think about this!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

3 reasons to be happy if you’re over 40 and online dating

Recently I was speaking with a friend of mine who got divorced a couple of years ago and had begun dating again…he was telling me how he hated online dating and that he felt disadvantaged as an older person.

Well my friend I wanted to give you 3 reasons why you can feel glad that you’re dating and over 40 so here goes!

Your previous relationships have made you wiser

Knowing yourself better and knowing what you want/don’t want in a relationship is a huge advantage. You know who you are, what’s important and you’re less likely to depend on a relationship to solve your problems too!

More money to enjoy dates.

Remember being younger and scraping together enough money to take your date to dinner or a movie? Most people have a little more money to spend on dating as they get older.

No biological clock

No pressure to get married and have kids…this sounds pretty good doesn’t it!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

How to Catch a Catfish Online Dating Scam

The term Catfishing used to mean going fishing for a particular, bottom feeder with no scales. Now, in the digital revolution, it means setting up a fake, online profile to trick an unsuspecting person into a relationship. Many people catfish simply because they’re lonely but some people use the scam to get their victims to send them large sums of money.

How to protect yourself online

Nearly a quarter of all relationships begin online these days and it’s more convenient to meet people from the privacy of your living room than it is to go out to a crowded bar or night club. Unfortunately, this practice leaves you vulnerable to the Catfishing scam. Fortunately, there are a few ways to avoid being scammed.

Meet in person

First off, you should only start a relationship with people in your area. This way you can request to meet in person and if the other party persistently refuses, it should raise a red flag in your head. Another way to catch a Catfish is by requesting a session on Skype. This is the best alternative to actually meeting face-to-face and if the person you’re talking to refuses to Skype with you, they’re probably not the person in the pictures on their profile.

If the other party is refusing

You may already be emotionally involved with the other party and you feel they’re being honest but you have to think with your head and not your heart. If the other party is refusing to let you see them face-to-face then you’re more than likely dealing with a catfish and it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. Give the other party an ultimatum and let them know that you doubt they’re the person on their profile pictures. If they still refuse to meet or Skype with you, be strong and move on. It may be difficult initially but you’ll probably save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run.

An InfoGraphic to put things in perspective

Sandra from Instantcheckmate.com. kindly sent me this infographic on the phenomena of “Catfishing” I thought I’d share it with you to help you learn more about catfishing and Protect yourself.
To put things into perspective lots of people find love (Online dating is responsible for 120,000 marriages a year) so remember to follow these simple rules and you’ll have a better experience online.

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Also think about this!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!