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3 Dating Rules for women over 40

Online dating can be a big challenge if you are a woman and you are 40 years old or older.
USA today says that “Of almost 127 million Americans age 40 and over, more than a third are unattached (Divorced, widowed or never married).

Of these singles, more than 25 million are women, as you can imagine we’re seeing a surge in dating for women over 40.

For some online dating a scary journey

Many of these women say “I feel like I’m 19 years old again”, “I feel unprepared for dating after so many years of marriage” and  “I feel that I don’t know the rules of dating anymore since its changed so much since I was in my twenties”, and with a massive increase in online dating, new dating books and advice from the new gurus many of these women feel confused and at a loss for words.

So, here are some tips for those of you who are just getting out of a bad marriage and haven’t got a clue, the good news is that while many of the rules of dating have changed since the last time you dated that some of the important stuff about dating you learned is timeless!

Rule#1 Just because you’re 40 or over doesn’t mean you can’t have Fun!

Most people are dating online because they want to attract the love of their life and that’s great – but we recommend that you don’t make that your primary goal for online dating. Don’t get us wrong, we are confident that you will inevitably attract the love of your life but this is a process that has to unfold naturally and can take days, weeks, or months. The danger is, if you try to rush the process you’re almost guaranteed to have a horrible online dating experience.
If you are honestly having fun with the process, then you literally won’t care about or even notice how long it is taking to attract the person of your dreams. And ironically, you will actually be able to attract that special person much faster and much easier. So we strongly recommend that you take your time and have fun with your online dating experience. The next big question is, “who is responsible for your fun?”

Take responsibility for your own fun:

When you go on a date, odds are you believe it’s the other person’s responsibility to make sure that “you” have a good time (no pressure there…LOL). This is a very common perspective amongst most online daters, and it is also one of the most guaranteed ways to ensure that you’ll have a horrible dating experience.

Truth is; no one is responsible for you having fun except for you! This is one of the secrets that all successful online daters live by. They always take responsibility for their own fun, thus ensuring that they will always have a great dating experience, regardless if they have romantic chemistry with their date or not.

By taking responsibility for your own fun you will also take the pressure off of your date – and you will inspire them to take responsibility for their own fun as well. This will dramatically increase your odds of getting a second date that may eventually turn into a love connection. But once again, even if there is no romantic chemistry you will both still walk away feeling great and thinking “wow, I had a really great time. Below are tips that can help you create your own fun while dating online.

Tips to creating your own fun while online dating…

  • Make sure that you are in a fun, upbeat and positive mood before you show up for your date.
  • In the beginning of the date let the other person know that you want to have fun – and agree to only talk about fun, positive and uplifting topics.
  • Even if there is no romantic chemistry with your date, find things to appreciate like; your surroundings, your food, your dates cologne or perfume, etc.

 

Rule#2 You are probably more comfortable in your own skin than your younger counterparts

Self confidence in a woman is a big turn on, most men appreciate a woman who is not a shrinking violet, so show confidence, you are probably more comfortable in your own skin than your younger counterparts.. Don’t be afraid to let your humor and intelligence show.

And don’t think “How in the world am I going to compete with some “Perky-boobed 24-year-old”, yes, some men are looking for younger women. But those are not the ones you want
to date. And Besides, trying to look or act younger than you are looks and feels needy, remember unlike “Pert-boobed-Barbie” You know who you are and as a woman over 40 you’re not looking for a man to define you.
Also you’re also probably more comfortable with sex than many young women are (women in their 40s have far fewer hang-ups about sex)

Rule#3 Just because you’re 40 or over doesn’t mean you can’t be open!

When many people over 40 go on online dates their natural tendency is to go into it being very closed and guarded, this is often the case for nervous people who’ve just got back in the dating game after years of marriage!. They do this for a number of reasons; sometimes they are afraid to make themselves vulnerable because they don’t want to get hurt again after a painful divorce; sometimes they are afraid that they may say or reveal something that will turn their date off and scare them away; and sometimes they are just nervous and don’t know what to say or do. Being closed and guarded is also one of the most guaranteed ways to ensure that you’ll have a disappointing dating experience no matter what your age is. If you want to have a wonderful and successful online dating experience that you must open up and make yourself vulnerable on dates. (and yes I did say vulnerable!)

Think of yourself as a wonderful and entertaining book with pages and pages of interesting experiences, ideas, and dreams. But if you only show your date the cover of your book and prevent them from experiencing the wonderful content inside… they will get bored and put you back on the shelf.

And if you don’t let them read your book, than odds are they will not reveal the inside of their wonderful book to you either… and they will get bored and put you back on the shelf as well. Everybody loses!

When you are on an date don’t be afraid to open up and make yourself vulnerable. Let your date see what’s inside of you and show him / her who you really are right from the beginning. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not and don’t try to be politically correct. Be genuine, be yourself, and be an open book.

When you are your authentic self that’s when you are the most fun to yourself… as well as to others. This will make your date feel at ease and will encourage them to be their authentic self as well. And even if there is no romantic chemistry between you and your date, at least you will both still have an enjoyable time.

What if they don’t like your book?

If you make yourself open & vulnerable and your date dislikes what they see than don’t take it personally. That simply means that they are not the one for you, and that’s okay. Continue to make yourself open & vulnerable because it’s only a matter of time before you attract online dates that will love and appreciate the authentic you (including your Mr. / Mrs. Right.). And trust us you’ll be glad you did. Below are a few tips that can help:

Tips to help you remain open when online dating…

  • Remember that you are being open in-order to ensure that you can be yourself and have a good time.
  • If your date is not into you that’s okay, because you would not have been a good match anyway (they did you a favor).
  • If you open up you will inspire your date to do the same.
  • Remaining open will enable your perfect partner to be able to immediately identify and find you.

Online dating? The most important thing you need to know…

Having great profile photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

Online Dating Safety Tip: Keeping Your Name (And Everything Else) To Yourself

Online dating safety tip: There’s no reason at the beginning of an online dating relationship to say who you are, where you work, where you live, what your telephone number is or any other identifying detail that you might later regret.

When you start exchanging emails, you can chat about your hobbies. You can talk in general about the kind of work you do. You can say that you like walking in Central Park or heading out to Sequoia. But tell someone you’ve never seen, never met and whose real name you don’t know that you live at 123 Killmenow Road, Apt. 103 and it’s certainly possible that you’ll have reason to regret it when you find yourself looking for a new apartment

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The worst 10 online dating profile pics ever

 

Happy Friday Everyone (Or whatever day it is for you!)

Just for Fun here’s the 10 worst online dating profile pics ever!

#10 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Did I hear you saying, a mullet haircut isn’t sexy.”

 

#09 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“A back tattoo guaranteed to make the ladies go wild!”

 

#08 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Showing off your muscles in the snow to attract the ladies?”

 


#07 Worst online dating profile


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ll grow some handsome sideburns and take a glamor shot, this is certain to attract my perfect match.”

 


#06 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Another attractive glamor shot.

 


#05 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Not only do I look hot, but I come with cat pictures and wall-paper too!”

 


#04 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Ex girlfriend, what ex-girlfriend?”

 

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#03 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I’m a great date but my mother will always be in the picture.”

 


#02 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I’m both well groomed and rich, date me!”

 

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#01 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Psycho’s need love too!

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Bad Things to Say on a First Date and the Worst Things You Can Do to Your Profile Pictures

Here’s a funny look at things not to day on a date

That’s a bunch of things you really shouldn’t say on your first date. They made me laugh, and laughing about dating definitely makes it less stressful and more fun.

Without decent profile pictures you won’t get a chance to say anything on a first date!

Some of the mistakes that singles make with their profile pictures are as bad as any of those in the video above.(only joking)

One of the biggest mistakes many people make with their profile pictures is to post dark and blurred photos. Profile pictures like those make even the nicest person look tired and/or shady
Here’s an example:

Notice how the darker picture doesn’t show off her beautiful skin and features?
Psychology studies have shown that people relate to brighter pictures better and choose them over darker pictures.

Getting good profile pictures makes a difference!

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures

I came across a very well written article online by OK Cupid called “The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures” it interested me greatly as the author had diligently looked at 7000 dating photos, analyzed much data, and seemed to find 4 myths about the way that people think about profile pictures, the article goes on to say that much of our collective wisdom about profile pictures is wrong, notably that:

Profile picture myth 1

It’s better to smile

Profile picture myth 2

The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

Profile picture myth 3

Guys should keep their shirts on

Profile picture myth 4

Make sure your face is showing

Now let’s be clear from the beginning where they got the data from:

“Our data set was chosen at random from all users in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32. We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”

Now let me make it clear that our dating  & profile photo company LookBetterOnline.com specializes in helping people who are usually older than the 18-25 year old daters, the only reason I’m writing this post is that I’ve had a few people who are over 25 ask me if this advice applies to them and I don’t think it does, there’s a world of difference between dating in your twenties and thirties, forties and fifties! I think that OK Cupid did a pretty good job of collecting this advice for a certain kind of person in their 20’s

Perhaps a more accurate title for the article would be:

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average

OK I know, I’m joking, and if it were a paper researched by Doctors or Teachers then it wouldn’t be published with such a title, but let’s not dismiss this article yet!

I had a customer who asked me why I wasn’t following this article, they wrote that “My profile pictures do not follow the advice given” and wanted to hear my comments. Now I respect their privacy so I’ll keep my reply private, what I will say though is that they did, live in a big city, I’d guess were between the age of 28 and 32, although I believe they didn’t quite fit the profile as they were definitely very good looking and wanted to post more than one profile picture

The article defines success for women and men alike based on the number of responses that they got…

Now many of us have dated online and had many, many responses, yet somehow I was left feeling that the number of responses is a slightly empty number. If your profile pictures are attracting the wrong sort of people then success cannot be measured by

numbers alone, if I post a profile picture online and  get lots and lots of responses by people who I feel aren’t a match, then I’m failing (rather than winning as the numbers suggest). There are often issues created by statistics, interpreted by the reader “out of context” they become meaningless or worse give a false impression.

Again I’m not attempting to trash data that was diligently collected in a professional way, just showing how people can read an article and possibly get the wrong idea.

Let’s look a little deeper into these myths- and please only read on if you live in a big city, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 and look average

Profile picture myth #1:It’s better to smile

The article goes on to say that men and women have very different approaches to the camera~ that women smile more than men and make more flirty faces, that looking happy and making eye contact for online dating photos isn’t good advice, that women get the most messages by flirting with the camera and that men’s profile pictures are most effective when they look away from the camera and don’t smile.

Now here’s where I get to thinking, even if I was an average looking 18-32 year old, big city dweller with just one profile picture, would this be good advice for me? Hmmmm  for me personally NO…Women with flirty faces irritate me, and always have done, and I spoke with a few woman (over 25 ) who definitely don’t want a guy who looks away and doesn’t smile, (They commented that people who look like this are often self-absorbed or hiding something (Perhaps bad teeth) and they would avoid them)…for some people these photos are definitely a deal breaker!
My point is that for this advice to be helpful you have to be attracted to girls who make flirty faces or mysterious guys looking away!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys

Just kidding…

The real question you should be asking yourself is “who do I want to attract? If you think your ideal match wants to see you looking flirty or mysterious then this is exactly the sort of advice that you should follow, but if you want to attract other things in a person then perhaps a different

approach for profile pictures will apply! If you like to smile then smile-looking confident and how you want to look is important.

In summary not smiling may work if you’re younger, but there’s still a lot of opinion out there that says  to avoid it, (example Kurt Inman wrote an article called “Run Away from these 5 bad dating Dating photos” where he gives advice to avoid people with profile pictures who don’t smile, his valid opinion is “I ‘m not talking about a huge grin here. A real smile makes anyone look very attractive. I’ve seen people scowling, glaring, on the verge of tears and staring at the floor in their photo profile. How can you think this would be attractive to anyone?”, now I know many of you won’t agree with him…but many of you will (Especially the 28+ crowd!)

Profile picture myth #2:The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

The article says thatThe universally-maligned “My-Space angle” is achieved by holding your camera above your head and being just so darn coy, we were sure these pictures were lame; in fact, the prospect of producing hard data on just how lame got us all excited. But we were so wrong.” We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place—so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again. No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pictures”

Now this doesn’t surprise me, if you take a profile picture looking down on someone then they often look better, I agree with this article that these kinds of shots when done right can be very effective, many professional photographers take photos from above for this very reason

The only time I disagree on using “My Space angle” profile pictures is if they are used to hide the body!
Let’s imagine this scenario, a girl wants to post only photos of her from overhead-down; her logic is, this way only her face and boobs show, and lets imagine it’s because she’s overweight and doesn’t want anyone to know until they meet her on a first date (She’s hoping to make a connection so that she won’t be judged on her size)
Now I hold nothing against anyone for being thinner or larger (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again-I do believe that there’s a body type out there for everyone) but if this girl doesn’t show her body in any of her profile pictures then one of two things will happen; One- people will look at her profile pictures and get  suspicious and think she’s hiding something OR Two-she’ll mislead someone; I remember a date where I’d seen my dates’ attractive “My Space angle” profile pictures and invited her on a date when I met my date she was 100lbs heavier, so yes she got the date through the pictures, but would she get another date? I don’t think so!

Profile picture myth #3: Guys should keep their shirts on

Here’s a summary of this myth; The male “Ab shot’ profile picture is an Internet cliché that everyone thinks is only for bozos. Yet the data contradicts this ~ of course, there is some self-selection here: the guys showing off their abs are the ones with abs worth showing, and naturally the best bodies get lots of messages. So we can’t recommend this photo tactic to every man. But, contrary to everything you read about profile pictures, if you’re a guy with a nice body, it’s actually better to take off your shirt and why should guys with great bodies keep their best asset under wraps? Dating, both online and off is about playing to your strengths, and it should be no different for men with muscles”

Now I’m a little confused at this point, earlier in the article it says “We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”, and so I’m curious as they can’t recommend this tactic to every man does this make the statistics difficult to accurately interpret!

Again should the real question to ask yourself  be “who do I want to attract? If I think my ideal match wants this then this is exactly the sort of advice that I should follow, but if I want to attract other sorts of people then perhaps a different approach for profile pictures will be needed!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys and who think that abs are important

Just kidding again…

Here’s some other really good points the article makes:

“If you’re not the type of guy who can show off your muscles, don’t veer off in the opposite direction and get all dressed up.

“For women, shots that show breasts get attention…A message like “Hey nice rack” isn’t really gonna lead anywhere, and isn’t very valuable to the recipient”

“the value of being conversation-worthy, as opposed to merely sexy, cannot be overstated”

I agree that whatever your age, location or attitude this is good solid advice…

 

Profile picture myth #4: Make sure your face is showing

Now I was as surprised when I read that “The facts were stubborn and your face doesn’t necessarily matter. In fact, not showing your face can in fact be a positive, as long as you substitute in something unusual, sexy, or mysterious enough to make people want to talk to you.”.

I laughed out loud when I read this and laughed out loud again when I read:

Of course, we wouldn’t recommend that you meet someone in person without first seeing a full photo of them, that still seems like a recipe for disaster.

Do I need to say more…
So in conclusion thank-you OK Cupid for taking the time to research and write this report, it’s definitely a great start in serving people who are online dating, and aren’t sure what do do when choosing a profile picture~ I hope that when you read this you’ll enjoy my comments on your article and I hope I made you smile too!

For readers of this post~ Both Online daters and Matchmakers alike, If you have additional questions about this article or anything else on effective, profile pictures please reach out to me via LookBetterOnline Facebook or Twitter, I’m interested to hear what you have to say.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Profile Pic Secrets

You know what I think about a profile pic!

I think that  your profile pic says more about you than you can ever write in a profile description, with the right profile pic you can have a less than perfect profile yet still get results, so what else is important about a profile photo?

The reason is that while there might be plenty of fish in the sea, who wants to land a tiddler? Or tempt a shark?

Your profile pic is the bait that will attract the right kind of fish for you. Use the wrong bait and all you’ll hook is something you’ll want to throw right back.

That’s because for most people dating online — dating anywhere! — is a visual experience.

The first thing that any single looks at when they reach a dating profile is…

Right….  The profile pic.

A profile pic is always the first thing to attract their attention. Sure, the headline is important and the description. But it’s the profile pic they’ll look at first. That’s why it’s VERY important to have a good “Main” profile pic. Once they see your pictures, THEN they’ll go on to read your headline and the rest of your profile. To win the dating game you MUST make a GREAT first impression.

Remember… A great profile pic will often persuade people to ignore a bad profile but a bad profile pic will not inspire anyone to read a great profile.

You don’t have to look like a Hollywood star or supermodel to attract attention on an online dating site. All you need is a great profile pic that shows you at your best!
And remember that having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

What you need to know about Profile pictures and the wonderful differences between men and women!

A light hearted look at the differences between men and women!


The differences between men and women are not just well-documented, but often the heart of jokes, anecdotes, and good-humored (and not so good-humored) teasing. We agree that there are actually real differences in the way women’s and men’s brains are structured and in the way they react

So what exactly has this got to do with dating? I hear you say, well here’s a difference

For Online dating profile pictures obviously play a big part, but there’s a HUGE difference in the way men and women think! While both men and women found  profile pictures to be essential in choosing the right person to date, men spent a LOT more time staring at the profile pictures and less time evaluating a dating candidate’s profile. In fact, men spent twice as long staring at the profile pictures, Women on the other hand, spent twice as long as men assessing the profile.

I spoke with a new friend of mine who’s been a matchmaker for many years and she confirmed this to be true, she laughed when she told me how in the “good old days” she would have a book full of profile pictures of clients that she would match, now when the women looked they would choose one or two of the profile pictures that they found attractive, then they would carefully read the profiles and evaluate the person they felt the would be the best choice!
Men on the other hand would thumb through the pages of this book like a catalogue until someone caught their eye, stopping to look only at the hottest profile pictures not that concerned about what the profiles read at all.

Now I know this to be true, I’ve done it myself!

So Ladies (and gentleman) this means “Great profile pictures make more difference than anything you can ever write in your profile”

If your profile pictures are average than they won’t even notice you! You might as well be invisible to all the great catches, and visible to all the wrong sorts of people.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Dating: Do opposites attract?

Hi Everyone, hope you had a great weekend,

Here’s a video that made me laugh…inappropriate YES, but funny~ perhaps its my “odd English” sense of humor, (so please don’t watch it if you’re easily  offended) and as you know I believe the more we can laugh about dating the less stressful and more fun it becomes!

I laughed when in the video I heard the words “We have chemistry here-did you feel it?”

Chemistry and attraction have long been subjects of much interest in dating, while we feel any “chemistry” its still individual and isn’t completely understood by scientists

So what about attraction? an dating question often asked is Do opposites attract?

When dating opposites often certainly attract! in the long haul though with some people constant arguments can destroy a relationship unless you are both open to change. One may chase the other away in their fight to get them to see their never ending point of view.

Dating people with too many similarities face the same dilemma in relationships and can come to a point where the boredom factor sets in and people are bored to tears with the sameness of the relationship and their partner. No one wishes to marry or go out with a parrot where every move is a foregone conclusion.

So what’s the best way to ensure that couple survives? well the reality is there isn’t a best way, just “Your best way”! for me a healthy balance of differences and similarities.

No sitting on the fence here…those who have this balance seem to fare well in their relationships and they are never boring or have the feeling that the opposition is to great to bear.

Balance…in all things may be the  key to happiness…

 

 

 

 

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

2 tips for better profile photos

Have you ever felt the need to change the way you look in order to attract “Mr or Mrs right?

Have you ever considered having your profile photos retouched?

We switch on the television and see a million messages telling us that we need to change the way we look or pay the price! For women its make-up or hair ads telling us to use them to find our beauty, or weight loss products, for men it’s the closest shave…all these
adverts seem to tell us that if we do what they say and change our appearance then everything will be O.K. and if we don’t do then we’ll be reduced to a life of misery (I guess that’s often the basic premise of marketing)

For women the problem becomes worse when they open a magazine! Women’s magazines are filled with images of women with who fit the perfect profile. Photos of “perfect people” models who have had every line or blemish or imperfection retouched away!
These adverts aren’t reality, they are glamorous and look great, glamour photos are not about The Real person, it’s about the photographer creating the image that they find the most pleasing (and most effective to sell stuff with). The photographer will use heavy makeup, hair styling, unnatural lighting and heavy post production retouching.

So what’s all this got to do with Dating and your profile photos I hear you say!

If you take profile photos to post online and use heavy makeup, hair styling, unnatural lighting and heavy post production retouching the result is a fantasy image, and it fails on a dating site. You must run in the opposite direction if anyone tries to sell you “old school” glamor photography, I’m literally amazed at how many photographers STILL take profile pictures this way!

People avoid these profile photos because somewhere at a “gut level” they know no one looks like that, or they avoid you after the date because you didn’t measure up to the profile photos that you posted online

Whats the solution? Simple~Natural profile photos that reflect the real you.

As CEO of Lookbetteronline.com  it’s been said that I get more body-altering requests than some plastic surgeons, that people contact me all the time, wanting to shed a few pounds from their frame, or people wanting to add a little more hair to their bald head.

Thankfully this is an exaggeration, (although it did make me laugh when I first read this) but there is a little truth to these claims.

“The right profile photos, make a huge difference in how people perceive you on the Web.”

I often advise women to love and be their beautiful and original self and to go easy with the retouching software:

Remember “Photoshop is like the Force. There’s a light side and a dark side. Wield the retouching tool wisely and with restraint. Don’t represent yourself as any different than who you really are-or at least who you are with great lighting, good makeup and a lot of sleep.”

So to summarize these 2 tips

1)Avoid glamor shots!
2)If you get profile photos retouched find someone who knows what they are doing otherwise you’ll look lame

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Why bad profile pictures mean really, really, bad dates

This video really made me laugh hard and reminded me of the worst date I ever had

Have you looked at someone’s profile pictures that look good, then met them in person  and they look nothing like the profile pictures that they posted? A guaranteed bad date for sure~ would you stay or Run?

The idea of any profile pictures is to represent you. It means that when we meet – that I’m able to recognize that it’s you. Posting a profile picture of you and a group of your friends at a bar and assuming I’ll be able to pick you out is not a good idea-What If I’m more attracted to your hot friend than you? And providing an image of yourself where you’re the tiny, tiny little speck on the horizon of one of the profile pictures doesn’t tell me much about you either. I am sure the pyramids in Egypt was an amazing experience and you can tell me about your interesting travels on our date but first I would like to see profile pictures that show what YOU really look like first to see if I want to date you.

And please know profile pictures that are recent are helpful too. For example, profile pictures of you, 30 lbs lighter than you are now or profile pictures taken at least 20 years ago doesn’t really do any good either. If you look “hot” in your profile pictures and “not” in the real then of course I’m going to be disappointed.

And Body shape or hair color or height or age may or may not be a deal maker or deal breaker or me, as a matter of fact my partner can be older than me and have curves. But when I am expecting someone who’s hot in their 40’s to show up and I get in someone who looks more like my mom’s age — then I have a problem.

I was on such a date, and I remember the details oh to well (if only I could forget them), I’d met who I thought was a beautiful blonde girl, smart, charming, funny and sexy (at least sexy according to her profile pictures ), we connected on the telephone and agreed to meet, excited I drifted asleep with happy visions of me and the blonde girl!

As I approached her for our first date, she had her back to me, her beautiful long blonde hair exactly as in her profile pictures, then as she turned around to face me-I looked at her and I was shocked, she looked a genuine 20 years older…in my shocked reaction I just flinched and jumped back a couple of paces….Followed by a deeply uncomfortable moment, where Irealized that I had just flinched and she knew it! I went totally red in the face and tried to hide my deep disappointment…I didn’t find her attractive, and she wasn’t the girl I’d hoped to take to dinner.

If I didn’t find her remotely attractive on a first date then what hope could we ever have for a future!

Now I’m not saying that she wasn’t worthy of love-I’m sure that someone somewhere would find her attractive…just not me, if only she’d  posted accurate dating profile picture then she’d have saved us both a wasted evening!

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