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15 Secrets of Online Dating for Grownup Women – Part 3

Here’s the second article (Part 2 of 3) from my friend and top  Dating coach Bobbi Palmer:

As a dating and relationship coach for women over 40, I encourage my clients to get online. If you are a woman over 40 looking for love I want you online too.

I met my husband online and got married for the first time at the age of 47! And you can too.
But before you put yourself out there, I’ve given you some advice about how to show up, set your expectations, stake your claim, have some fun, and ultimately find a loving partner

(This is a 3 part article, so read Part One and Part Two first if you haven’t already.)

The new hot spot.

Online dating is the new hot spot for boomers and older adults. As a woman over forty, you need to do a little extra work. But like me, you can meet your dream man.

In Part 3 of: 15 Secrets to Successful Online Dating for Grownup Women here are 5 more things to know before you get started:

#11. Be in the moment.

Stop talking to yourself; you are there to talk and listen to him. It’s hard. But being aware is the first step.

When you notice yourself in an over-analytical mode, tell yourself to stop and pay attention to the man sitting in front of you. If you don’t, you may completely miss the man of your dreams.

#12. Don’t be a Fault Finder.

Be kind and practice empathy. He has fears and insecurities just like you. Don’t get hung up on some little thing he does that “you just can’t live with.”

Consider why he’s doing it, and if it truly is a deal breaker. Then look at him again with the kind eyes of a woman working hard to find a good man.

And regardless of how you end up judging him, always leave him feeling good about himself; even if you’re not going to see him again. You’ll be doing the next woman a favor; and sharing a true kindness to this nice man; even if you’re not planning on seeing him again. Consider it a deposit to your dating karma bank!

#13. Show up on time, looking great.

I know, this seems obvious. But many of us don’t do too well with our punctuality; we just focus on figuring out how to show up during our busy day. Many consider it rude for people to be late. And remember, this is your first and maybe only chance to get that great man to ask you on a date. Focus, and give it the attention it deserves.

Make a plan to be on time, and present yourself as the beautiful woman that you are. If you’re coming from work, leave a few minutes early so you can go home and change out of your power clothes.

If you’re taking a walk with him, don’t even think of wearing your fanny pack and sweats. Dress femininely, and give him your gift of a big open smile. (As a note: if you absolutely hate when people are late, let him know that so he can make an extra effort. That way your date isn’t a lost cause from the first moments.)

#14. Men want women.

Studies show that men are highly attracted to the feminine woman. That doesn’t mean you need to act like a damsel in distress. In fact, that isn’t at all attractive to real grown-up men. Mature men want a woman who is strong and is able to take care of herself; but also willing and able to receive from him.

On your meet date, let the man pay, accept his compliments graciously, and act with loving kindness. In studies, when men are asked why they chose their wives or girlfriends, they consistently identify her ability to receive and extend kindness as attractive feminine qualities.

#15. Have fun while you practice.

Every meeting and date is practice that brings you closer to Mr. I Love You. Statistically, your meet-date won’t turn out to be him. So what?

Enjoy the time and be open to what comes up. Don’t come in with an agenda, and don’t let it ruin your time if, in the first 10 minutes, he doesn’t appear to be your man. Just relax and let yourself enjoy. You never know; you may just let yourself relax into a very nice feeling.

You can also use this as a time to help boost the man’s self-esteem. (Yes, men are as nervous and insecure as we are.). He was nice enough to “pick you” and make the effort of meeting you. (Remember, as we get older the men have way more choices than we do.)

Unless he’s a real creep (which very very few men are), help him feel good about himself by giving him some compliments and thanking him graciously. Try to learn about him and find what’s unique and interesting. You can learn and gain something from just about anyone.

And Finally…

Ultimately, I learned that the only way to find a lasting and loving relationship is to become a smart, confident and complete woman who merits the love of a good man.

A large part of that journey is being open to learning and having the courage to do new things; even when they are difficult or scary.

If you’re not already online; get there. If you are online, and you haven’t met your special man yet (which I assume you haven’t because you are here), take my advice to heart.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!


 

15 Secrets of Online Dating for Grownup Women – Part 2

Here’s the second article (Part 2 of 3) from my friend and top  Dating coach Bobbi Palmer:

Meeting men can be hard.

Let’s face it, meeting men can be hard, especially if you are over 40. You’re not meeting men at work or in bars anymore. Your circle of friends is likely the same as it’s been for years, so there may not be many chances to be set up with great guys.

Being online means you can meet hundreds of men.

If you’ve been avoiding going online because you’re thinking that it’s only for 20 year olds…think again! Dating sites report that their fastest growing segment is people over 50.

I’m Bobbi Palmer, the dating and relationship coach for women over 40. I met the love of my life online and got married for the first time at age 47, so of course I recommend it to my coaching clients.

In part 1 of this article we covered the 5 things to consider before you get online. Part 2, Secrets #6 through#10 are about what to do once you start meeting men online.

If you remember nothing else, remember this.

When you’re using online dating, if you remember nothing else, remember this: when you meet for the first time after connecting online, it’s just meeting; it’s not dating.

You have to know how to get past the meet-date to get to the real date. (If you want to, that is.)

5 things to consider before you meet Mr. Wonderful:

#6. Meeting is not dating.

The purpose of the “meet date” is only to determine if you want to go on a real date. It’s not to get to know each other. For most men, this is their time to get a first impression and decide if he wants to get to know you better. If he does, he will ask you on a real date.

Remembering this will help you better judge a man’s interest, and make more realistic decisions about his worthiness as a possible mate. If he doesn’t present himself as overly interested or serious about romance, he may just be waiting for the real date to wow and woo you.

When he gets a good initial impression, he will ask you out. When he asks, say “yes, I’d enjoy seeing you again!” if you feel good with him. Then give him the real look-over on the date; as he will you.

#7. Be positive, and realistic.

Stay positive in the belief that you will find your special man who will rock your world. But be realistic by remembering that the majority of the men you meet won’t be Mr. I Love You.

This will serve you well in managing your expectations and, therefore, disappointments. If he’s not The One, it doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. If nothing else, you’ve had a nice evening and you’ve had more practice for when you do meet him.

#8. Put your best foot forward.

Everyone, men and women, have negative attributes and secrets; and everyone worries about when to share them. The answer may be complex and depend on the situation, but the sure thing is NOT to share them on the meet date, or often even the first date.

Divorce, family problems, jobs you hate, friends or other men that have betrayed and disappointed you are off limits. If he asks or brings it up himself, respond with one or two sentences of a positive nature and sway the topic elsewhere.

For example: “It was difficult at times but I learned a lot from that experience” or “Wow, we could talk about that for hours!

Let’s put that in the queue for next time…I’d rather talk about your [travels; favorite movies, bands, or plays; preferences in food; or cats vs. dogs…”)

#9. Remember…you don’t know him.

Until you spend time with him you cannot know his character, his values, or how he would make you feel in a relationship.

Intuition and chemistry are real, but not reliable indicators of the important elements of a long-lasting, adult relationship: trust, respect, loving-kindness, etc.

Keep your reaction-to-attraction and intuition in check, and lead with your intellect. It will serve you better in the long run.

#10. Keep Your Eyes on the Prize.

You are looking for a good man with whom you can share deep connection, unconditional trust, mutual adoration, and a lifetime of happiness. Everything you do should be toward that end.

That means choose long-term happiness over momentary pleasure. Don’t be intimate too soon and do give him the time and attention needed to make a good and grown-up choice.

And please have FUN with this! (More about that next time in Part 3.)

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!


 

15 Secrets of Online Dating for Grownup Women – Part 1

Many of you who’ve read this Blog before know that I featured my friend and dating coach  Bobbi Palmer. www.datelikeagrownup.com

For those of you who haven’t met Bobbi let I’ll re-introduce her as “The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40”.

I like Bobbi because she’s the real deal, someone who shares a positive message for women looking to find love, someone who genuinely loves helping people and someone who has met her true love.
(Tip for anyone reading this, if you want to marry the man of your dreams then listen carefully to dating coaches with happy marriages.)

“So why listen to Bobbi”? I hear you say…Listen because Bobbi found love at 47.

If you are a single woman over forty, who is still hoping to meet the man of your dreams… If you’re tired of disappointing dates and feeling like it’s too late or too difficult…then please read on. Here’s the start of a 3 part article called

15 online dating “Secrets” for Grownup Women !

You Can do it!

You can meet the spectacular, special man who is going to be your life partner using online dating. I met the love of my life online, so of course I recommend it to you.

I’m Bobbi Palmer, the dating and relationship coach for women over 40. I encourage my clients to get online to find the man who will love and adore them the rest of their lives.

My clients are using online dating to varying degrees of success. Pamela’s beau is the first man she met online; Heidi went out with about four men before she met Tom and started her (so far) 3 year relationship with him; Peggy is on Bachelor #26 and happy that she is just having a good time dating for the first time in her life.

It took me years of being online before I met Larry. That’s why I can give so much advice about what to do…and what not to do!

It can happen

It may not happen for you overnight, but like me…it can happen.

I want you to go online. But before you put yourself out there, I want to give you some advice about how to show up, set your expectations, stake your claim, have some fun, and ultimately find a loving partner.
And know this: just because you’re online, that doesn’t mean it’s the only way you can meet men. You can meet them in the grocery store, Sierra Club hikes, your friends’ parties, and blind dates set up by your friends and relatives. This just exponentially increases your chances.
So get out there, and have some fun! But read this first.

Here are five tips to consider as you get you started.

#1. Be the Boss

No, I don’t mean be bossy. I mean be in control of your experience. Online dating opens you up to thousands more possibilities, and it’s a completely new way of meeting people.
Make some decisions and set some personal guidelines about how you want to integrate it into your life. How many hours will you spend each day? (Warning: this can get addictive!) What things can you do to ensure your physical and emotional wellbeing as you talk to and meet people? What can you learn or change to be a successful dater?
Intuition and special situations will create forks in the road. And as time goes on, you’ll likely tweak some of these decisions. Considering some things up front, however, gives you a tentative roadmap and, more importantly, an expanded awareness. I want you to have fun, be open to new things, and enjoy the experience; just do it consciously and like the grownup woman that you are.

Remember those jerks you met in bars 30 years ago? Well a few are still out there; they just have gray hair now. You need to be able to deal with them in a classy you direct manner; the best way is to have a good sense of what you want and who you will “be’ out there.

#2.  Stand out

Plain and simple: you have competition girlfriend. As we age, the ratio of women to men grows further apart. Some statistics say it’s as much as 11 women to each man after 55. Yikes!

If you’re dating after 40, I want you to stand up and stand out. You’re reading this so you’re already ahead of the game. Make sure your pictures are great. Get them done professionally. (Come on a couple of hundred bucks is NOT too much to spend to attract a fabulous man??)

Your profile needs to be unique and speak to men. Here’s a tip: If your best girlfriend loves it; it probably sucks because it’s too girly. Every communication needs to scream how special you are, show your personality, and tell him you’re interested. (“Hi” on the subject line means you wait in line or get deleted. Flirt a little and have some fun.)

#3. Be honest

You are online, but your goal is to actually meet men, yes? One of the top complaints of men is that we post pictures that are…let’s say…out of date. Just don’t do it. Post lovely, yet current, pictures. It’s disingenuous and a waste of time to do otherwise.

Also, be clear about what you’re looking for. I find that at 40, 50, and beyond there is a wide spectrum of what type of partner men and women are looking for. Whether you want a dinner partner or a husband; put it out there. There’s no need to scream it, but weave it into your profile. If you want a life partner, you don’t attract that man who is out there “just having fun.”  (Trust me, with Viagra and a computer…a man can have a lot of fun these days!)

#4. Consider a makeover

When is the last time you updated your look? Have you changed the way you apply your makeup or wear your hair? Have you bought any new styled clothes?

Doing this is as much about looking good for a man, as it is about feeling good for yourself. A confident woman who takes care of herself and looks healthy is a man magnet.

Go to your local department store and have a free makeup session. All the lines do this, did you know? Splurge for a fancy hair style. Check out catalogs~you don’t have to necessarily buy — but check out what’s hot (and what’s not).

#5. Check your baggage

Yes, I do mean don’t drag your nasty divorce, money troubles, or last case of gout into the conversation. (At least not anywhere near the beginning of getting to know someone.)

But, as important, don’t drag in all those beliefs and decisions you made 20 years ago. The woman you are today is nowhere near the girl who dated way back when.

It’s time to review all your checklists. Check the one that defines “the perfect man” and what he must do or not do to get to the next date.

Check the one that has all your “truths” about yourself, about dating, and about men.

It’s important to take time to ground yourself in who you are and what you want in your life today. Do this by yourself, with a friend, or with a coach. But do it.

Remember, stay the same means staying single, sister.

Dating online? Regardless of your age, the most important thing you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

 

Dating success and your Profile Picture.

I asked dating experts (and good friends) “The Amazing Clarks” for the best advice to give people who date online.

Get great photos

They told me; “Take the time to get great photos”.

Now as CEO of a company that specializes in creating a profile picture for each of my customers that delivers results, that was music to my ears.

Top dating coaches have known for years that the most important part of a dating profile by far is the photo.
Here’s the way I see things:

People are busy. They want to see you. They want to see the face of the person that they might be waking up next to for the rest of their life.

If they see a photo that is blurred, dated, or difficult to make out they will simply pass you by. And you know it’s true. How long do you spend looking at each profile picture thumbnail?

dating site behaviour

The first thing that most people do when they reach a dating site is browse the photos. It’s faster than trying to read through a thousand descriptions — most of which, frankly, sound the same. It’s also more fun and while a good profile picture of an attractive face will make up for a dull description, a great description has to work a lot harder to compensate for a blurry profile picture or an expression that can sour milk.

If you’re serious about ending being single, you’re going to need an excellent profile picture that shows you at your best.

Dating sites contain the largest number of eligible singles that you can find anywhere in the world. If there’s one time it’s worth putting in the effort to create a good appearance, this is it.
Think of it this way: if you were invited to a party and told that everyone you meet there will be single, that many of them—hundreds of them in fact — will be good-looking, smart and have everything you’re looking for, wouldn’t you make sure that you turned up looking your best? You might even buy a new suit, treat yourself to a trip to the hairdresser. You’d certainly shower. You’d make the investment.

That’s the difference between people who meet their life-partners on the Web and people who just keep looking.
Unless your vacation snaps were taken by a professional photographer, or unless you’re a model with a book full of headshots, you can probably forget about using any of the profile pictures you’ve already got on your computer or which were taken by your digital camera. They’re just not going to cut it.

The best way you’re going to get your profile working for you in the fastest time possible is to get some truly great pictures taken.

Sure, that will involve an expense but who said that dating is free?

Don’t spend a fortune on subscriptions because your photos let you down

Dating does cost money, and it’s worth it. That’s why you agreed to pay a monthly subscription to a dating site and that’s why you’re prepared to give up your evenings to write emails to strangers.

If you really do want to meet someone new sooner rather than later it pays to put a professional profile picture on your profile. And it pays, too, to create the energy you want to convey in your profile picture by having them taken by someone who takes their time. You want someone that can capture that twinkle in your eye or coax that million dollar smile out of you during the shoot.

People can feel your energy and intentions through your photos, so make this a priority. Remember your online profile picture is your calling card so don’t cut corners…do it right. We promise that it will pay off. Below are a few tips that can help.

Tips that will help you take great online dating photos…

  • Imagine yourself being seen by your dream person. Convey the message you want to send to them through your eyes and smile.
  • Show that you are willing to do whatever it takes to have the love you want and deserve.
  • Don’t go for a quick easy drug store photo fix; rushed photo sessions just don’t do the job.
  • Make sure your photographer will spend at least 40-60 minutes on your photo-shoot. Don’t accept less and invest your time and energy into putting your best look forward.

3 Simple Dating tips for summer…

Summer is here, people are happier and looking for a little “summer loving”!  Check out these 3 dating tips to heat up your summer…

1.  Update your online dating profile.

With summer’s longer days, you’ll have more time to update your dating profile photos for the summer season and follow through by spending time each day online to finding that special person you can fall for this summer.

2. Plan a romantic picnic.

Summer picnics are romantic; Bread, cheese, a bottle of wine and a tablecloth make the perfect simple picnic!

And if it rains a picnic don’t cancel – a picnic can be just as much fun if it rains by moving to a covered area and enjoying the rain!

3. Book a restaurant with an outdoor patio or fireplace.

The patio gives you the freshness of eating outside, a fireplace is handy when the sun goes down. Imagine a gentle summer breeze as you sip your drinks slowly, spending hours talking. A romantic environment that melds the indoors and outdoors makes a meal more exciting and sexy.

The most important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The online dating confessions of a nice guy: Part4

Welcome to part 4 of “The online dating confessions of a nice guy”, where I interview dating expert Phil Torcivia.

A man’s perspective on dating for women.

Here’s a man’s perspective on dating, in today’s discussion we will be talking about what exactly is love, how men choose women on dating websites, speed dating, getting out of unhealthy relationships and more.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…get great online dating photos

Having  great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The online dating confessions of a nice guy: Part2

Welcome to part 2 of “The online dating confessions of a nice guy”, where I’m interviewing dating expert Phil Torcivia.

A humorous struggle

As dating is a humorous struggle for Phil as he approaches his fifties he writes humorous essays about his experiences. Phil has a following of nearly 100,000 people (Mostly women who are interested about learning about dating from a man’s perspective).

In today’s discussion we will be talking about first date tips.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having  great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The online dating confessions of a nice guy: Part1

Meet my new friend Phil Torcivia.

One relationship disaster away from a third cat.

Phil is a divorced guy, who in his words, “Transplanted himself from Pennsylvania into the treacherous dating pool in Southern California”. His feline companions, Syd and Symon, share his home in San Diego and an occasional dish of leftover tuna. Phil loves nothing better than bellying up to the bar with his favorite social lubrication (wine) and watching the bizarre mating rituals of the locals, which he translates into humorous essays. He has been single long enough to be involved in a few train-wrecks of his own, admitting that he’s “one relationship disaster away from a third cat.”

100,000 Women want to see things like a man!

What I found fascinating is that 34,306 people follow Phil on Facebook and 56,385 follow him on Twitter!
What makes nearly 100,000 people (mostly women between the ages of 30-50), follow Phil?

Women it seems often don’t understand men, so they read Phil’s blog to see things from a man’s perspective!

A fun interview

I thought it might be fun to interview Phil, and have some conversations about online dating, love and life.

Here’s part 1 of a few confessions of a nice guy; I hope you’ll enjoy his common sense, wisdom and humor!

http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lixe2cOGyUs

Click Here  to buy Phil’s excellent,(and pretty funny) books

The most important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The Aurora killer had a Match.com profile. What does that tell you?

James Holmes The Match.Com Profile

James Holmes
The Match.Com Profile

The Aurora killer had a Match.com profile. What does that tell you?

TMZ has reported recently that James Holmes, who killed twelve people in the Batman premiere last week, had a Match.com profile. He described himself as an agnostic student looking for a “sexy time.” Match.com removed his profile as soon as they learned about it but you can see a screen capture of it here.

I’m sure Match is sweating over this PR disaster. They’re probably having strategy meetings right now about how to recover from this. But is it the site’s fault? Would it have helped if they had had background checks in place?

Match.com doesn’t screen its members, and even if they did, they couldn’t guarantee that psychopaths wouldn’t make the cut.

Background checks can help eliminate people with a criminal background but they can’t stop people with no criminal history like this murderer. How can Match.com possibly know what someone will do in the future? If someone can get a gun, he can get a dating site profile.

You and only you are in charge of your destiny.

It’s up to online daters to read between the lines of a dating site profile. We have to use our gut feelings and our instincts. In this particular case, it was easy! James Holmes’ profile headline was:

“Will you visit me in prison?”

He knew he was about to do something that would put him behind bars.

So tip #1 is: Don’t ignore suspicious headlines.

Sure, you could dismiss a headline like that as a sign of a kooky sense of humor. But he could be serious and with so many other options online, why take a chance? This kind of a headline is a HUGE red flag.

(And on the flip side, when you’re creating your own profile, don’t use a headline that could raise eyebrows. Create curiosity. Summarize your life. But don’t wave a bright red flag.)

Here’s another example of a headline that should raise your suspicions. This is a real headline that… ahem, a “friend” of mine answered:

“One in a million.”

That headline could simply indicate confidence. In this case though it turned out to be a sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. People with this psychiatric problem often have grandiose tendencies. They tend to overplay their accomplishments and think very highly of themselves. (You can read more about dating a narcissist and how to avoid it here.)

So while you’re keeping an eye out for mass murderers and wannabe jailbirds, pay attention to signs of an arrogant attitude or people who claim they are the best thing in the universe. They could end up being the worst thing you ever dated.

Headlines aren’t the only place you should look for red flags though…

Tip #2: Read the rest of the profile carefully. ALL of it!

Pay attention to:

  • Baggage – Does the profile mention how hard it was to get divorced or what a psycho their ex wife was or how hard it is to date or how all women are gold diggers? Run, baby run! It’s too much baggage for anyone to handle!
  • Life attitude – What’s their take on life? Do they complain and blame everybody else for their problems? Are they pessimistic? Do they feel limited in what they can accomplish?  Or are they upbeat, optimistic and responsible? Those are views on life; make sure they match yours.
  • Values – What kind of values does the profile show? What do they care about most? If they emphasis that they are looking for someone “fit” or someone who “models” or “used to model” you can see that appearance is very important to them. What would happen if you were to gain a few extra pounds and a couple of wrinkles? There is more to someone than just how they look. Can they see it? Will they see it in you?
  • Occupation – This is a lifestyle issue. If the person behind the profile works 9-to-5 in a cubicle and you’re a free-spirited entrepreneur, you could have a lifestyle conflict. You might want to go for someone who is as free as you are. If they do art and are a bit on the dreamy side, but you’re super logical, you could run into frustration down the road. You might want someone more grounded.
  • Income – if you’re hoping for plenty of vacations and five-star hotels, don’t pick the guy or gal who makes less than $15,000 a year — unless of course, you don’t mind paying for everything. It’s not about being shallow; it’s about compatibility. You should find someone who matches your spending power.
  • Pets – Notice what they write about their furry, feathered or scaly friends. Is their dog their best pal who sleeps with them in the same bed? Do they have more than two cats… as well as twenty birds and a neckload of snakes? If you feel the same way, you’re match. Otherwise…

Reading someone’s profile can’t tell you everything about them but it can reveal a lot. Read the profile a few times. Pay attention to everything they write and even more importantly, notice how the profile feels in your gut. Your intuition can say NO even when their profile is perfectly written. It can also say YES when the profile doesn’t match your expectations.

If you find this article helpful, please share it with your friends, it can help them avoid meeting the wrong person online.

 

The most important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

A letter to women over 40 who haven’t found love yet!

Dear Woman over 40 who hasn’t found love yet,

I want you to Meet my friend Bobbi, she’s a dating coach and I think she has a VERY important message to share with you.

I like Bobbi because just like my other dating coach friends “The Amazing Clarks” she IS the real thing, she’s happy, has met her true life partner and she’s a dating coach who genuinely loves helping people. (Tip for anyone reading this, if you want to marry the man of your dreams then listen carefully to dating coaches with happy marriages who literally married the men of their dreams.)

“So whats so important about Bobbi”? I hear you say…What’s important about Bobbi is that she found love at 47.

If you are a single woman over forty, who is still hoping to meet the man of your dreams… If you’re tired of disappointing dates and feeling like it’s too late or too difficult…then please read on.

Put aside your fears.

Put aside your fears that it might be too late for you to discover love that will nourish you for the rest of your life.

I know, in those quiet moments…you feel sad thinking you will never enjoy the love and affection of a truly great man, you feel needy because a strong women like you shouldn’t feel like she needs anyone to be happy and you feel alone even though you have loving friends and family surrounding you because you feel like the only one who can’t find a man.

Listen to what Bobbi says.

“I know you and so many women like you. I was you not very long ago. You have a lovely and loyal circle of friends and you’re surrounded by nice things. Sometimes you even succeed in convincing yourself that it would be okay living the rest of your life without the love of a man-you’ve had to.
But we know the real truth, we know that all you have just isn’t enough. And when you think of sharing the great life you’ve created with someone you love — and who loves you — you know that could take your life to a whole new level of fulfillment and joy.”

How did Bobbi find (& keep) her dream man?

Well as an outsider I can tell you half the story. Half the story is how she found her man, the other half of her story is how she succeeded in dating him and keeping him!

In Bobbi’s words

When it came to finding her “dream man” let’s hear Bobbi’s words.

“I can honestly say that I wouldn’t have found and married the man of my dreams if it weren’t for my profile pictures. Literally within minutes of posting my new dating profile photos I started getting winks and emails—LOTS and LOTS of them, at least 5 times the number I had been receiving over the previous months.

The best part is that “Larry” was one of them. He winked at me within the first week after I posted my new pics; I winked back; he emailed me and told me that he loved my eyes and my smile. We emailed a few times, and finally met a couple weeks later. Within 6 WEEKS of meeting we planned our wedding. (To put this in perspective: I was 47 when we met and had never been married. I was truly waiting for my perfect match… and there he was!) On September 23rd, 2006, Larry and I got married. These have been the happiest times of our lives. I know from talking to him that it was the pictures that initially captured his interest. (Of course it’s my sparkling personality that also came through!) But honestly, Larry says he never would have even read my profile if it wasn’t for my “beautiful pictures.” I’ve read things like this for years and thought it would never happen to me. But it did!

Online dating does work and there is no question that having professional pictures taken is 100% critical to opening up the most possibilities, and the ultimate success: true love!

PS I finally talked my girlfriend into getting online and having you take her pics. Sure enough, she met the man of her dreams! The four of us spend time together and I can tell you that they, too, are another success story!)”

– Bobbi, Long Beach, CA

Bobbi’s dating profile photos

Here are Bobbi’s “before and after” dating profile photos for you to see for yourself!

The other half of the story

The other half of the Story is how Bobbi succeeded in dating and keeping her dream man. I’ll let her tell this side of the story (visit her website and she’ll give you all the tips and advice you need) Her expertise comes from decades of teaching, consulting, managing and mentoring people.  More importantly, it comes from becoming a first-time bride at age 47.

I hope you find the love you deserve
Warmest  regards

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