Today, we swipe left, we swipe right. We scroll through different dating platforms and make judgments within the first few seconds of seeing someone’s profile picture. In the world of online dating, those “first few seconds” can be the difference between finding a great partner and finding no one at all. Do you know what that means? Your profile picture has to be the best! It has to make the best first impression so that the next time someone stumbles upon your profile, they’ll start considering getting to know you and dating you.
If you have set up an online dating profile, you’re familiar with those butterflies in your stomach—that nervous, anxious feeling from the stress of wanting to look “just right.” Creating your online date look is not as easy as it sounds. You want to choose the best picture to make your life look interesting without being too flashy. You also want to answer questions in a way that shows your intelligence, humor, and fantastic personality.
The online dating industry is growing bigger than ever, reducing interactions and first impressions from a one-time date to spending a few seconds browsing through a person’s profile. With people growing even more particular about who they choose to interact with, it is vital to ensure that your online profile is ready to attract every like-minded person that you’d like to meet.
We now live in a world of swiping, instant gratification era. It only takes about three seconds to make that impact in the dating marketplace. You want to make sure that you have your best foot forward to get them swiping right and scoring that first date.
Online dating can be much fun and exciting. Despite the hustle and bustle of working life, single men and women looking for that perfect partner now rely on the power of online dating apps or websites. However, choosing the perfect photo for your profile can be an excruciating task. Remember, with online dating, you only have a split second to make a lasting impression, and profile photos are the best tool to create that impact.
Online dating is so new that not many people know how to navigate this tricky world of digital romance. One of the best ways to help yourself is knowing what NOT to do. Here are the 5 biggest turn offs committed by men and women in the online dating world.
1. Bad photos
Out of focus shots, too many group photos, low quality images, bad lighting and the list goes on. You want your online dating pics to show off the best you but also the real you. Make sure you have clear, in focus photos with decent lighting.
Your dating site profile should always be positive. It should show that you’re a happy, contented person who wants to be even happier and more contented, not a sad, lonely person who wants someone to cheer them up.
Nothing puts people off more than the whiff of desperation. No one wants to be a cheerleader for a losing side; they want to be part of the winning team.
Your dating profile could be too Needy or t0o Cold
Here are statements I see every day “I’ve waited my life for the perfect man and now it’s our time” or “I’m ready to be his one.” and “I’m looking for a love that’s devoted”
What the man reads
What the man reads is: “I rely on relationships for my happiness” or “I want to spend all my time right next to you and never leave you alone” and “I have impossible expectations”
While there may be a romantic element to these statements- Please don’t put it put in a dating profile- A good guide is “If you wouldn’t say it then don’t write it”.
The other side of the coin is that a women’s dating profile can end up too “Cold”…as if they don’t need a man
Women over 40 are the worst at this! They sound like they have no room in their busy lives for a relationship.
Statements like “I don’t need a man, but it would be nice to have one in my life.” Or, “I’m fine without a partner but I’ll make room only for the right one” are hardly going to make a guy feel special, or wanted, or show that you are available but still Thousands of women write these statements.
Guys want to feel needed yet not smothered…
And if you’re not sure about how much to write then shorter is usually better (Guys look at the photos more anyway!)
Something else to think about!
The stats are in on good dating photos. The more effort you put into looking your best, the more romantic options you’ll have and the better choices you have to avail yourself of. Don’t sell yourself short. You’ll want options going forward and whether you have one or two or dozens, you’ll want every one of them. Good photos give you options. Once you settle on one of your new options, the heartbreak you felt a month ago or a year ago will be a distant memory. Just like your ex…
Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!
I was asked by a customer in New York:
“What do you do when a customer wants natural dating photos but the weather’s cold”?
Dating photo tips from Melody
I recently asked talented LookBetterOnline photographer Melody about shooting dating photos when it’s cold and here’s her answer!
Hi Giles, it was an interesting coincidence, when I was asked to write something up for the LBO blog on ‘How do you make people comfortable in the dead of winter’, the following testimonial came in from my latest client:
“Melody was very good at finding a variety of locations for photographs, even in the cold weather! She was able to elicit different moods (from me) for the photos, and she was generous with her time.”
The same client also said
“Just because its winter, you still want to date, maybe even more so, a good partner can help you avoid the winter isolation and bring warmth and fun to the season”
What you want to do to is psych yourself up for a photo-shoot and dress for a winter date!
By getting your photos done during winter, you are ensuring that by late spring and summer you will have a friend, or more, to date and do things together.
Cold weather locations in New York
As a native New Yorker, I know all the ins and outs, nooks and crannies where I make sure that my clients are comfortable and interested. I myself am not a member of the Polar bear club, i.e., I don’t believe in walking more than one block in the cold.
All the places I use are all within a half to one block from all the subway stops. I use many unique and elegant places to get your shots. Usually we start at a very upscale hotel lobby in the Columbus Circle area. I even know of a ski lodge one block from the A train (see Moose heads in accompanying photo).
I also have a terrace with a startling view of the Time Warner building and Lincoln Center, where you can duck inside if it gets too cold. I have a press pass to shoot in the Time Warner Building itself, where the all glass atriums provide an urban outdoors–like lighting.
We are also a block and a half from Central Park South, surrounded with Pedi cabs and horse and buggies for added local backgrounds color (not to mention a few yards from unique cafes to duck into for shelter and a café.)
On a day when it is impossible to go outside, (a lot of rain or snow) I love the results in shooting in The Temple of Dendur, at the Metropolitan Museum of art, the authentic relocated remains of an Egyptian temple with one whole wall of glass window looks out at Central Park.
To book a session with Melody click HERE
On location shoots
One of the things I love about on location shoots, is that it’s impossible to feel self-conscious because you are so involved in new and interesting surroundings. If you are really shy though, I can find us more private places, including your office or apartment. Hopefully you’ll take my cue regarding public shooting, which is that it is very anonymous. Everybody has a camera and is usually focusing it on their friend, themselves, or upward at some vertical skyscraper. Sometimes I wish they would notice. But I find walking or shooting on the crowded streets of NY ironically is really a very private affair. . (unless you’re a famous celebrity).
All of these places have convenient and well-maintained rest rooms that can be used for changing outfits, if desired. (My recommendation for winter though, is to layer your outfits, so you don’t have to carry more than necessary.)
New York insider
Incidentally, I provide you with some good New York insider ideas for meetings and dates for the (near) future.
As a special bonus, if you book an early morning appointment with me, at the end of our shoot while you are selecting your photo picks, I like to take you to my new favorite breakfast place, for a fresh French pressed cup of coffee and the best donut I have ever had, at my treat!
To see more of Melody’s work or book a photo session with her click HERE