Dating Advice from the experts
I asked friends and dating experts “The Amazing Clarks” for advice for people who have an attractive online dating profile and can get dates but who are still in the process of finding the partner that they want. This is what they said:
Usually when people go on online dates they become closed and guarded. They do this for a number of possible reasons:
- They are afraid to make themselves vulnerable because they don’t want to get hurt.
- They are afraid that they may say or reveal something that will turn their date off and scare them away.
- They are just nervous and don’t know what to say or do.
Don’t be disappointed!
Being closed and guarded is guaranteed to ensure that you’ll have a disappointing dating experience. You have to open up on dates. You have to be prepared to make yourself vulnerable.
Think of yourself as a wonderful and entertaining book with pages and pages of interesting experiences, ideas, and dreams. If you only show your date the cover of your book (with cool profile pics) but prevent your date from experiencing the wonderful content inside… they’ll just put you back on the shelf.
And if you don’t let them read your book, then why would they reveal the inside of their wonderful book to you? Everybody loses.
When you are on an online date don’t be afraid to open up and make yourself vulnerable. Let your date see what’s inside you and show him or her who you really are right from the beginning. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not.
Be genuine. Be yourself. Be an open book.
It’s when you are your authentic self that you are the most fun to yourself… and to others. Your date will feel at ease and will reveal themselves too. And even if there is no romantic chemistry between you and your date, at least you will both have an enjoyable time.
What if they don’t like your book?
If you make yourself open and vulnerable and your date dislikes what they see, don’t take it personally. They’re not the one for you — and that’s okay. Continue to make yourself open and vulnerable because it’s only a matter of time before you attract online dates that will love and appreciate the authentic you (including your Mr or Mrs. Right.) Here are a few tips that can help:
Tips to help you remain open when online dating…
- Remember that you are being open in order to be yourself and have a good time.
- Don’t worry if your date is not into you; you wouldn’t have been a good match anyway.
- Opening up will inspire your date to do the same.
- Remaining open will enable your perfect partner to be able to immediately identify and find you.
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