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Bad dating advice to avoid

When it comes to dating everyone has an opinion.
Here are 2 of the WORST dating tips that I’ve heard!

1. Play hard to get

Don’t be available for a last minute dates…and wait before calling or texting him/her back.
Here’s the logic is to show them that you have a great life full of good things and great friends, who make you important and make them, want you. The problem with this advice is that you’ll risk missing some wonderful spontaneous moments and that you can miss quality people who just don’t like playing this game. Another version of this advice is the phrase “Treat em mean, keep em keen”-which is a guarantee to drive away anyone with good self-esteem

2. Don’t sleep with your date until “x” number of days

Some people advise that the longer you wait until you have sex the better relationship that you’ll have and then there are others who advise you to sleep with people more quickly (as if you’re not sexually compatible that it’s best to find out before you’re in love with someone.)
Now I’m not here to moralize, but what I do know is that you need to work out this number for yourself, for some people it may be no sex before marriage, for others it’ll work much faster…the key is to think about what works for you and avoid advice of others

Some Good Advice

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3 Dating tips if you’re over 60!

A death of a spouse or divorces have left many baby boomers single as they head toward their senior years.
If your over fifty, are still full of life and want to spend your remaining years with someone to love, then what can you do?

3 Simple tips

Here’s 4 simple tips to remember when dating!

Tip 1: You’re never too old to look good

It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are going on a date , it is critical that you look your best on a date. Buy a new outfit for a date, get a new haircut and do whatever you need to do to look your very best!

Tip 2: Choose the right dating website

Ourtime.com or SeniorPeoplemeet.com are great websites to begin to meet people.
But remember things have changed since you were dating so remember that when it comes dating online, be careful before giving out your personal information to anyone you meet on the internet and always meet in a public space the first few times you see someone.

Tip 3: Have fun (And don’t worry too much about your adult children)

It’s your life and you deserve to enjoy it and have fun!valentines day dating advice 001
For many seniors with adult children the following scenario is a common one- You meet someone special online and then when you share that you’re finally dating your adult children don’t approve!
For many disapproving adult children regardless of how old they are they still feel that “you’re no longer with mom/dad”, and the thought of you in another relationship hurts them.
On a rational level your adult child may not say “I don’t want you dating,” but their behavior may reveal this!
The best medicine is to talk to them and tell them that you deserve to find love…and while
it’s tough to have this conversation is important to have…you deserve the opportunity to find love!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

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What To Put On A Dating Site Profile… And What To Leave Out

Important Tool

Your dating site profile is the most important tool you have to find love online—and fast. It’s the identity that you put forward to other online daters, it’s what people see when they’re looking for people like you and it’s all you’ve got to make a first impression and pull in the proposals.

No Exaggeration

It’s not an exaggeration to say that all that lies between you and the end of your single days is the skill with which you complete your profile.

The kind of information that you’ll be asked to reveal about yourself will vary from service to service. Dating sites put a huge amount of effort into coming up with the right questions to make matching easy without putting off new members. Some sites for example, will ask you to tick just a handful of boxes and write one short paragraph. Others will have section after section that grill you about your personality, your interests, your hopes and your history.

All sections

In general, it’s a good idea to complete all the sections of a dating site profile however many they may be. You don’t have to do it all in one sitting and you can certainly come back to fill in the gaps later, but as long as you have spaces in your profile that remain unfilled you can give the impression of looking evasive and less than completely serious.

The good news

dating adviceThe bulk of the profile won’t take long to complete. Even the most demanding sites don’t ask you to write more than three or four mini-compositions about yourself and your ideal date, and the majority of just about any dating site profile is always a series of checkboxes about your likes and dislikes.

Fill these sections in as accurately and as quickly as you can and move on. For the most part, online daters skip right past these parts of the profile. They look too much like shopping lists. Mostly they help the site’s matching engine far more than the dater looking for a match. The fact that someone likes jazz more than rock, or comedies more than documentaries, doesn’t really tell you whether they’re going to like you—or whether you’re going to like them.

Important

A few checkboxes though are important. When you come to tell the world the age range of the person you’re looking for, it’s important to be realistic. Many men in particular like to think that because there are so many women on the Internet, they can use it as a way to meet women half their age. That’s not impossible but at best it’s going to need a long wait and at worst, it’s going to be a complete waste of time.

All sorts

Internet dating can bring all sorts of people together. It can certainly match people up who are looking for something very specific—and even a little unusual. But when you begin looking for someone online, you want your profile to be as inclusive as possible. Once the emails come in, you can then start to focus on the most attractive responses. If you’d like to meet someone in their early twenties for example but would also be happy with someone in their mid-thirties then it’s best to choose a wide age range that casts a big net than focus on one particular group and change when you feel you’re not having any luck.

Age

When it comes to describing your own age range though, honesty is always the best policy. There’s always a temptation for people in their early-somethings to shave a few years off and slip back into an earlier decade. It happens a lot (and it’s a good reason to be suspicious of people who claim to be aged 29 or 38 etc.) But it’s just not worth it. At some point you will have to spill the beans and spilling them in front of someone you really want to impress is far worse than being honest to someone you haven’t met and might never meet. If the passing single really doesn’t want to date someone your age, it’s best not to meet them at all than date them and get the rejection face-to-face.

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How to Avoid online dating scammers!

A lot of people

Millions of Americans use online dating sites to meet people, but “online dating scammers” also use these sites to meet “victims”. They make fake profiles to fool you into an online relationship with them, and eventually convince people to SEND MONEY in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money.

Not stupid

An online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist, and you don’t have to be stupid…often when we want to find love that we are more vulnerable than usual

Don’t be paranoid

OK so the purpose of this BLOG isn’t to make you paranoid or disillusioned! Despite the scammers online dating can still be a great way to meet someone special, but don’t forget to follow these 3 simple tips to make your experience safer.

1. Don’t give away personal information

Imagine meeting a stranger in a bar and he (or she) asks you for personal details, imagine him or her asking you for your Email, phone number or street address. Now you’d probably decline, yet online people often fail to see just how unsafe this is!

Your full identity

Remember that you don’t want to reveal your full identity until you can feel that you know the person a bit better– remain anonymous until you feel ready. Take advantage of most of the dating websites “member-to-member” messaging that protects you identity until you decide to reveal who you are
And also, leave any personal contact information out of your profile or username.

2. Never send Money.

Ignore ALL requests to send money-even if the person claims to be in an emergency. If someone asks for money it’s because they ARE a scammer…would you ask someone you met when online dating for money? Of course you wouldn’t-Yet thousands of people are scammed each year doing just this….DON”T send money for sick kids parents or ANYTHING!

3. Watch the language

Look closely at messages that people send you. The scammer will often send you an email which is full of bad grammar, for example.

“By the way I’m Green I am professional Doctor “…

OR

Hello, I go through you profile its look nice and lovely

Match.com also gives great advice…they say:

“Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or asks for personal information. There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you’re dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who”…

• Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service
• Claims to be from U.S. but currently travelling, living or working abroad
• Vanishes mysteriously from the site, then reappears under a different name
• Talks about “destiny” or “fate”
• Claims to be recently widowed
• Asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts
• Makes an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors
• Sends you emails containing strange links to third-party websites

Something else to think about!

The stats are in on good dating photos. The more effort you put into looking your best, the more romantic options you’ll have and the better choices you have to avail yourself of. Don’t sell yourself short. You’ll want options going forward and whether you have one or two or dozens, you’ll want every one of them. Good photos give you options. Once you settle on one of your new options, the heartbreak you felt a month ago or a year ago will be a distant memory. Just like your ex…

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

3 reasons to be happy if you’re over 40 and online dating

Recently I was speaking with a friend of mine who got divorced a couple of years ago and had begun dating again…he was telling me how he hated online dating and that he felt disadvantaged as an older person.

Well my friend I wanted to give you 3 reasons why you can feel glad that you’re dating and over 40 so here goes!

Your previous relationships have made you wiser

Knowing yourself better and knowing what you want/don’t want in a relationship is a huge advantage. You know who you are, what’s important and you’re less likely to depend on a relationship to solve your problems too!

More money to enjoy dates.

Remember being younger and scraping together enough money to take your date to dinner or a movie? Most people have a little more money to spend on dating as they get older.

No biological clock

No pressure to get married and have kids…this sounds pretty good doesn’t it!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

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How to Catch a Catfish Online Dating Scam

The term Catfishing used to mean going fishing for a particular, bottom feeder with no scales. Now, in the digital revolution, it means setting up a fake, online profile to trick an unsuspecting person into a relationship. Many people catfish simply because they’re lonely but some people use the scam to get their victims to send them large sums of money.

How to protect yourself online

Nearly a quarter of all relationships begin online these days and it’s more convenient to meet people from the privacy of your living room than it is to go out to a crowded bar or night club. Unfortunately, this practice leaves you vulnerable to the Catfishing scam. Fortunately, there are a few ways to avoid being scammed.

Meet in person

First off, you should only start a relationship with people in your area. This way you can request to meet in person and if the other party persistently refuses, it should raise a red flag in your head. Another way to catch a Catfish is by requesting a session on Skype. This is the best alternative to actually meeting face-to-face and if the person you’re talking to refuses to Skype with you, they’re probably not the person in the pictures on their profile.

If the other party is refusing

You may already be emotionally involved with the other party and you feel they’re being honest but you have to think with your head and not your heart. If the other party is refusing to let you see them face-to-face then you’re more than likely dealing with a catfish and it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. Give the other party an ultimatum and let them know that you doubt they’re the person on their profile pictures. If they still refuse to meet or Skype with you, be strong and move on. It may be difficult initially but you’ll probably save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run.

An InfoGraphic to put things in perspective

Sandra from Instantcheckmate.com. kindly sent me this infographic on the phenomena of “Catfishing” I thought I’d share it with you to help you learn more about catfishing and Protect yourself.
To put things into perspective lots of people find love (Online dating is responsible for 120,000 marriages a year) so remember to follow these simple rules and you’ll have a better experience online.

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Also think about this!

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3 things to look for when reading Online Dating Profiles

The fact is, much of what you find on most profiles actually tells you very little. When you see a profile that says, “My friends would describe me as…” you can usually expect the usual series of adjectives that include reliable, attractive, honest, dependable etc., all of which are probably true but don’t really tell you what makes the person unique—or uniquely attractive.

Pay Attention

Often, all you need to pay attention to is the first thing that someone puts on their profile:

dating profile 001I’m a Christian woman. I’m not perfect and I have my faults but I know the difference between right and wrong and try to live my life that way. I don’t drink or do drugs and wouldn’t date a man who does. I like the smell of rain, barn dancing, slow drives in the country and long evenings in front of the fire.

Believe it or not, you’ll find lots of profiles like this on dating sites, profiles in which the very first sentence tells you everything you need to know. The writer has placed her values front and foremost, and it’s fairly clear what kind of relationship she’s looking for—and what kind of man.

Not all profiles are that obvious though. You certainly might find plenty of profiles that say that the single behind it likes Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera, choices which speak volumes about their musical taste and makes clear that there’ll be no fighting over the music collection if things don’t work out. But how someone writes can reveal as much about who they are, where they’re from and where they’d like to go as what they write.

It’s often possible to spot a number of small signs that give a clue to the writer’s background, personality and most important, compatibility.

1. Spelling

There are two kinds of profiles: those with spelling mistakes and those without. And it’s not just the misspelled words that tell you about the writer’s writing skills—or their ability to use spellcheck—it’s also the use of numbers instead of letters, dodgy punctuation and missing capitals.

dating profile 002This happens a lot in online communications and there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with skipping spelling rules (although it’s always best to follow them, if only for the sake of clarity). But a tendency to leave writing laws in the dust does say much about the person doing the writing—and whether you’d make a good match.

In general, people who write “4 u” instead of “for you”, tend to be young, trendy and… a bit lazy. They’re more comfortable with SMS messaging and online chatting than sitting and writing words in full.

That’s fine if you’re the same. If you can’t understand why “too” has three letters instead of two, especially when you can write it “2”, then dating someone who’s “looking 4 u” could work out just fine. But if you’re infuriated at people’s inability to write properly, then dating someone who likes to take the shortcut to creating sentences might not be for you at all

2. Humor

When you’ve seen a lot of dating site profiles, you’ll quickly notice that just about everyone online seems to be looking for a date with a sense of humor. The Internet is not a good place for po-faced dullards to find their other halves.

Unfortunately, few profiles seem to show the qualities their writers are looking for. Most people tend to take a pretty straightforward approach to creating their profile. That’s not entirely their fault. There aren’t many great jokes that begin “About Me And My Match” and even Chris Rock would find it a challenge to be funny in the small amount of space you can find on most dating site profiles.

That means that on the one hand, it’s not a good idea to hold a lack of wit against someone you see online. They might be a scream in real life and your date might be filled with unending laughter but when it comes to getting across their humor on their profile, they could have just come up a bit short.

On the other hand, if you do see someone who looks good and has a profile that makes you smile, send out an email as soon as you spot it. If someone can make you laugh with what they squeezed into their self-description, imagine how much fun the date will be!

3. Integrity

It would be great if you could judge the level of someone’s integrity just by seeing what they write on their profile. But it’s just not that easy. No one ever writes in their self-description, “I’m unreliable, unfaithful, deceitful and selfish. I’ll hit on your pals, stand you up on dates and if you think I’m really going to hang around for a long-distance relationship, you can think again. At the first sign you’re getting serious, I’ll be heading for the hills.”

No one ever writes that, but you might find ages that seem at odds with the look in the picture, income ranges that are pitched way too high for someone who works in catering or retail, or occupations that just don’t seem to match the level of education.

Now, it’s perfectly possible that there’s a perfectly good explanation for what to you looks like a strange discrepancy. But if you’re already raising questions about your potential date’s integrity, do you really want to enter into a relationship with them—and begin by having to decide whether you believe their answers?

Trying to read between the lines of the information you’ve got on a dating site profile isn’t easy. But with so little to go on before you send out that first email and so many people to choose from, you’ll find yourself doing it without even noticing. In all, the best policy is to trust your instincts. If something someone writes gets your goat, the best policy is to give them the elbow. If you find yourself attracted to the wit in someone’s self-description, then shoot them out an email and see what they say back!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit www.LookBetterOnline.com and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Building A Relationship Online

When you begin a relationship with someone you’ve met offline, you can often have a pretty good idea of how things are going to develop.

The first stage

step1It usually starts with physical attraction. That could be a look across a crowded room, a double-take as you’re crossing the street, a sideways glance on the subway or any of the other million ways of making eye contact and hoping it leads to a conversation.

That’s the first stage.

Then there’s the getting-to-know-you stage: the first date, the second date, the weekend dates and eventually, the first all-night date. Those are the weeks and months when you try to figure out how much you like each other, whether you’d be prepared to make the sort of changes that every individual has to make when they become part of a couple, and whether you really do have a future as a pair. It’s a time of adjustment and doubt, but also of hope and expectation. And yes, often of disappointment too. That’s the second stage.

Finally, if all goes well, there’s the shift into permanent couplehood. This is the third, final and longest lasting stage of the relationship when you begin to see the future in terms of “us” and “we” instead of “I” and “me.” That’s the third stage.

A little different

Online, relationships develop a little differently.

First of all, love at first sight is even rarer online than it is offline. While it’s not impossible for you to feel a quick thrill when you spot a pic of a great-looking hottie who lives near you and meets your criteria, it’s not quite the same feeling as suddenly seeing a drop-dead gorgeous person standing next you on the bus or alongside you at the bar. You only get to see fireworks when you meet in the flesh.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Often the relationships that start with the biggest bang can burn themselves out pretty quickly. If online relationships tend to have cooler beginnings that only gives them the opportunity to warm up slowly and develop a heat that burns longest.

It also means you’re less likely to put all your eggs in one basket.

Hundreds of emails

When you spot someone truly fantastic on a dating sitea, your first thought is likely to be that that person must get hundreds of emails.

You’re probably right. They probably do. But that certainly shouldn’t stop you from writing as well. You’ve got nothing to lose except the few minutes it takes to scoot out a quick email—and a lifetime of happiness to gain.

But knowing that you’re certainly not the only person to have seen that profile—and written to the person behind it—will mean that you’re not going to rely on that one option in the same way that you might have done if you’d met them on the bus. What it will do though is free you up to send lots more emails out to lots of other people. If it’s considered bad form to hit on more than one person at a time offline, online it’s the best strategy for lining up successful dates. With less early passion, you don’t just get longer-lasting passion, you also get more chances at a life of passion.

Second stage

That first look and first email marks the end of the first stage of online dating. The second stage is online flirting. This isn’t quite the same as dating. Dating means going out, having fun, meeting in person and checking out the chemistry. Online flirting is nothing more than the quick flurry of short emails that lets you both get a slight feel for each other’s personalities.

Normal and compatible

For the most part, this stage is about not making any mistakes. You each want to make sure that you’re normal people with the kind of compatible social skills that lets you make a go of it. You want to be certain that your new pal—a new pen-pal at this stage—is capable of holding a conversation, shows curiosity about the kinds of things you put on your profile, is genuinely interested in the same things that you are and is capable of communicating. If someone sends you a series of giant emails stuffed with family photos, filled with their entire life history and laying out their opinion on everything from the state of Africa to the sex life of Zebras before you even get a chance to reply to their first effort, then you might think they’re a bit weird.

Similarly, if they take a month to send a reply to your “I’m fine, thanks for writing. How are you?” it’s a fair bet that they’re going to be too flaky to build a reliable relationship.

Once you’ve both decided that you can each write a normal email as well as create an inviting profile, you can then begin to move the relationship offline.

Think About This!

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Online dating tips: How to write a first message that gets results (Part 3)

Writing a first email to someone with an interesting profile is dead easy (To see Part 1 of this article CLICK HERE To see Part 2 of this article CLICK HERE)

Long boring emails

Three-word emails cluttering up your inbox might be infuriating, but at least they don’t take long to read. If they’re not the kind of thing that’s likely to get you writing back, you can give them a quick glance and knock them straight out of your inbox.

Emails that seem to last forever are a whole different game. They take ages to read. They contain all sorts of uninteresting information and they describe every little detail of the writer’s life from their love of overripe cheese to how they supercharged their car using nothing more than empty toilet rolls and spit—complete with blueprints, sketches and diagrams

What you’ll rarely find in emails like these is any sign of you. They’ll be all about the writer—and about all of the writer—and pretty much ignore you and your interests.

If an email like that sounds dull to read, just imagine how the date would be.

For two hours, you can expect nothing more than a monotonous monologue that demands that you pay your full attention… and get just about nothing in return.

Of course, if you have the time to read emails that are the length of a short book—and you don’t mind doing it—then you can still look at the profile and see if you think the face outweighs the risk of being bored. They’ve got to be pretty good-looking though to make it worth your while. Long, boring first emails do show that your possible partner-to-be is interested—but mostly in themselves.

If you have a good enough profile, with great pictures and a well-written description, there’s a good chance that you still won’t have enough time to write back to everyone who drops you a line. Many dating sites allow you send automated messages to anyone who writes to you. If you see that you’re getting far too many emails to answer, make sure that everyone who writes gets an automated message back saying that you’re away from the site for a few days but you’ll answer as soon as you can.

Sure, it’s not exactly the truth. But it’s a lot better than saying “You’re one of hundreds who have written to me. If I think you’re attractive enough, I’ll drop you a line. If you don’t hear from me, don’t feel bad.”

The chances are, if you don’t write back in a few days they’ll already have moved on and will assume that you have too. In the meantime, you’ll have kept your options open without actually handing out a rejection that you might later regret.

How you choose who to wrote to will depend of course on what you’re looking for. In general though, you can expect to cut out people who use canned emails, who ask for personal information and who don’t seem to want to spend the time to develop even a short online relationship before taking it out to the real world

Off the Internet, we often find ourselves slapping our foreheads as we make our lonely way home from bars and parties thinking, ‘Why didn’t I say that?!” or “Why didn’t I make my move when I had the chance?”

On the Web, you’ve got the time to think of the right thing to say. You’ve got models you can use to create the kind of approaches that invite responses and get relationships rolling.

But it doesn’t matter how great your first email. It doesn’t matter whether you ask a perfect question that the person you’re writing to will barely be able to resist answering or whether you capture their attention with a truly original letter

The first thing someone’s going to do when they get your email is check your profile.

The fact is, in the end, everything comes down to the profile. If your picture still isn’t professional, if your descriptions are dull, colorless and un-enticing, then it’s still pretty unlikely that you’re going to get a response no matter what you write in the letter.

Your profile is always the most important part of the online dating process…