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Don’t be afraid of the silence…

Most people run away from silence in when on a date, they feel it’s awkward, they feel like it’s tough to connect with people and that silence is a lack of communication.

Afraid

The problem for many of us is that we’re afraid of silences; Dating “experts” and coaches tell us that silence is “like quicksand”, that silence is awkward and that trying to connect is “nerve-wracking” or to focus on starting a conversation.

5 Practical dating tips

1. Don’t spend too much time on the phone before a date.

A brief, 5- to 10-minute conversation is enough to get a feeling of who they are and pave the way to a comfortable first date. Long conversations can create a lot of expectations and tension that can spoil a first date…Remember to let things unfold naturally

2. Appetizers or a drink NOT dinner.

Much less pressure.

3. Dress appropriately

Something that you feel comfortable and confident in as the last thing you want on a first is to worry about how you look.

4. Phone OFF

Unless you have kids then turn it OFF!

5. Don’t set your expectations too high.

Chill out and let things unfold naturally Simply go to your date with the idea to have fun and get to know the other person, instead of seeing whether they are “The One”

Do you know the data behind dating photos?

Did you know that Dating giants OK Cupid/Match.com examined 11.4 million photos and found that people who post a certain
type of dating photo get 2-4 times better results?

LEARN what 95% of people DONT know about their Dating Photos that is often stopping them from meeting someone special Click here (And then scroll down the page to see DATING PROFILE PHOTO SECRETS)

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3 Tips on how to “Break the Ice” on a first date, and have way more fun.

1. Pick the right location!

Choose a date that can create easy conversation. Going to the Movies is not necessarily the best choice because most of the date is spent in silence! If your date likes going to galleries or a museum or even a sporting event then these kinds of dates make for easy conversation.

2. Ask good questions

Ask your date questions and show an interest, (And Don’t to get too personal too)

3. Chill out and make peace with Silence

When you are nervous, you tend to create small talk!
Small talk might help pass the time, but it won’t help you really get to know your, let go of the need to constantly talk, and sit comfortably in a natural silence. Chilling out when you date will also help them feel more comfortable too! And you’ll stand a better chance of finding out – remember that it’s not a race to get to know people and let things unfold naturally.

4. Help your date

During your time dating, you’re likely to find yourself on a date with someone who is more nervous than you. Know that this is normal and gently help them to relax and enjoy your date.

Do you know the data behind dating photos?

Did you know that Dating giants OK Cupid/Match.com examined 11.4 million photos and found that people who post a certain
type of dating photo get 2-4 times better results?

LEARN what 95% of people DONT know about their Dating Photos that is often stopping them from meeting someone special Click here (And then scroll down the page to see DATING PROFILE PHOTO SECRETS)

kirsten

How to enjoy a date (Even if there’s no Chemistry)

A Question

I have the answer to a question that I bet you’ve asked yourself when online dating!…First, Here’s the question:

“What do I do when I meet someone on a first date and find that there’s ZERO chemistry?

A couple of years ago

I was dating, I had great photos, a good profile and was dating people each week. I met a nice woman and after talking on the phone we decided to go on a “First date.”

I’m waiting outside the Hotel Valencia, in La Jolla, California.(I’d planned that we’d have a nice glass of wine, watch the sunset in the ocean and get to know each other) I’d checked the sunset times, arrived early so that I could relax and dressed sharp.

My date arrives and she’s clearly 100lbs heavier (Literally) than she looked in her photos! Now I’ve nothing against people who are larger…I love curves in a woman I’m just not attracted to her body type so there’s no chemistry!

So what are my options at this point:

Option 1: I can be upset and leave
Option 2: I can be polite and quietly disappointed
Option 3: I can choose to be happy, have no expectations of the evening and focus on the positive.

Most people I’ve spoken with go for Option 2, it’s easier, no one want’s to confront their date, so most people suffer in silence and go home feeling disappointed and frustrated.

Before joining LookBetterOnline I had the benefit of talking with good friends of mine, The Clarks (Dating experts on the Dr. Drew TV show.)

They told me “Get great photos , forget the pressure of dating, meet people you feel would be a good match and have zero expectations on dating- You’ll be relaxed and you’ll enjoy the process of dating until you find that someone special”.

Back to the story of zero chemistry.

I ordering a glass of Champagne watched the sunset in the ocean, remained focused on the positive and found that she was really passionate about her job, had great values and made me laugh. We enjoyed our time and when it came to the end of the evening I told her truthfully and with compassion “While I don’t feel a spark I enjoyed our evening and I hope you’ll find someone special” We hugged, (in a genuine way) there was no uncomfortable silence and I came home feeling like I’d had a good time, no disappointment or frustration.

Dating without expectations allowed me to enjoy dating until I found the girl of my dreams!

It IS possible

I KNOW it’s possible to find love online…I met the girl of my dreams online…yet I so nearly missed her because she had average unremarkable photos, I even deleted her emails! And it wasn’t until she posted great photos that I even noticed her!

Some Good Advice

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates; See how our great dating photographers who create profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Online dating tips: 4 tips to know if a guy likes you?

Vulnerable

It can make us feel uncomfortable and vulnerable when we feel attractive someone but aren’t sure if the feeling is a mutual one.

4 Simple tips

Here are 4 simple tips to know whether he’s interested in you…or not!

1. Body language

Body language IS the easiest “Tell” when it comes to understanding if a guy is attracted to you.

  • He leans towards you a lot, If he’s getting in your “Personal space’ then often this is a sign of major attraction invasion is a sign of major interest.
  • The direction of his hands, feet, legs, toes, etc. If they’re pointed toward you, it’s a indicator of his interest in you…also “Mirroring your actions” is a subconscious sign of Attraction so if If you notice him mirroring your body language then it’s likely that he finds you attractive.
  • Eye contact! If he looks at you a lot then he is likely to be attracted to you

2. Compliments

If he tells you you look nice then this is a good sign!

3. Give the guy a break!

One of the keys to find out if he’s interested in you is to help him relax! If he likes you and he’s nervous about getting the chance to get closer to you because he doesn’t want to “Blow the date” then you notice he’s talking too much so simply help him relax a little and allow the date to unfold naturally!

4. If you’re not sure

So what if you’re unsure?
Well you can ask him gently at the end of the date…did you enjoy our date? Most guys will let you know at this point if they did!

Some Good Advice

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates; See how our great dating photographers who create profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

The Chemistry of Love…OxyTocin and Dating for women? (And Men)

..Whether you like Science or Psychology or not here’s some interesting information!

Love is a Chemical?

Do you think LOVE is just a chemical reaction? or is there more to this? or are we plain and simply directed by are hormones?

There’s a hormone called Oxytocin that’s (Often referred to as the “love molecule”, Oxytocin is linked with helping couples establish intimacy)

What does this mean to Daters?

What does this mean to us when we’re dating?

Imagine going on a date with a man who you really like.  Imagine a romantic date You feel great and this is due to the powerful hormone called Oxytocin.

As the date goes on, you feel a real connection with this guy and after the date you go back to your apartment and make out….now your Oxytocin levels are really high and this  which releases even more of this “bonding chemical”.  With all this Oxytocin circulating in your system, you fell so “right” and s connected!

Some people would say that Oxytocin just like a drug removes your rational thought process and before long in your mind you’ve convinced yourself that he is your perfect match and you barely even know him!  While you’re dreaming of your perfect  future together, he’s just thinking that this is great sex.

Is this the reason that many women share too much/bond too quickly and end up getting hurt?

Bonding with the wrong people

And what happens if you feel Bonded with someone who’s just NOT right for you? (Just about everyone I’ve ever met has experienced this)

Deep down, you know he’s wrong for you, but you’re addicted to this Oxyticin  ‘high’ and just like a drug addict, you  keep going back for more.

Rational Mind

Taking a step back and seeing if this person is right for you is a good strategy…when we know rationally that someone’s a good choice AND we feel a strong bond then we’ve found a good match, when there’s just passion then walk away! (No Matter How you feel!)
Source: BestPsychologyDegrees.org

Think About This too!

Before you get a date you need to attract someone special!
Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, we all look at the photos first! so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Awful Statistics on Date Rape (And how to avoid it)

No Intention

I had no intention to even write this post , writing this blog post isn’t easy, or fun or what many people might want to read. I had originally wanted to write a guide for women about staying safe when online dating!

Shocking statistics

But the reason I’m writing this is because while researching for to write the LookBetterOnline dating tip Blog that I came across some statistics that really shocked me:

  • Approximately one in four college aged women is date raped or experiences an attempted date rape during her college years.
  • Eighty-four percent of women who have been date raped knew their attackers.
  • Women between the ages of 16-24 are four times more likely to be date raped than any other age group.
  • Approximately 90% of date rapes happen with alcohol involved.

These statistics really got my attention! And made me angry to just read them, so here’s some practical advice to avoid date rape, and please pass this on to your friends who have daughters…if 1 woman can avoid this scenario then I will have fulfilled the purpose of writing this post.

Simple Tips to avoid date rape

Use good judgment and always meet initial dates in public, don’t allow anyone to come to your home immediately and don’t be pressured into inviting an individual into your home, even it’s for having a glass of water or using the bathroom.

Don’t get in a strange man’s car

Make your own travel arrangements when going to a date (If you have no transportation, call a cab rather than getting in a strange man’s car)…I know this sounds such simple advice.

Let a friend know

Always let a friend or family member know that you’re going on a date and where you’re going.

Trust your gut

Never be afraid to leave an uncomfortable environment. If your instincts are warning you to be afraid of a person or a situation, leave immediately…trust your gut. (Any decent man will understand and support you for doing this)

If You decide to drink…

If you decide to drink alcohol then don’t leave your drink unattended. If you think someone put something in your drink then find somewhere safe to go, call a friend to come and pick you up and go to the hospital and if this isn’t an option then call the police…

The bottom line is to know that alcohol impairs our judgment. The more you drink the more you are at risk. Keep yourself to a 1-2 drink limit, avoid secluded places and be aware of your own personal safety especially when with acquaintances and strangers.

Last thoughts and please share

NEVER feel obligated to kiss anyone simply because they paid for drinks or dinner. NEVER be obligated to engage in sexual activity with anyone who you don’t want to and never forget that NO means NO.

Please share this article if you know someone who’s at risk…