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How to Text Men – Easy Tips

I was watching the news and there was a story about using cell phones while driving! The story went on to say that 1.3 million accidents a year are caused by texting and driving! And that Over 18.5 billion text messages are sent each month, while I don’t know whether that fact is true or not I do know that these days almost everyone on the planet uses text messages.

Many people get completely confused when texting and dating

Meet Dating Expert Joann Cohen

Joann has Master’s in Education with a concentration in Human Relations and Counseling and had been featured by TV guide, Fox news, USA today, TLC, ABC and many others ( To find out more about her visit www.joanncohen.com/  )

Joann’s easy tips

So you’ve got the number of a cute guy and you’re wondering about how to text men.  Maybe you’re texted and found he disappeared and you wondered if you didn’t know how to text men.  Here are some simple ways to how to text and keep it fun and interesting.

Turn off auto-correct

Perhaps the first tip to give on texting  is to turn off auto-correct.  There are several websites dedicated to the troubles with auto-correct and you’ll see funny examples where the intended message of “We hope” was auto-corrected first to “We hop,” “We hopping,” “We home” and “Wawa skittletits”. So you will easily see auto-correct is often more trouble than its worth.  Once you’ve done that, or have decided to embrace the randomness it can bring, I’ve got some other tips on how to text men.
So you’ve meet a guy, he seems nice, and you want to text him to see where that leads.  The question is, then, just how do you get the texting started?

Start a conversation with a question

One of the better ways to get a conversation started is with a question, but one that requires an actual answer.  ”Hey how are you?” will net a “Fine” at best.  Try instead something about himself.  Ask something like “Did you do well at your softball game last weekend?” and he’ll be ready to text for hours.

To keep the conversation going, make sure you are as engaged in the conversation as you want him to be.  You would find it a little difficult to text someone who is only saying “yes,” “no,” and “LOL!” so make sure you aren’t doing that too.  You may, in fact, be “laughing out loud,” but add something on top of that.  That will help keep interest piqued.

 

Communication is a 2 way street!

Remember too that it’s not all about him.  You may start the conversation with a question about his interests, but he should want to know more about you as well.  When you are texting, not only are you making sure he knows your interested in him, but you’re also trying to make sure that you are interesting to him.  Talk about recent events in your life or mention something you are passionate about; this way he’ll know just what sort of person you are.

Finally

When it’s time to draw the text conversation to a close, actually draw it to a close.  Unlike a phone conversation, there’s no audible “hanging up” with texting.  It’s better to text something like “This is so much fun, but I have to go (somewhere), so I’ll text you again later.”  That way neither of you are staring at the phone thinking “Where did they go?!?” and you can actually go on with your lives.  Be specific for your reasons for leaving, by the way; it’ll give him a chance to have something ask you about.

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5 Ways To Get Over Being Cheated On And Not Bring It Into Your Next Relationship

For anyone who reads my posts, you’ll already know that I love Dating coaches “The Amazing Clarks”

Anthony & Melanie Clark ( Click here to find out more about them )have a fresh, new REVOLUTIONARY approach to love and dating that I’ve seen change people’s lives…How’s that for a shameless plug?

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The Clarks are spiritual, but not religious; straight, but not narrow, and have a success record that shows that they’re real, not fake.  They’ focus on real transformation, not the regurgitated fluff offered by a lot of relationship “experts”.

A Question and an answer.

A good friend of mine recently asked me the question of “How do I get over being cheated on”?

Here’s what the Clarks have to say about how to get over being cheated on.

1. No More Contact…

The first thing you need to do is to cut off all contact with your ex. No phone calls, no texting, and no driving by their house late at night. Right now you are both very emotional and any attempts to communicate will likely backfire and lead to even more pain and conflict. It’s not worth the risk!

2. No More Dating…

Even though you may be tempted, refrain from jumping back into the dating scene or into another romantic relationship at this time. Right now you are emotionally vulnerable. The last thing that you need is to find yourself back in another unwanted committed relationship or romantic predicament. Don’t worry, you’ll get back in the game again, but not just right now.

3. Give Yourself 2 Weeks to Be Upset:

After being cheated on, some friends and family members may try to discourage you from crying and being upset, but not us. When a loved one cheats on you, being angry and crying is a very natural response that can also be extremely therapeutic. The key is to not stay upset for too long. We recommend that you give yourself 2 weeks maximum to cry and get it all out of your system. And after the 2 weeks are up, wipe your tears and get back to your life.

4. Make Peace with Where You’re At…

The next step is for you to make peace with your situation and learn to forgive your ex. This is extremely vital because you cannot have a better romantic future unless you make peace with your romantic past. Below are 5 new perspectives you need to tell yourself in order to accomplish this:

• I did nothing wrong — my ex was the one with the dishonesty problem!
• I appreciate the good memories and hope the best for my ex!
• My ex was obviously not the one for me — I’m grateful it was revealed!
• All men/women are not cheaters — there are a lot of trustworthy men/women!
• I am grateful to be free and to have a second chance to find my real true love!

5. Step Up Your Game…

This is your opportunity to finally attract the amazing romantic partner that you’ve always wanted and deserved. But in order to do this you have to be the most amazing “you” possible. Take advantage of this new beginning by doing exciting things like getting a makeover, hitting the gym and creating a sexier body, meeting new friends and discovering new passions. Most importantly, have fun and enjoy being single. When you eventually meet your true love, you’ll realize that your cheating ex did you a huge favor.

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Dating On a Budget

For many people times are tough!

Today’s post is kindly written by my friend Dave…if you are feeling the downturn, have lost your job, or house or just haven’t the money you used to then I hope in some small way that reading it will help you.

Dating On a Budget

Many men think that having money, power and influence are the most important attributes we need to attract and hold onto that special member of the opposite sex. While I can honestly say that those things contribute to our overall sex appeal, they are not, in and of themselves, the most important ones for a lasting relationship, or for starting one you want to pursue. First, you should know that I have occupied both ends of the “money, power and influence” scale. I know exactly what it feels like to live on both ends and the impact that living on either end has on the opposite sex.

I can tell you without blanching that being attentive, supportive, a good listener and being romantic are far and away more important than being rich, powerful and influential alone. That said, it certainly wouldn’t hurt your cause to be attentive, supportive, a good listener and romantic and rich and powerful, but let’s not go there today. What we want to discuss is just how important those alleged “lesser” attributes count, and in particular how they apply to the rituals of dating and how you can successfully date on a budget.

The first thing you want to get out of your head

The first thing you want to get out of your head is the idea of making yourself appear more rich, powerful or influential than you are. You’ll do this at your own risk. Such a charade is rife with pending failure. It’s a train wreck waiting to happen. Don’t do it.  You can do this accidentally by trying too hard to “big time” her on that first date. Believe me it will show. You will embarrass yourself and her, too. So get it out of your head that you have to take her to the most expensive restaurant in town on that first date. Let those lesser attributes shine through and take her somewhere modest if that’s all you can afford. It will work to your advantage to be honest.

Find Somewhere Different and New – and Inexpensive to Take Her

Dating on a budget takes some planning and research. Start by going online and finding truly interesting or unusual places to go or eat in – that are not expensive. That’s a simple idea that you can leverage the hell out of. I’ve never met a woman yet that will turn down an invitation to eat in some unusual venue. Trust me. Women like new and different. The newer and more different the establishment is, the better. You can find such places in your geographical area on Google quite easily. They do not have to be expensive. They often are expensive, but we don’t need those to make a good impression; we’re clever and attentive and romantic.

If You Don’t’ Know How, Learn to Cook and Eat In

There’s not a better way in the world to impress your heart’s desire than to cook for her. I can’t tell you how valuable this attribute is. Mix “good
cook” with attentive, romantic and good listener and you’ve got the holy grail of valuable attributes right there ready to work for you. Cooking and eating in is the most inexpensive date there is. Learn to do this and you’ve learned a skill for life.

 

Imagine This

Imagine that you are very rich, powerful, influential and also extremely dull and unromantic and can’t cook. Get the idea now? So don’t be too discouraged that you can’t afford the most expensive places to eat. Focus on developing those other “lesser” attributes; the ones that count. Money can’t buy feminine interest. Well, it can – but that’s another issue altogether. That discussion would revolve around the idea of renting, not dating.

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12 Reasons Why Women Prefer Bad Boys

My friend Jane (We’ll call her Jane) was totally smitten with her new boyfriend John .

They met at a wine tasting party, he possessed all the qualities that she had dreamed of in her knight in shining armor—except for him being a Partier! John loves to visit dive bars with the guys.

Cindy didn’t mind him hanging out with his guy friends. However more than occasionally John gets slammed drunk and behaves like an ass (behaving badly to Jane when he’s drunk)…while all Jane’s friends know he’s a train wreck and not good for her…she can’t seem to break off this toxic relationship.

And Jane’s not the only one for sure!

Meet my friend Lucia

Lucia is an internationally known dating/relationship expert and TV personality. She hosts “The Art of Love” on L.A. Talk Radio, is the author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love”, a keynote speaker and syndicated columnist.

She has been on over 100 national and international radio and TV Shows as an expert, including “Dr. Phil”, “The CBS Early Show”, “60 Minutes Australia”, “The Tyra Banks Show”, “E! Entertainment”, “The KTLA Morning Show”, “Fox 5 News”, “Playboy Radio” and “Cosmo Radio”.
(To find out more about Lucia Click here)

 

Elegant and Authentic

I like Lucia because she’s both elegant and authentic! She’s both sensitive and not afraid to “tell it as it is!”

So here’s Lucia’s expert Advice on why women prefer Bad boys-And don’t forget to read all the way to the end to get her comment on the ideal man!

Why Women Prefer Bad Boys

Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys.  Here’s why:

Not real:  Nice guys are too nice.  No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that.  Bad boys “keep it real”.  Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

Respect:  No one respects a doormat.  Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands.  A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him.  Women can’t respect a man they can control.  No respect = No attraction.

Predictable:   Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and unpredictable.   Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge.  Predictable = No excitement = No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.

Mother Nature:  Women are designed to nurture.  However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys.  They think their love will save them.  Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

Fixer-Upper:  Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed.   Bad boys usually do, so they become a project.  Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them.  Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

Sperm wars:  Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes.  Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving.  Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

Fear of intimacy:  If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there.  A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

 Low self-esteem:   We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves.  If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief.  A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re unfamiliar with.

Sex:  Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed.  They like to be manhandled sometimes and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done.  A bad boy comes across as being able to get the job done, even though that may not always be the case.

 Hot:  Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot?  I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good.  Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot”.

Charm:   Nice guys don’t always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words.  Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish.  By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

Protection:  Historically, men have protected women – physically and otherwise.  Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure.

Life is about balance.

Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category.   The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two.  Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

 

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When Should You Ask A Girl Out Online?

Let me introduce you to Scott Valdez…

Scott’s a highly respected expert in the dating industry, who’s been featured in Forbes, BBC, Washington Post, Men’s health, CNN, Urban Daddy and MSBCN.
Recently, AOL’s Asylum.com wrote “Scott Valdez can attract hundreds of women each month in his boxers.”…Scott’s reply…Usually, I put on pajamas

Your own personal marketing when you’re looking for love

Scott’s also the head of  Virtual Dating Assistants, a service devoted to doing all that pesky online wooing for you. Think of it as your own personal marketing campaign for when you’re looking for love…they’ve crunched the numbers, and they know what drives traffic to the product (i.e. you). They provide you with an Assistant to help you schedule dates and they’ll also run telephone conversation scenarios—anything to get you to dinner and drinks with minimal effort… they literally do it all: write your profile, pick out potential matches, send introductory e-mails and message back and forth until your date is confirmed. Then they turn over the correspondence and tell the lucky fellow where and when he’s meeting Madame X.

Here’s what Scott has to tell you about When To Ask For The Date At JUST The Right Time…

Online dating: When Should You Ask A Girl Out Online?

I’m about to show you what to know before you ask a woman out, so that you can quickly transition from the online world to the real one, without any awkward rejection emails in your inbox…

First of all… it is CRITICAL that you know exactly how and when to ask a woman out on a date.

If you know when to ask for the date, you have POWER. You can relax and take control of the situation, and feel confident that you will date most of the women that reply to your first message, because you know what’s coming next…

But if you ask too soon… you will KILL your ability to influence and attract women. They will literally shut off their responsiveness and ignore your messages – and recovering will not be easy (without my help, anyway)…

Knowing how to prevent women from stalling opens up a huge influx of dates in your online love life, and you don’t even have to work any harder. It’s automatic…

Don’t wait too long

…But if you ask too late, women will not want to meet and date you, because you will fall victim to the only thing in the UNIVERSE worse than the “friend zone” – the online dating friend zone…

And of course, learning the simple skill of asking a woman out online can make the difference in the quality of the love life that led you to online dating in the first place. All of your time, energy, and money can be put to good use…to finally date the beautiful women you deserve… It’s that important.

Not figuring out the right way to ask a woman out is like getting rejected by every girl in your high school… because you will be wasting your time, and you might as well GIVE UP…

When’s The Right Time To Ask A Woman Out?

My team at ViDA analyzed hundreds of emails that we’d sent to women our clients ended up meeting to discover the answer to this very question.

After spending countless hours collecting and dissecting all the data, we found that the ideal time to ask for the date is after she has sent you between 2 and 3 emails.

Sometimes, you may need to wait until she’s sent you 4 emails (or even a couple more), but you usually don’t want to wait this long.

So how do you know exactly when to go for it?

The key is to gauge the rapport and attraction that you’ve built by paying close attention to her level of engagement and interest. The simplest single indicator is the length of her emails, but there are others…

If you wait any longer than it takes to receive a few inbound emails, she will start to lose interest because the excitement and mystery of meeting you will fade away, and it will be more comfortable for her to keep you online than off…

But remember that the rule is not ‘the faster, the better.’ You do not want to ask her out in your first email. She hasn’t gotten to know, like and trust you yet. The only time that you can get away with asking her out in the first email you send her is when she contacts you first and says something to let you know that she wants you BADLY.

…which will happen from time to time when you learn how to be attractive to women online…

…But even then, you can make her work harder for you… especially if you really want to get her on “lock down.”

Tips For Asking Her Out

Don’t say anything self-defeating like, “You wouldn’t want to meet up with me, would you?”

Try to overcome possible objections if you think there will be some. You can say something like:

“I’ve found that it’s impossible to predict chemistry online, even if you exchange endless back-and-forth emails…”

or say “Talking seems, to me, like a much better way to get to know someone than emailing.”

By saying things you KNOW she’ll agree with, you get small yeses that help lead to the bigger yes.

Always suggest the first meeting as something that’s harmless and a low investment. A quick cup of coffee sounds much less time-consuming and potentially painful than the Japanese steakhouse.

Typically, you just want to get an agreement to meet “sometime soon” in the email where you ask for the date. You want to make it as easy as possible for her to say “yes” to the idea of meeting up… and then handle the details later.

Once she confirms, you should give her two options for when (i.e. Sunday afternoon or Tuesday evening). This keeps it very easy for her to decide while simultaneously using the “scarcity principle” to your advantage. What is scarce seems more valuable…

When the time is confirmed you suggest the perfect meeting place (you are the man so you make this decision firmly)… and then in one final email you will send her your number “in case something last minute comes up” and ask her to send hers over as well…

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Are You Guilty of Any of These Dating Turnoffs?

One of my girlfriends’ friends is a really nice person…she’s smart, funny, kind and obviously lonely, she always tells us that she wants to meet a gentleman yet she doesn’t pay attention to the way she looks (She has a really “orange” tan that looks ridiculous to everyone but her)…the problem seems to be that even when people tell her to “tone it down” (No pun intended) she’s not aware of the full impact of it and just laughs.

Its often what we don’t know

She got me to thinking that its often what we don’t know that holds us back. We’re often unaware of the mistakes that we make.

I came across this article written by relationship expert Amy Schoen and I had to laugh a little as she echoes my sentiments on being unaware!

But before I tell the story let’s meet Amy…

Amy Schoen motivatedtomarry.com has been transforming people to be their best for over 20 years.  Amy has the gift of visualization and uses this gift to ask the right life and relationship questions to visualize the kind of life they truly desire.  To move clients towards positive action, Amy draws upon her vast life experiences, business experiences and keen knowledge of people.

Motivated to Marry

Expert Advice

Here’s Amy’s expert advice on Dating turn-offs!

Here you are, ready to get back out there to meet people to date.  Sometimes you may be turning off your date and not really be aware of what you are doing that’s so unpleasant to another person.

“Brent was telling me about his last date.  He mentioned to me that sometimes he looks distracted because of his ADD.  He needs to look away to be able to think.  I told him that it may be taken as not seeming interested in the woman.  We worked on what it would take for him to stay more connected and focused on his date.”

A big dating  turnoff!

What could you be doing that would be a big dating turnoff?  Here are some dating tips for men and women of the major turnoffs that keep coming up on my dating questionnaire.

1. Lack of consideration and follow through.
For men, this is saying that you will call and not call.  If you truly are not interested in asking the woman out again, it is best to say, “It was nice to make your acquaintance” and leave it at that.  For woman, not getting back to the men who have either called or emailed you is just bad manners.  Most people would rather you be honest with them about your interest than be dragged along.  When you say you are going to do something, it is important in relationship building to be reliable and accountable.

Another big pet peeve for many is people who are inconsiderate with their time.  These rude people may wait until the day of the date to finalize your date plans.  Or he or she could keep you waiting for an hour or two with no ph.one call to tell you he or she will be late and offers no good reason for keeping you waiting.  This is a huge turnoff for time conscious individuals.

2. Getting way too physical way too fast!
I remember being on a first date and I was interested in getting to know the man who was sitting across the table.  Then the hand comes out to hold my hand.  I barely knew this guy or how I felt about him.  His desire for physical contact was coming much too soon.  I’m not sure it seemed a little too needy or his intentions were not that honorable.  I felt my safety barrier was being breached.  Although he seemed like a nice enough fellow, I was reluctant to go out with him again.

Be careful to respect the other person’s personal space.  It may seem corny, but it is best to ask permission first before attempting any physical contact. (“I’d like to kiss you, is that okay?”)

3. No (Physical) Connection!
So you have emailed back and forth, seen his or her picture, talked on the phone and n.ow for the moment of truth! Is there chemistry or any physical attraction?  Zippo! Nada!  What a disappointment.  This is something that you either got it or you don’t.  “There is no chemistry for me” is the verbiage to use.  Everyone know that means, “I just don’t feel it with you”!  At this point it’s not something that you can force.  I recommend moving on or deciding to be friends.

4. Poor grooming and hygiene
This is a big area for dating turnoffs here.  The list is: bad breadth, body odor, poor face shaving for men and underarms and other areas for women, sloppy dressing with stains on clothing and poorly applied makeup by women.  Make sure you take a close look in the mirror (and use a magnifying mirror if you have to).  Now, how is your car kept?  Is it dirty or have lots of stuff thrown around the back seat?  This is another major turnoff for those who are neat and tidy!

5. Just plain unpleasant to be around!
This person is a sour puss and complains about everything.   He or she knows better than you and everyone else and is an expert on everything, as well.  You may even say he or she is arrogant and pushy. He takes himself much too seriously and is not able to laugh at himself either.  This person may also talk about their ex all evening long.

You wished you stayed home and read a good book instead!

6. Poor social skills and a poor conversationalist:
You know the person, the one who can’t hold a conversation.  You are doing all the work.  It feels like pulling teeth.  How about the person who does all the talking and holds a one-way conversation with herself!  Then, there is the poor individual who is shy, nervous and appears anxious.  You feel sorry for him or her, but you don’t want to date them.  Last, there is the person who interrogates you like he or she is a reporter interviewing you for 60 Minutes!

7. Inflexible:
Sometimes you have to roll with the punches.  I have a thing for great tables in restaurants.  My poor husband moves with me when I say I prefer to be at another table.  He is very patient.  I know this very desire to have a better table drove some guys away (also changing rooms in hotels!).  Or what if plans change because of a babysitter who got sick?  Are you able to be happy with plan B?  And what about when you have an hour to kill before the movie and your date asks to run a quick errand – will you go along with the flow?

I have a guy friend who would only eat very few food choices: Italian food and beef, which really limited the types of restaurants he was willing to go to with dates.  I know this was a big dating turnoff for many women who desire variety in their choice of restaurants.  Sometimes you have to be willing to try new stuff and push yourself outside your comfort zone.

8. Being cheap:
According to my sources, there is nothing worse than a cheap man.  I saw one story via email that after a date that didn’t go well, the guy emailed the woman and asked her to pay him back for half of the dinner!  That doesn’t mean that a guy needs be taken to the cleaners either.  You can find reasonable romantic dates that doesn’t cost you your shirt.  On one of my first dates with my husband, he picked up a picnic dinner and we went to a f.ree outdoor concert. And women, you should offer to pay for something, like the tip or for the sodas at the movies.  Generosity is a very sought after trait in partners.   So don’t be penny foolish and lose the chance for another date!

9. Not being proactive or being too reactive- passive:
The best strategy for a guy is to come up with two or three places to go to meet for a date or restaurants for dinner (beyond the initial date) and let the woman pick her choice.  Women- don’t be wishy washy and say, “whatever you want”!  Most guys would like some help and not have to make all the decisions themselves.   Not having any opinions or preferences can be just as infuriating as being overly opinionated!

10. Insensitivity and rudeness:
How you treat others comes across very early in dating.   How do you treat the wait staff and service people?   Saying judgmental comments about other people shows you that your date is not tolerant.  Then, what would he or she say about you behind your back?   Or how would you feel about your date striking up a conversation with the two ladies at the table next to yours?  So special – right?

Perhaps your date just said something about loud kids at the next table and you just happen to have kids yourself!   Or how about the date that insists you order the fish when you really don’t like fish?  Moreover, what about the person who asks you “You are over 40 and never have been married, what’s wrong with you”?  It can make you want to inflict bodily harm on that person.  The best thing you can do is cut the date short and move on!

I hope I have given you a good picture of the top 10 dating turnoffs expressed by many in the dating world.  You may not realize the offenses you may be doing that negatively impacts your potential for dating success.   Prepare for your next date by reading this article again and you will improve your chances for a positive dating experience.
Amy Schoen

Dating online? Regardless of your age, something important you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is important when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

Dating a New Guy…I Don’t Want to Blow It!


Meet Dr Brian Rzepczynski, DHS, MSW.

As one of the leading love coaches for the gay community, licensed dating and relationship coach Dr. Brian has over 18 years of experience as a psychotherapist and life coach specializing in helping GLBT (Gay, lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) individuals and couples develop and maintain successful and fulfilling intimate relationships.
You can find out more about him at thegaylovecoach.com

Wisdom for everyone…”Love is more than your sexual preference“.

I want to share Brian’s expert advice on Dating a new guy, while his articles are written with a focus towards the GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) Community, I think that there is great wisdom here for everyone…I hope you’ll agree.



Brian’s article called “Dating a New Guy…I Don’t Want to Blow It!” has been written to answer a question that many of us often ask ourselves:

Dear Dr. Brian:

I have met a guy that I really like, but I don’t know what to do because I’ve never really dated before. He is great and is someone I can see myself being with for a long time. I don’t want to mess this up…what should I do?

Dating Virgin

Dear Dating Virgin:

Congrats to you on meeting someone whom you share a strong connection with! You sound very excited about getting to know him better and my first word of advice is to relax and enjoy! This stage of your dating process is all about fun and getting to know your new prospect through shared experiences and recreation. By worrying about the future with this guy before it’s even had a chance to get off the ground will cause you to feel a lot of distracting anxiety that will rob you of the opportunity to have fun and be yourself. Such anxiety could also come across in your body language and your new guy might be able to see your tension; plus, you don’t want to feel like you have to be engaging in a performance every time you get together with him. So breathe, be your true self, and allow the relationship to evolve naturally.

There’s no specific formula for dating, but you can definitely increase your chances of success by taking the emphasis off of the other guy and what he might be thinking about you and instead place it on yourself. Make sure that you have a very clear vision of what you’re looking for in a potential partner and relationship and make a list of all your needs for each. Identify those needs that are negotiable (things you’d be willing to bend on) versus those that are non-negotiable (these are deal-breakers, those things you absolutely must have or cannot have to be in the relationship). Your deal-breaker needs represent your core values and these will be the qualities and characteristics that you’ll be using to screen your new guy to make sure he matches your vision for the ideal man.

No matter how hot he is or how much you have in common, if a dating prospect doesn’t align with your vision and needs, you’ll be setting yourself up for pain and disappointment the more you invest in a future with him. You don’t want just any guy; you want the right guy!

So as you’re getting to know this new guy you’re seeing, I encourage you to avoid fretting about whether it’s going to work out, and instead keep the focus on having fun and screening him to determine his goodness-of-fit with you. Good communication skills, positive self-esteem and confidence, savvy social skills, and identification of any self-defeating or sabotaging behaviors you might have and formulation of action strategies to overcome them are other key essentials you’ll want to master to maximize your chances of dating success.

So enjoy this special time of your dating relationship and make sure to show off your authentic, genuine self! You have nothing to prove, so relax and enjoy the moment. Please read the other dating articles on my website for some additional pointers and tips. Have a great time!

Cheers,
Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach

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Women: Stop over-analyzing your dates!

It’s been said that men over simplify and women over analyze?

How much mental energy do most women use trying to figure out how their date feels about them?

Most women get waaaaaaay too involved in trying to figure out what their date thinks about them; They want to connect with their date and they think that by understanding and analyzing every detail of the date that this will help them achieve their goal.

The truth is that over analyzing your date doesn’t help.

A funny story about analyzing.

Tonight, I thought my date was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.

Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong. He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior. I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.

Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep -I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

His Diary: My motorcycle wouldn’t start today, I’m not sure why, but at least I got laid.

Stop analyzing your dates!

The more you over analyze your date the more stressed you’ll feel about dating.

Stop hanging all your hopes and dreams on one man, maybe even before you know all that much about him.

Shift the focus

I’m not saying to totally disregard what he says, but try shifting your focus towards not whether or not he likes you, but rather towards whether or not you like yourself when you’re with him.

If you feel great about yourself when you’re on a date with him then you’re dating the right man. And if you feel insecure or unhappy when you are with him, then perhaps you need to rethink whether he’s the right person.

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