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How to have a Romantic Valentine’s Day that will always be remembered!

Happy Valentines’ day everyone.

Meet Fran

the flirting bibleFor those of you who read my posts you’ll know that I’m a huge fan of Fran Greene, she’s a Nationally renowned relationship expert, former advice columnist for Match.com, an authentic New Yorker with a heart of gold and she’s smart and funny too! (If you’re reading this Fran then know I’m sending you a huge hug on Valentines’ day!)

Frans’ also author of the The Flirting Bible, (Your Ultimate Photo Guide to Reading Body Language, Getting Noticed and Meeting More People than you Ever Thought Possible).

A great day

Here’s an article that Fran recently sent me! I hope you’ll enjoy it and have a great day today

How to  have a Romantic Valentine’s Day that will always be remembered! By Fran Greene

Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to express your love and appreciation.  With a little planning, you are sure to be a romantic hit with  your partner.  Here are some suggestions  guaranteed to be a hit with your Valentine.

Romantic Gifts for Her

The golden rule of giving her a Valentine’s Day gift is never ever to ask her want she wants.   It takes all the mystery and romance love and great dating photosout of the gift.  The gift should be something that  she will love!  Listen for  hints, trust me; she will let you know!  Do not go overboard with someone who you have just started dating.  It could scare her off.  Going over the top will give the appearance that you want your gift to win her over rather than you.  Flowers, chocolate, or a cute cuddly bear is  the perfect gift.

Here are some suggestions  for romantic gift ideas:

  • A Gift  Certificate for a facial or a massage ( perhaps a couples massage)
  • A romantic getaway
  • Personalized  M and M’s
  • A dinner prepared by you
  • A  photo of the  two of  you in an engraved frame
  • 2 Dozen Roses ( 1 dozen is expected, 2 dozen is WOW)
  • High End Chocolate, not the chocolate from the supermarket
  • Romantic Jewelry, anything with hearts, circles and of course diamonds

Romantic Gifts for Him

Men need and want to be the center of your universe too.  Valentine’s Day is  the perfect day to let him know how much you care about him.

Have someone new in your life, chose  a card that is not too sentimental or mushy, find one that is a little mysterious.   Not sure if you want to get him something, or  it feels too new, get him anything  sweet and decadent.  It is  true that the best way to   a man’s heart  is giving him something sweet and delicious.

Here are some gift ideas that will put a huge smile on his face.

  • Personalized  cookies
  • Sexy  Sunglasses
  • Cologne that drives you crazy
  • Yummy chocolate
  • Home baked goodies
  • Breakfast in Bed

Romantic Songs

Did you ever wish that you could write a love song and sing it to your beloved.

Here is a list of 5  very romantic songs.  Why not  download  your favorite and dedicate it  to your love. You could also make a CD  of all of them and give it as a gift to him or her. 

  • I Will Always Love you  by Whitney Houston
  • I Want to Hold Your Hand by the Beatles
  • Tonight I Celebrate  MY Love by Pebro Bryson and Roberta Flack
  • The Way You Look Tonight by Frank Sinatra
  • I Can’t Stop Loving You by Ray Charles
  • Just the Way You  Are by Billy Joel
  • I’m Gonna Love you by Barry White

Romantic Movies

Both men and women  crave romance.  It’s food for the soul. Here are some romantic movies  that are best watched together. Open a bottle of wine, snuggle and enjoy the movie.

It’s a sure way to make you feel cozy and warm inside on a very chilly Valentine’s night.  

  • The Notebook
  • A Walk to Remember
  • PS I Love You
  • Pretty Woman
  • When Harry Met Sally
  • Sleepless in Seattle
  • Casablanca
  • Say Anything
  • Romeo and Juliet
  • An Affair to Remember

Remember

Being Romantic is not expensive it is priceless!

Think about this too!

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Top Ten List of Flirting Tips

I’m a fan and a friend of Fran Greene

Meet Fran

the flirting bibleWhen I first met Fran she kindly sent me a copy of her book “The flirting bible” (See details below) I remember that I was skeptical until I read the book and then I remember that I’d told my readers to buy a copy and read it twice!

Fran’s an authentic and delightful New-Yorker with a heart of gold, she’s also a Nationally renowned relationship expert and former advice columnist for Match.com (To find out more about her CLICK HERE )

Last week Fran and I were catching up on the telephone and I asked her to share an article for my blog…here it is…enjoy

Top ten flirting tips guaranteed to make you a fabulous flirt.

What is flirting?
Flirting is a wonderful icebreaker and tension reducer.
Flirting is testing the romantic waters. It’s the best way to make a connection with someone.
Flirting is a great way to let someone know that you find them interesting, attractive, fun or appealing to you.

10. Flirting is an Attitude:

A great flirt is self confident and not afraid to take a risk. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!

9. Start a Conversation:

The best opening line is saying hello! Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, or state an opinion.

8. Have Fun:

Be playful, light hearted and spontaneous. Let your sense of humor shine through.

7. Use Props:

Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Amazing props include dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, an eye catching tie, or an interesting book or magazine.

6. Be the Host:

Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcoming committee.

5. Make the First Move:

Move closer, pay a compliment, make eye contact, or say hi to the person you want to meet.

4. Listen:

You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you talk. Practice active listening. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be listened to!

3. Eye Contact:

Make eye contact, but please look your flirting interest in the eye gently, no more than 2-4 seconds, look away. Don’t stare – it’s a turn off.

2. Compliment:

Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Your compliments must be honest, sincere, and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely thank you.

1. Smile:

It is contagious! It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and it will draw people towards you. You will be a people magnet! Try it.

Something else to consider:

Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

Seasons Greetings and an offer

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3 Happy Holiday Dating tips

While many people feel that the holidays are a great time to connect with loved ones, for many people who are single it feels like a lonely time.

Some people feel like the Holidays can be a difficult time to plan a date…with gift shopping and planning many people feel burned out and too busy to go on a date.

But it doesn’t have to be like that! It can be a fantastic time for dating…and here are a few ideas to make dating over the Holidays way more fun!

1.Take time to Refresh your dating profile before the new year!

That means making sure that you have great a photos and a great profile…many other single people will be feeling the same way as you so make sure that you look the best you can online…

2.Accept every invitation you can to a party

Accept every single invitation you can to parties.  You’ll meet a lot of people and maybe one of them will be someone special- And if you don’t know anyone ask the hosts to introduce you to some people who they think you’ll get along with. And don’t forget to dress up and look like a million dollars! (Although don’t turn up too early or drink too much as drunk is NEVER sexy. Enjoy but pace yourself)

3.Think Creative Holiday dates

Now use your imagination here…think asking someone to meet you for a cup of steaming hot chocolate, or wrap up warm and look at the Christmas lights, or ice skating…a little creativity
is romantic and fun.

Also think about this!

Having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Tracey Steinberg’s FLIRTING PARTIES in New York City

Meet Tracey
I like Tracey, She’s the real deal, her story is authentic and she knows her stuff!

Tracey began her career at the age of 24 as a successful civil litigation trial attorney. At that time she had a very active social life as a single woman in New York City and she thought she was as happy as she possibly could be.

On September 14, 2001 Tracey’s father was diagnosed with a serious illness and she began spending a lot of time with her parents. They are a fantastic team and watching them cope with that ordeal reminded Tracey how incredible it is to go through life with someone who deeply loves you. She was very affected by this time and it made her realize two things:

1. she deeply wanted the type of healthy marriage her parents have and
2. She deeply wanted it for everyone else who wants it.

After a lot of introspection, learning, and hard work, Tracey’s efforts paid off. Tracey met an amazing man who would later become her happy husband. She also completed her life coaching training with the Coach Training Alliance and then went on to complete both The Sage and Scholar’s Program for Coaching Singles and the Sage and Scholar’s Program for Career Coaching and built her unique brand of “Dateology” helping people find that someone special!


The concept of flirting Party

Flirting Parties® s were started by “Dateologist” Tracey.

I agree with Tracey “If you are not 100% comfortable meeting attractive single men or women, Flirting Parties were made for you”

In addition to being a lot of fun, everyone who attends these unique events are guaranteed to meet new people and walk away with valuable dating knowledge.

No more uncomfortable evenings
Tracey begins the evening by greeting you at the door making, helping you to relax and introducing you to other singles. Then, Tracey will share with everyone tips on how you can meet that interesting man or woman, how you can flirt with them in a sexy and confident way, and what you can do to ensure your exciting new friend wants to see you again. Of course Tracey shares all of this information in her playful way with lots of happy jokes thrown in to keep everyone smiling.

Dating Knowledge

Tracey will then walk around the room and encourage everyone to engage with everyone else.  She’ll also answer your questions, be your wing-woman, and offer you on-the-spot flirting tips regarding what you are doing right and what you may want to try in the future.

The next Flirting Party
The next Flirting Party in NYC will be at the gorgeous lounge located at 230 5th Avenue on November 7, 2013.  The event is just $65 to attend and everyone who joins will receive an amazing bag of gifts! For more details go to http://traceysteinberg.com/flirting-parties/

Why many women never get a second date.

Meet my new friend Pamela. As a dating expert she is fascinated with relationships and has spent the last fifteen years of her life studying and observing relationships and human behavior.

In Pamela’s words “

“My dating experiences began after my ex-husband and I were divorced. Before I married, I was a serial monogamist, going from one relationship to another. When I met my ex-husband, we were good friends and he was good marriage material. But something was missing. After we divorced, I bought into all the stereotypical beliefs that I was too old, there are no good men out there, there are no single men where I live and I was afraid of getting hurt. I was afraid that I had made a huge mistake and lost my only chance for love. I was afraid I would be alone the rest of my life. When I realized that sitting home with dirty hair, Doritos, and ice cream was not getting me anywhere, I gathered the courage and decided to date.

Dating support community

Pamela started a “Dating Support Community” to help people find their ideal relationship by learning to date in a way that is fun, easy and works for them! To find out more about what  Pamela does click here

Single women

I often speak to single women who tell me that they have had a terrible time dating , and that often they meet a nice man who seems interested in them- only to go on a first date and then never hear from him again.

Meeting “The One”

They get all excited and think that perhaps they’ve met “The One” and then they feel super-disappointed after being dumped after just one date!

Expert advice from Pamela

Here’s what Pamela has to say about this important subject…

Dumped After Just One Date!

Here is my story of how i was dumped after the first date! How I met a man I really liked, who really liked me back and then after just one date called me to say “I just don’t want to waste your time….”! So here’s the low down of exactly what I did right and then my critical mistake that changed everything!!

So here we go…

One day out of the blue, I was contacted by a man on Facebook. I was busy and building my business so I did not give him much thought. He was ok looking but not great AND based on his Facebook page, I thought he was an unemployed handyman so I was just not interested in him. But for months he kept pursuing me and we seemed to have a lot in common so finally, I decided what the heck and gave him my phone number.

Well as it turns out, he was an engineer, NOT unemployed and we had a lot in common. We both loved animals, enjoyed the outdoors, he was spiritual and we had similar backgrounds.

Dating Mistake No 1:

Being too judgmental based on a profile. Many men do NOT write good profiles. Give them a chance!

So we began to talk on the phone and regularly exchanged flirty texts with fun pictures. I was having fun while getting to know him.

Great Dating Move No. 1:

Being patient and taking the time to get to know someone before going out on date. And having fun and flirting at the same time.

But after several weeks of texts and calling I began to wonder when was I ever going to meet this guy? So when he text me again I made a joke about when my handsome new friend who had been flirting with me for weeks was ever going to ask me out. And then I let him ask me out.

Great Dating Move No. 2:

If waiting for a date seems to drag on, instead of getting frustrated or confrontational, ask for what you want in a fun and light way, then let him take the initiative.

Finally, we had our first date and I was so disappointed. I did not like him! In fact he bugged me! We were walking around downtown, and he kept making me stand on the inside of the sidewalk. I had to keep changing sides over and over and moving my purse back and forth. I was so annoyed and I wanted the date to end SOON. I thought-where is the guy I have been talking to for weeks?

Dating Mistake No 2:

Being too critical and judgmental. Remember, most people are nervous on a first date! Cut them some slack. He was making an effort and being a gentleman. Instead of appreciating him, I was judging him!

But I remembered my own coaching and I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. He was holding my hand the whole time, and while he annoyed me, I did not feel repulsed by him. So I stopped being in my critical mind and paid attention to how I felt. I realized I was kind of attracted to him. So I decided to show interest in him, practice flirting and focus on just having fun.

Great Dating Move No. 3:

Being polite, focusing on making your date feel comfortable, having a good time and just being interested in getting to know someone as a person.

The second I changed my perspective the whole date changed. We sat down by a fountain and began to talk. Suddenly it was like our phone conversations again. We had tons of stuff to talk about and I began to really like him and feel really attracted to him.

It began to get late and he suggested we have dinner. He took me to sushi restaurant and we sat down to eat. At this point, I began thinking about how I could really like this guy. And that he may be the one. Before I had been holding back at bit, but I felt myself start to get excited.

Dating Mistake No. 3:

This was the beginning of the end. Thinking he may be The One on a first date is a huge mistake. The imaginary relationship had begun and was about to ruin EVERYTHING!

During dinner, temporary insanity took over and I began to confide in him some personal issues I was experiencing in my life.

Shortly after that he said “it is getting late we should be going”. He walked me to my car, kissed me on the cheek and gave me a warm hug.

Later, he text me to make sure I got home ok. I text him back that I was on the phone talking to a girlfriend about her break-up. Thanks for dinner, I had fun.

Two days later he called me and said it was not going to work out because “I was all over the place” and he was ready to settle down.

What the heck happened?

We had a four-hour first date. He was affectionate, took me out to dinner, text me that night? I was glowing, I thought the date was great.

CRITICAL DATING MISTAKE THAT KILLED THE ATTRACTION: The second I decided I really liked him and that he could be “The One,” I treated him differently. I changed!

Before that moment, he was the one who was really interested in me, he was the one pursuing me.

But the second I started to really like him, I began acting like we were already in a relationship ON OUR FIRST DATE! I confided in him as if he was already my boyfriend. I opened up too much!

I confided private information about my life. When he text me I rambled on about my girlfriend’s break up instead of a polite thank you for your dinner.

So this is the pattern that I see a lot

When you begin to actually like a man, you become too eager.

When you are not interested in a man, you hold back more and that holding back is what makes him more attracted to you.

John Gray of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus explains the first stage in dating is attraction. He says:

“When a man is attracted to a woman, he gets excited because he anticipates that he can make her happy. He wants the opportunity to pursue her. When a woman is too eager to please, a man doesn’t experience the distance he needs to pursue her. Without movement and the opportunity for more, a man can easily lose the interest necessary to move through all five stages of dating.”

So what about all the men you are not interested in?

When a man is interested in you, he tries to please you and impress you. Many times you find his eagerness repelling.

Take my date, when he was trying to be a gentleman and hold my hand, and “protect me” by walking on the street side of the sidewalk. I was totally annoyed.
When I stopped being judgmental and allowed myself to be taken care of my feelings toward him totally changed.

One of my VIP clients is gorgeous, successful, smart, sweet, adventurous and fun- a great catch. I had her keep a dating log of all the men she talked to and dated. The log was filled with a long list of he “never called back”, “never asked me out” except one man. She wrote: “I enjoyed talking with him and he seemed to want a relationship and talked about things openly. But he seemed “pushy” and wanted to take me out to a casino, give me money to gamble with and was into planning things but a little too much too soon. I felt uncomfortable.”

Newsflash- a man who is willing to make plans and wants to take care of you is a sign of a man who is interested you and is available for a commitment.

So if it is a turn off to you when a man shows his interest and it feels like he is “trying to hard” when he wants to take care of you, how are you going to ever get into a committed relationship?

I suggest that you give these men a chance. Go out with them a few times. Get to know them. Look beyond the fact that they have “no game”.

In the seduction community- men who teach other men how to sleep with women- one of the first tricks they teach is to insult women several times during the night. This, they say, is guaranteed to make her want to go home with them.

If you are interested in men who are “hard to get” and who “hold back”, then you are reversing the masculine/feminine dynamic and you are becoming the aggressor. Being the aggressor will not get you into the committed relationship you are looking for.

So be open minded to men who are interested in you and want to take care of you. If you really want to be in a committed relationship, these are the guys. And they will probably treat you much better than the men who “have game”. The reason some men are so good at dating is because they have done it a lot- they are players.

Stay Present

Learn how to date casually. Stay present. Take your time getting to know someone. Take it slow. Give him the space to pursue you. And when he does, show appreciation. Give him a chance and practice allowing yourself to be taken care of.

Before you know it you will find your true love, a man who loves you and NEVER disappears!

Think About This too!

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LookBetterOnline Book Review: “The Flirting bible” Fran Greene.

I’ve personally spoke to Fran Greene: She’s a delightful and authentic new Yorker, and she kindly offered to send me a copy of her book “The Flirting Bible”

I read the usual book blurb

“Nationally renowned relationship expert Fran Greene, former advice columnist for Match.com, will walk you through her thirteen tried-and-trusted techniques for becoming the most confident and attractive person in the room (no matter if you think you are or not!). You’ll learn how to…Bla bla bla.”

I was a little skeptical about how much value I’d find from this book, BOY was I wrong.

Fran really Knows her stuff and has presented her ideas with grace and simplicity in this book, the quality of this book is evident from the moment you start turning the pages and get to the first high quality photo!

The Flirting bible is a great book for reading body language, getting noticed and meeting people,

The Flirting bible is brilliant, easy to follow and most of all FUN to read, its colorful and FUN (Did I say fun twice, yes I did!)
Buy a copy and read it twice!

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Dating tips for women

Here’s some quick but essential dating tips for women that will help you know if any guy is attracted to you.
Remember that paying attention to body language is on of the best dating tips for women; It really works!

And remember that having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Trick or treat – Is this Make-Believe or real thing?

“I’ll call you this week”. “Yes, I’d love to see you again”. “I had a great time”. “I’m not interested in dating anyone else”. “I think I’m falling in love with you.”

These are a few of the phrases passed between singles as they move through the stages of meeting and dating. At the time, they are uttered with what feels like true emotion and honesty. No wonder the person they are directed to is so confused when the call never comes, the person becomes unavailable, or it soon becomes evident that the speaker is dating or deeply involved with someone else. Can we ever believe what we see or hear? How can we be sure?

Dating is a process of getting to know someone. It begins with an attraction, which is formed by that first impression. Often, this first meeting occurs by chance at a social gathering, at work or in the course of one’s daily life. More and more, it happens through a response to a personal ad and the emailing and phone calls that follow. Both in-person and email or voice contact give us a sense of the other individual- but this is only a brief snapshot of who they may be. It takes real time together to create a larger and clearer picture of this other person and their rightness or wrongness for us. During this time we assess for friendship, attraction, shared interests and values, and a willingness and ability on the part of both individuals to move forward in a relationship.

Given that this is a process, it has stages. A first date helps the couple to learn more. It is a fact-finding experience, which involves not only the information the other provides, but our feelings and reactions to it and to them as a potential partner. We show our best selves and attempt to make an appropriate connection with someone we find desirable. In the best scenario, everything clicks for both people and conversation is natural and easy. More often, there may be questions, doubts, and/or mixed feelings. Seeing each other again is often suggested by one or both people and is a good way to learn more about each other and resolve any questions. But the doubts and negative feelings go unstated in a desire to either give the other person a chance or to let them down easily. It’s also an easy way out for someone who is uncomfortable with this level of emotional honesty.

So, how do we know what the other person is truly feeling? You have several options for getting this information.

  • You take them at their word and wait to see if they follow through with what they have said they would do. Nothing speaks louder than behavior. This option is the most common choice and can leave you in that all too familiar holding and wondering pattern.
  • You attempt to address the situation openly and candidly. This one requires a bit of courage and an ability to be vulnerable. State how you are feeling in a thoughtful but honest way. Ask them to do the same for you. Let them know that you want to hear their honest thoughts about how the date went and if they would like to get together again.
  • The third option should be used regardless of what you do with the other two. Pay attention to their non-verbal communication. How do they look at you? What quiet responses do you get after you have shared something about yourself? What do you see in their facial reaction, posture and eyes? Do you FEEL interest or just politeness? Are they really WITH you, or somewhere else? If you learn to listen to the non-verbal language, you will HEAR much more than what their words have to say.

Listening to the whole person applies throughout the stages of dating and relationships. It is also important during this time to pay attention to their behavior and note inconsistencies or mixed messages. Too often people don’t and are stunned when a relationship “suddenly” ends or they find out they are seeing someone who was not the person they thought they were. Trust your instincts and listen “with a third ear”.

Remember also that the responsibility for honesty is also on you. Don’t say what you think the other person wants to hear because you don’t want to be impolite or hurt their feelings. If you really think about it, it is more hurtful and in poor taste to be dishonest with someone who has a true interest and is trying to learn yours.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

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Hooking up vs lasting love – It’s your choice

“hooking up”

“friends with benefits”

“booty call”

These terms have become all too familiar in today’s dating world. Are they words that you can relate to? Have you lived them in some way? If so, how have you felt about the experience(s) both during and after? Chances are that you have mixed feelings at best. Depending on your age and sex, you may give a somewhat different response to this question. Whatever your answer, a close look at this “dating experience” that impacts so many singles in so many ways may be useful to you as you think about what your long-term relationship goals are and what you REALLY want from a relationship.

So what exactly do these terms mean?

“Hooking up” is getting together for sex. There is generally no formal “date” involved.

“Friends with benefits” usually refers to two people who are “friends” who also have sex together. Again, there’s a distinction between what they share and “dating.”

“Booty call” usually describes the act of a man (woman) calling up another person to come over for sex. The sex doesn’t follow dinner, a movie or other “quality” time together, getting to really know each other. It’s physical.

Do you define this activity (even loosely) as dating? Has this become a new intimacy for some or many of you? If so, it’s important to look at how/if it meets your needs and if it aligns with your basic values and relationship wants and goals.

Begin by asking yourself some core questions, such as:

  • Am I comfortable with intimacy?
  • Am I comfortable with a purely physical relationship?
  • Am I able to be physically involved with someone while remaining emotionally detached?
  • How do I feel about myself when I engage in this behavior?
  • Am I doing this to please someone or win his or her affection?
  • Is monogamy and marriage my goal?

If your answers reflect discordance between how you feel and what you do, it would be helpful to understand the reasons behind your behavior. Do any of these sound familiar?

  • “It’s convenient”
  • “It’s easy”
  • “It’s safe”
  • “It requires no commitment on my part”

In addition to these explanations, some singles express a belief that “everyone does it” or “it’s expected.” Therefore, they often report engaging in it, but not feeling really ok or satisfied afterwards. Others use it as a substitute for real intimacy, referencing their difficulties in meeting and dating in general.

Then there are the people who have sex hoping it will lead to love. This too is a desire for intimacy that can lead to sadness and disappointment and the possibility of contacting a dangerous and life-altering infection. It reminds me of the line in a song, “if I can love you good enough on the outside to make you feel it on the inside, then maybe you will stay…”

Once you have determined what you really want from a relationship you can begin to make clear, thought out choices that will open the path that points in the direction you wish to go. Until you do so, you face the possibility of more disappointing and short-lived encounters that leave you feeling more alone and less hopeful about the possibility for lasting happy love.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!