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Top 5 online dating turn offs and how to avoid them

Online dating is so new that not many people know how to navigate this tricky world of digital romance. One of the best ways to help yourself is knowing what NOT to do. Here are the 5 biggest turn offs committed by men and women in the online dating world.

1. Bad photos

Out of focus shots, too many group photos, low quality images, bad lighting and the list goes on. You want your online dating pics to show off the best you but also the real you. Make sure you have clear, in focus photos with decent lighting.

Los Angeles Dating Tips (A relaxed easy date that’s garanteed to impress)

Do you live in Los Angeles? and need some Los Angeles Dating tips? Well here’s an idea for an amazing date!

The Getty Villa

If your date likes museums or Art Galleries than this is a  perfect weekend venue for a date to remember!

What I like about this venue is that:

  • There’s plenty of parking space an its an easy place to find!
  • You can meet your date here for 30 minutes or spend longer if you like.
  • You can admire the beauty of the place and the focus is on the surroundings so it’s a relaxed date where you can have a good time and get to know each other slowly and let things unfold naturally (Rather than a pressure of a dinner date)
  • As you need to book tickets in advance you’ll show your date that you’re good at planning things and that they are special!
  • If you want to eat there’s a REALLY good cafe, that has excellent food at great prices.

Go to the Website

And reserve tickets…its not that difficult to do! And Tickets are FREE simply click HERE and then click on the GET FREE TICKETS LINK

Some Good Advice

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!


Dating after Divorce

dating after divorce memeBefore you jump back into dating, make sure that you feel OK (And by OK I mean that you are happy with who you are) If you go on dates expecting to find your happiness in others then things will likely be tough for you. (men and women are often left broke and sad after a divorce) and while I’m not saying don’t date until everything is perfect…just try not to date when emotionally you know you’re vulnerable or needy

Thinking that people are like your ex.

Trust can be difficult after you’ve been hurt by an ex-wife or ex-husband is difficult.
But trust is essential for a healthy relationship…if you don’t trust people then it will destroy your chance of finding someone new.
Take some tome to work through this and put the baggage down!

Don’t rush things!

So you’ve been single and you miss feeling someone’s arms around you..yet don’t rush into things. When you get back into the dating world, take things slowly, and don’t feel bad about dating at a slower pace……you need to be able to relax a little and be yourself…don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. And don’t worry about what anyone might think of you.

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

New Dating Website ‘Jess Meet Ken’

“If I had a dollar for every time a woman told me that she had been approached by a creepy guy online, then I’d be a rich man”.

Many women
Many women feel overwhelmed when it comes to online dating as they get many unwanted emails from “Creeper-in-the-bushes-kind-of-guys” or men who are totally unsuited to them!
But it no longer has to be a challenge as recently a new Boston-based dating website are in the process of changing things!

Jess, Meet Ken,  launched last month, had the brilliant idea of putting the control of making and finding dates in the hands of women daters.

As easy as 1-2-3-4

The idea is super-simple-And its based on human nature! (remember your friend’s wife who tried to set you up with her girlfriends a few years ago?)

Step 1.
Women  log onto the JessMeetKen website through Facebook and select a man in their lives that they love and trust in a friendly way (And all the Facebook data stays private too)

Step 2.
Then they answer 10 questions about him-then fill out a short profile saying why he’s a catch. All the guy has to do is agree to take part.

Step 3.
When a woman sees a guys profile that your another woman has posted then the women take it from there, and message each other, ask questions and find out if the guy might be a good match.

Step 4.
If the women think it’s a good match then they can get in touch with the lucky guy!

Again the control is in the hands of the women so if a single woman finds a man that she’s interested in meeting or getting to know, she gets in touch with the woman who posted that guy.

All guys are vouched for and cannot post their own profiles

The site’s CEO and co-founder, Ken Deckinger told me  “All the guys on the website are vouched for and recommended by a woman.”

Women are more honest with each other about what’s attractive about the man and this definitely avoids the “Creepy guy vibe” as most creepy guys don’t have many women friends to vouch for them!…This is a HUGE plus in my opinion and I’m sure a lot of women will agree…I”ll say it again a HUGE plus for women

Men cannot post their own profiles….Women search the profiles and then reach out to the woman who posted their guy friend to make the connection.

All kinds of women can post guys!

and ANY women can post a man to JessMeetKen for other women to look at!
It could be a
Male friend or a Cousin or a Son or a Brother!


So How Did Jess meet Ken!

I like this site as it’s Founded by real people with real stories!
Ken knows that this kind of dating works-it’s how he met his wife Jess. Here’s how it happened:
Ken’s friend and Business partner Adele posted his profile on a dating site, adding his photo and a few words about why Ken was fabulous.
When Jess spotted Ken’s profile and asked Adele for more info Adele immediately spotted a match. She forwarded Ken Jess’s note with the subject line: “Holy S#*% it’s Your Wife.” He says 20 minutes into their first date they knew they were going to get married.

Definitely worth a try

Simply stated  I highly recommend signing up for this website., it’s a great idea from great people.
To visit JessMeetKen CLICK HERE

3 Dating tips if you’re over 60!

A death of a spouse or divorces have left many baby boomers single as they head toward their senior years.
If your over fifty, are still full of life and want to spend your remaining years with someone to love, then what can you do?

3 Simple tips

Here’s 4 simple tips to remember when dating!

Tip 1: You’re never too old to look good

It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are going on a date , it is critical that you look your best on a date. Buy a new outfit for a date, get a new haircut and do whatever you need to do to look your very best!

Tip 2: Choose the right dating website or are great websites to begin to meet people.
But remember things have changed since you were dating so remember that when it comes dating online, be careful before giving out your personal information to anyone you meet on the internet and always meet in a public space the first few times you see someone.

Tip 3: Have fun (And don’t worry too much about your adult children)

It’s your life and you deserve to enjoy it and have fun!valentines day dating advice 001
For many seniors with adult children the following scenario is a common one- You meet someone special online and then when you share that you’re finally dating your adult children don’t approve!
For many disapproving adult children regardless of how old they are they still feel that “you’re no longer with mom/dad”, and the thought of you in another relationship hurts them.
On a rational level your adult child may not say “I don’t want you dating,” but their behavior may reveal this!
The best medicine is to talk to them and tell them that you deserve to find love…and while
it’s tough to have this conversation is important to have…you deserve the opportunity to find love!

Another important thing you need to know…get good dating profile pictures

Having  great dating profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Shooting dating photos when it’s cold! (Tips from top New York photographer)

I was asked by a customer in New York:

“What do you do when a customer wants natural dating photos but the weather’s cold”?

Dating photo tips from Melody

I recently asked talented LookBetterOnline photographer Melody about  shooting dating photos when it’s cold and here’s her answer!

Hi Giles, it was an interesting coincidence, when I was asked to write something up for the LBO blog on ‘How do you make people comfortable in the dead of winter’, the following testimonial came in from my latest client:

“Melody was very good at finding a variety of locations for photographs, even in the cold weather! She was able to elicit different moods (from me) for the photos, and she was generous with her time.”

The same client also said

“Just because its winter, you still want to date, maybe even more so, a good partner can help you avoid the winter isolation and bring warmth and fun to the season”

What you want to do to is psych yourself up for a photo-shoot and dress for a winter date!

By getting your photos done during winter, you are ensuring that by late spring and summer you will have a friend, or more, to date and do things together.

Cold weather locations in New York

As a native New Yorker, I know all the ins and outs, nooks and crannies where I make sure that my clients are comfortable and interested. I myself am not a member of the Polar bear club, i.e., I don’t believe in walking more than one block in the cold.

All the places I use are all within a half to one block from all the subway stops. I use many unique and elegant places to get your shots. Usually we start at a very upscale hotel lobby in the Columbus Circle area. I even know of a ski lodge one block from the A train (see Moose heads in accompanying photo).

I also have a terrace with a startling view of the Time Warner building and Lincoln Center, where you can duck inside if it gets too cold. I have a press pass to shoot in the Time Warner Building itself, where the all glass atriums provide an urban outdoors–like lighting.

We are also a block and a half from Central Park South, surrounded with Pedi cabs and horse and buggies for added local backgrounds color (not to mention a few yards from unique cafes to duck into for shelter and a café.)

On a day when it is impossible to go outside, (a lot of rain or snow) I love the results in shooting in The Temple of Dendur, at the Metropolitan Museum of art, the authentic relocated remains of an Egyptian temple with one whole wall of glass window looks out at Central Park.

To book a session with Melody click HERE

On location shoots

One of the things I love about on location shoots, is that it’s impossible to feel self-conscious because you are so involved in new and interesting surroundings. If you are really shy though, I can find us more private places, including your office or apartment. Hopefully you’ll take my cue regarding public shooting, which is that it is very anonymous. Everybody has a camera and is usually focusing it on their friend, themselves, or upward at some vertical skyscraper. Sometimes I wish they would notice. But I find walking or shooting on the crowded streets of NY ironically is really a very private affair. . (unless you’re a famous celebrity).

All of these places have convenient and well-maintained rest rooms that can be used for changing outfits, if desired. (My recommendation for winter though, is to layer your outfits, so you don’t have to carry more than necessary.)

New York insider

Incidentally, I provide you with some good New York insider ideas for meetings and dates for the (near) future.

As a special bonus, if you book an early morning appointment with me, at the end of our shoot while you are selecting your photo picks, I like to take you to my new favorite breakfast place, for a fresh French pressed cup of coffee and the best donut I have ever had, at my treat!

To see more of Melody’s work or book a photo session with her click HERE


“Date the real person-Not the potential”

A couple of days ago while driving I switched the radio on and found a radio program that was just ending…

201109092029320393491It was all about women who were dating the wrong guys…the expert (Who I didn’t get to hear who she was!) Gave some really good advice to women listeners, she said.

“Date the real person-Not the potential”

This in my opinion the main reasons intelligent, attractive women remain stuck in a dead-end relationship

“OK” I hear you say… “But my date is different”- “He really does have potential, he just lost his job in a tough economy”!

Women…There’s a vast difference between a guy who’s lost his job and is doing all he can to get a new job AND a guy who has the potential to be a great match for you!

Successful daters-(Even if they find someone attractive) will dismiss a date who fails to meet their criteria for a happy relationship!

You’re not going to FIX him, and you shouldn’t even want to try!

Also think about this!

Online dating profile photos before and after (10)Having great online dating profile photos  (Taken in a specific way) Is the most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

3 Tips for Finding someone special in 2014

If you’re reading this then I hope you’ll have your best year ever and find someone special.
Here’s 2 simple tips to get you started

1. Make love a priority without urgency.

We’ve all heard: “When the time is right the right you’ll meet the right person.” But “we’ve also been told to “Go out and make it happen”

I think a balance between these 2 points of view is a healthy balance.
Resolve to go out and meet people AND look online so that you have a better chance of finding love, and don’t force it…(forcing things is way too needy) the trick is to take action and spend time letting things unfold

And when you go on a first date don’t already start examining if you could spend the rest of your life with them. Don’t go there!…There is way less pressure just getting to know your date…learn more about a new person, not just fall in love with a romantic fantasy.

2. First impressions count.

Before you get a date you need to attract someone special! What kind of first impression do you make, whether online or in-person?
Online, having great online dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, we all look at the photos first! so visit LookBetterOnline and and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!And your profile is well written- If your personal look could use some improvement, then do it whether it’s new clothes or hairstyle..

2. Confidence is key

Confidence is key! And I don’t mean cockiness…I mean the confidence to be authentic!
If you’re nervous about a first date then you might want to try some exercise an hour or two prior to getting ready and going out (Often being in your body will get you “Out” of your nervous mind)
And when it comes to talking- stay in the comfort zone by coming up with a few subjects that won’t get you into trouble (And AVOID at all costs Politics or Religion!…I know obvious eh!)
If you’re not sure what to talk about then  ask your date about their life, listen and go from there.
Also don’t forget there’s is a fine line between being confidence and cocky – nobody likes a cocky guy who is too cool, so keep it real

Ways to feel more confident:

Don’t slouch!
Take a couple of deep breaths and Stand or sit  tall! Pull your shoulders back  and pick your chin up No one looks confident if they are always looking down!

Slow down and take a breath
When you get nervous, your voice goes up and you’ll talk faster than you realize.  These are two dead giveaways for lack of confidence…so breathe deeply and relax…It’s not a race to impress her!