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The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures

I came across a very well written article online by OK Cupid called “The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures” it interested me greatly as the author had diligently looked at 7000 dating photos, analyzed much data, and seemed to find 4 myths about the way that people think about profile pictures, the article goes on to say that much of our collective wisdom about profile pictures is wrong, notably that:

Profile picture myth 1

It’s better to smile

Profile picture myth 2

The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

Profile picture myth 3

Guys should keep their shirts on

Profile picture myth 4

Make sure your face is showing

Now let’s be clear from the beginning where they got the data from:

“Our data set was chosen at random from all users in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32. We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”

Now let me make it clear that our dating  & profile photo company LookBetterOnline.com specializes in helping people who are usually older than the 18-25 year old daters, the only reason I’m writing this post is that I’ve had a few people who are over 25 ask me if this advice applies to them and I don’t think it does, there’s a world of difference between dating in your twenties and thirties, forties and fifties! I think that OK Cupid did a pretty good job of collecting this advice for a certain kind of person in their 20’s

Perhaps a more accurate title for the article would be:

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average

OK I know, I’m joking, and if it were a paper researched by Doctors or Teachers then it wouldn’t be published with such a title, but let’s not dismiss this article yet!

I had a customer who asked me why I wasn’t following this article, they wrote that “My profile pictures do not follow the advice given” and wanted to hear my comments. Now I respect their privacy so I’ll keep my reply private, what I will say though is that they did, live in a big city, I’d guess were between the age of 28 and 32, although I believe they didn’t quite fit the profile as they were definitely very good looking and wanted to post more than one profile picture

The article defines success for women and men alike based on the number of responses that they got…

Now many of us have dated online and had many, many responses, yet somehow I was left feeling that the number of responses is a slightly empty number. If your profile pictures are attracting the wrong sort of people then success cannot be measured by

numbers alone, if I post a profile picture online and  get lots and lots of responses by people who I feel aren’t a match, then I’m failing (rather than winning as the numbers suggest). There are often issues created by statistics, interpreted by the reader “out of context” they become meaningless or worse give a false impression.

Again I’m not attempting to trash data that was diligently collected in a professional way, just showing how people can read an article and possibly get the wrong idea.

Let’s look a little deeper into these myths- and please only read on if you live in a big city, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 and look average

Profile picture myth #1:It’s better to smile

The article goes on to say that men and women have very different approaches to the camera~ that women smile more than men and make more flirty faces, that looking happy and making eye contact for online dating photos isn’t good advice, that women get the most messages by flirting with the camera and that men’s profile pictures are most effective when they look away from the camera and don’t smile.

Now here’s where I get to thinking, even if I was an average looking 18-32 year old, big city dweller with just one profile picture, would this be good advice for me? Hmmmm  for me personally NO…Women with flirty faces irritate me, and always have done, and I spoke with a few woman (over 25 ) who definitely don’t want a guy who looks away and doesn’t smile, (They commented that people who look like this are often self-absorbed or hiding something (Perhaps bad teeth) and they would avoid them)…for some people these photos are definitely a deal breaker!
My point is that for this advice to be helpful you have to be attracted to girls who make flirty faces or mysterious guys looking away!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys

Just kidding…

The real question you should be asking yourself is “who do I want to attract? If you think your ideal match wants to see you looking flirty or mysterious then this is exactly the sort of advice that you should follow, but if you want to attract other things in a person then perhaps a different

approach for profile pictures will apply! If you like to smile then smile-looking confident and how you want to look is important.

In summary not smiling may work if you’re younger, but there’s still a lot of opinion out there that says  to avoid it, (example Kurt Inman wrote an article called “Run Away from these 5 bad dating Dating photos” where he gives advice to avoid people with profile pictures who don’t smile, his valid opinion is “I ‘m not talking about a huge grin here. A real smile makes anyone look very attractive. I’ve seen people scowling, glaring, on the verge of tears and staring at the floor in their photo profile. How can you think this would be attractive to anyone?”, now I know many of you won’t agree with him…but many of you will (Especially the 28+ crowd!)

Profile picture myth #2:The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

The article says thatThe universally-maligned “My-Space angle” is achieved by holding your camera above your head and being just so darn coy, we were sure these pictures were lame; in fact, the prospect of producing hard data on just how lame got us all excited. But we were so wrong.” We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place—so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again. No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pictures”

Now this doesn’t surprise me, if you take a profile picture looking down on someone then they often look better, I agree with this article that these kinds of shots when done right can be very effective, many professional photographers take photos from above for this very reason

The only time I disagree on using “My Space angle” profile pictures is if they are used to hide the body!
Let’s imagine this scenario, a girl wants to post only photos of her from overhead-down; her logic is, this way only her face and boobs show, and lets imagine it’s because she’s overweight and doesn’t want anyone to know until they meet her on a first date (She’s hoping to make a connection so that she won’t be judged on her size)
Now I hold nothing against anyone for being thinner or larger (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again-I do believe that there’s a body type out there for everyone) but if this girl doesn’t show her body in any of her profile pictures then one of two things will happen; One- people will look at her profile pictures and get  suspicious and think she’s hiding something OR Two-she’ll mislead someone; I remember a date where I’d seen my dates’ attractive “My Space angle” profile pictures and invited her on a date when I met my date she was 100lbs heavier, so yes she got the date through the pictures, but would she get another date? I don’t think so!

Profile picture myth #3: Guys should keep their shirts on

Here’s a summary of this myth; The male “Ab shot’ profile picture is an Internet cliché that everyone thinks is only for bozos. Yet the data contradicts this ~ of course, there is some self-selection here: the guys showing off their abs are the ones with abs worth showing, and naturally the best bodies get lots of messages. So we can’t recommend this photo tactic to every man. But, contrary to everything you read about profile pictures, if you’re a guy with a nice body, it’s actually better to take off your shirt and why should guys with great bodies keep their best asset under wraps? Dating, both online and off is about playing to your strengths, and it should be no different for men with muscles”

Now I’m a little confused at this point, earlier in the article it says “We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”, and so I’m curious as they can’t recommend this tactic to every man does this make the statistics difficult to accurately interpret!

Again should the real question to ask yourself  be “who do I want to attract? If I think my ideal match wants this then this is exactly the sort of advice that I should follow, but if I want to attract other sorts of people then perhaps a different approach for profile pictures will be needed!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys and who think that abs are important

Just kidding again…

Here’s some other really good points the article makes:

“If you’re not the type of guy who can show off your muscles, don’t veer off in the opposite direction and get all dressed up.

“For women, shots that show breasts get attention…A message like “Hey nice rack” isn’t really gonna lead anywhere, and isn’t very valuable to the recipient”

“the value of being conversation-worthy, as opposed to merely sexy, cannot be overstated”

I agree that whatever your age, location or attitude this is good solid advice…

 

Profile picture myth #4: Make sure your face is showing

Now I was as surprised when I read that “The facts were stubborn and your face doesn’t necessarily matter. In fact, not showing your face can in fact be a positive, as long as you substitute in something unusual, sexy, or mysterious enough to make people want to talk to you.”.

I laughed out loud when I read this and laughed out loud again when I read:

Of course, we wouldn’t recommend that you meet someone in person without first seeing a full photo of them, that still seems like a recipe for disaster.

Do I need to say more…
So in conclusion thank-you OK Cupid for taking the time to research and write this report, it’s definitely a great start in serving people who are online dating, and aren’t sure what do do when choosing a profile picture~ I hope that when you read this you’ll enjoy my comments on your article and I hope I made you smile too!

For readers of this post~ Both Online daters and Matchmakers alike, If you have additional questions about this article or anything else on effective, profile pictures please reach out to me via LookBetterOnline Facebook or Twitter, I’m interested to hear what you have to say.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Profile Pic Secrets

You know what I think about a profile pic!

I think that  your profile pic says more about you than you can ever write in a profile description, with the right profile pic you can have a less than perfect profile yet still get results, so what else is important about a profile photo?

The reason is that while there might be plenty of fish in the sea, who wants to land a tiddler? Or tempt a shark?

Your profile pic is the bait that will attract the right kind of fish for you. Use the wrong bait and all you’ll hook is something you’ll want to throw right back.

That’s because for most people dating online — dating anywhere! — is a visual experience.

The first thing that any single looks at when they reach a dating profile is…

Right….  The profile pic.

A profile pic is always the first thing to attract their attention. Sure, the headline is important and the description. But it’s the profile pic they’ll look at first. That’s why it’s VERY important to have a good “Main” profile pic. Once they see your pictures, THEN they’ll go on to read your headline and the rest of your profile. To win the dating game you MUST make a GREAT first impression.

Remember… A great profile pic will often persuade people to ignore a bad profile but a bad profile pic will not inspire anyone to read a great profile.

You don’t have to look like a Hollywood star or supermodel to attract attention on an online dating site. All you need is a great profile pic that shows you at your best!
And remember that having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

What you need to know about Profile pictures and the wonderful differences between men and women!

A light hearted look at the differences between men and women!


The differences between men and women are not just well-documented, but often the heart of jokes, anecdotes, and good-humored (and not so good-humored) teasing. We agree that there are actually real differences in the way women’s and men’s brains are structured and in the way they react

So what exactly has this got to do with dating? I hear you say, well here’s a difference

For Online dating profile pictures obviously play a big part, but there’s a HUGE difference in the way men and women think! While both men and women found  profile pictures to be essential in choosing the right person to date, men spent a LOT more time staring at the profile pictures and less time evaluating a dating candidate’s profile. In fact, men spent twice as long staring at the profile pictures, Women on the other hand, spent twice as long as men assessing the profile.

I spoke with a new friend of mine who’s been a matchmaker for many years and she confirmed this to be true, she laughed when she told me how in the “good old days” she would have a book full of profile pictures of clients that she would match, now when the women looked they would choose one or two of the profile pictures that they found attractive, then they would carefully read the profiles and evaluate the person they felt the would be the best choice!
Men on the other hand would thumb through the pages of this book like a catalogue until someone caught their eye, stopping to look only at the hottest profile pictures not that concerned about what the profiles read at all.

Now I know this to be true, I’ve done it myself!

So Ladies (and gentleman) this means “Great profile pictures make more difference than anything you can ever write in your profile”

If your profile pictures are average than they won’t even notice you! You might as well be invisible to all the great catches, and visible to all the wrong sorts of people.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Best profile pictures: First impressions count!

It doesn’t take a rocket science to know that first impressions count! And online first impressions are always visual.
The first thing we see when checking out someone is a profile photo. And in a world of fast clicks, if your photo isn’t eye-catching, unless you have the best profile pictures possible you’ll most likely miss your chance at making an impression.

So what makes an effective profile pic? What do the best profile pictures have in common?

Quality is key!

Now This may seem blatantly obvious, yet we’ve all come across endless profiles with blurry, or dark images. When your initial photo is inadequate, there’s no amount of “digital retouching magic” that can make it good
If there is one element that lets so many profile images down, it’s a lack of sharpness, and as most people don’t know how to keep a camera still this is a common problem that stops people taking the best profile pictures

Other things to Avoid!

Extreme close up profile pictures!
No one likes people who get in your face, do you really want the digital equivalent?

Best Profile pictures posing with a pet
? Mixed feelings on this one, some people definitely don’t want a picture of you and your dog, yet many dog lovers feel this is great, my advice, unless you’re a hardcore cat or dog lover then stay away from these as they are NOT the best profile pictures.

Best Profile pictures wearing less clothing (Boob shots and showing your six pack)
Now lately a large dating website published a report saying that photos showing guys with abs were more effective, they stated that “the guys showing off their abs are the ones with abs worth showing, and naturally the best bodies get lots of messages” funnily enough they didn’t recommend this tactic to most men, they went on to say that contrary to everything you read about choosing the best profile pictures, that if you’ve a good body then it’s better to remove your shirt than to leave it on! (As I write this post my girlfriend tells me that guys who do this are stuck on themselves~just saying) Now I’m all for theses studies, yet the issue for many people isn’t the number of hits it’s the kind of hits you attract with online dating (quality counts)…do I really want a woman who picks me just for my body? (I can hear you saying~did you really just say that!) every man and woman at some point in their lives has dated someone who was “smoking-hot” but do you remember all the times you just didn’t want them to talk?

The same goes for women with boob shots, is this the sort of attention you really want? If you do then fine, I believe that dating, both online and off for both men and women  is about playing to your strengths, and it should be no different for people with great bodies, but please don’t take pictures with your boobs as your main attractive feature and then complain that I’m staring at your them!

And remember that having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

2 tips for better profile photos

Have you ever felt the need to change the way you look in order to attract “Mr or Mrs right?

Have you ever considered having your profile photos retouched?

We switch on the television and see a million messages telling us that we need to change the way we look or pay the price! For women its make-up or hair ads telling us to use them to find our beauty, or weight loss products, for men it’s the closest shave…all these
adverts seem to tell us that if we do what they say and change our appearance then everything will be O.K. and if we don’t do then we’ll be reduced to a life of misery (I guess that’s often the basic premise of marketing)

For women the problem becomes worse when they open a magazine! Women’s magazines are filled with images of women with who fit the perfect profile. Photos of “perfect people” models who have had every line or blemish or imperfection retouched away!
These adverts aren’t reality, they are glamorous and look great, glamour photos are not about The Real person, it’s about the photographer creating the image that they find the most pleasing (and most effective to sell stuff with). The photographer will use heavy makeup, hair styling, unnatural lighting and heavy post production retouching.

So what’s all this got to do with Dating and your profile photos I hear you say!

If you take profile photos to post online and use heavy makeup, hair styling, unnatural lighting and heavy post production retouching the result is a fantasy image, and it fails on a dating site. You must run in the opposite direction if anyone tries to sell you “old school” glamor photography, I’m literally amazed at how many photographers STILL take profile pictures this way!

People avoid these profile photos because somewhere at a “gut level” they know no one looks like that, or they avoid you after the date because you didn’t measure up to the profile photos that you posted online

Whats the solution? Simple~Natural profile photos that reflect the real you.

As CEO of Lookbetteronline.com  it’s been said that I get more body-altering requests than some plastic surgeons, that people contact me all the time, wanting to shed a few pounds from their frame, or people wanting to add a little more hair to their bald head.

Thankfully this is an exaggeration, (although it did make me laugh when I first read this) but there is a little truth to these claims.

“The right profile photos, make a huge difference in how people perceive you on the Web.”

I often advise women to love and be their beautiful and original self and to go easy with the retouching software:

Remember “Photoshop is like the Force. There’s a light side and a dark side. Wield the retouching tool wisely and with restraint. Don’t represent yourself as any different than who you really are-or at least who you are with great lighting, good makeup and a lot of sleep.”

So to summarize these 2 tips

1)Avoid glamor shots!
2)If you get profile photos retouched find someone who knows what they are doing otherwise you’ll look lame

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Why bad profile pictures mean really, really, bad dates

This video really made me laugh hard and reminded me of the worst date I ever had

Have you looked at someone’s profile pictures that look good, then met them in person  and they look nothing like the profile pictures that they posted? A guaranteed bad date for sure~ would you stay or Run?

The idea of any profile pictures is to represent you. It means that when we meet – that I’m able to recognize that it’s you. Posting a profile picture of you and a group of your friends at a bar and assuming I’ll be able to pick you out is not a good idea-What If I’m more attracted to your hot friend than you? And providing an image of yourself where you’re the tiny, tiny little speck on the horizon of one of the profile pictures doesn’t tell me much about you either. I am sure the pyramids in Egypt was an amazing experience and you can tell me about your interesting travels on our date but first I would like to see profile pictures that show what YOU really look like first to see if I want to date you.

And please know profile pictures that are recent are helpful too. For example, profile pictures of you, 30 lbs lighter than you are now or profile pictures taken at least 20 years ago doesn’t really do any good either. If you look “hot” in your profile pictures and “not” in the real then of course I’m going to be disappointed.

And Body shape or hair color or height or age may or may not be a deal maker or deal breaker or me, as a matter of fact my partner can be older than me and have curves. But when I am expecting someone who’s hot in their 40’s to show up and I get in someone who looks more like my mom’s age — then I have a problem.

I was on such a date, and I remember the details oh to well (if only I could forget them), I’d met who I thought was a beautiful blonde girl, smart, charming, funny and sexy (at least sexy according to her profile pictures ), we connected on the telephone and agreed to meet, excited I drifted asleep with happy visions of me and the blonde girl!

As I approached her for our first date, she had her back to me, her beautiful long blonde hair exactly as in her profile pictures, then as she turned around to face me-I looked at her and I was shocked, she looked a genuine 20 years older…in my shocked reaction I just flinched and jumped back a couple of paces….Followed by a deeply uncomfortable moment, where Irealized that I had just flinched and she knew it! I went totally red in the face and tried to hide my deep disappointment…I didn’t find her attractive, and she wasn’t the girl I’d hoped to take to dinner.

If I didn’t find her remotely attractive on a first date then what hope could we ever have for a future!

Now I’m not saying that she wasn’t worthy of love-I’m sure that someone somewhere would find her attractive…just not me, if only she’d  posted accurate dating profile picture then she’d have saved us both a wasted evening!

So remember that having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

“A great profile picture makes more difference than anything you can ever write in your profile”

Choosing an online dating profile picture:
When it comes to a good profile picture then many people need this advice! Better still spend the money on a quality profile picture that make you look your best! and Remember if your profile picture doesn’t look like you then you’re turning away people as most of us look at the profile picture first!
Remember ”A great profile picture makes more difference than anything you can ever write in your profile”

Visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Fake profile pictures vs real profile pictures

Sometimes with profile pictures what you see definitely isn’t what you get! LOL

Fake profile pictures VS Real profile pictures

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Online Dating Photos

While this video is a bit cheesy the advice for online dating photos is both valid and relevant for both men and women. Are you making any of these 3 critical online dating photos mistakes? Do your online dating photos have a poor background, say nothing about you or include the wrong people? the key to effective (and isn’t this the point of posting them) online dating photos that get results is to create high quality, natural and relaxed photos of you, so stay away from “posed-glamor-studio-shots” or “poor-home-made-photos”

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!


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Love doesn’t just happen. It happens to people who make things happen. They do that by taking action.