If you are shy dating can seem a bit scary and overwhelming.
Online dating can give you a chance to meet someone special in the comfort of your home, making it much, much easier to start the process of dating.
Eventually though you’ll need to go a date and meet in person!
3 simple online dating tips
Here are three tips to make it easier
1. Keep it short
The first date hasn’t got to last for hours and hours. For the first date, meet for coffee and a brief talk. Knowing that the first date will be short will do 2 things
i. It will take the pressure off, and if you want to extend the date and you’re having a good time then this is usually easy to do!
ii.Remember a first date is just to see if you’re compatible…it’s a great strategy to have a great time and leave on a “high note” this will often leave your date “wanting more of you”…you don’t have to tell them everything about you on the first date!…too much information is overwhelming for most people
2. Be detached from the outcome
Another huge mistake that people make is to go into online dates with specific expectations. The main one is usually “I have to make a love connection.” This is yet another example of what NOT to do while online dating, (and this will drive anyone crazy!). Doing this will ensure that you will have a disastrous online dating experience.
Don’t get us wrong, it is smart and necessary to have the expectation that you will eventually make a love connection and meet “the one.” And having this mindset is vital if you want to attract the partner of your dreams. But the key is to remain detached to the romantic outcome and to let that process unfold naturally. Do not try to force or rush destiny.
Take it Easy…
If you go into your online dates thinking “this one is going to be the one, this one is going to be the one,” then you will put a huge amount of unwanted pressure on both you and your poor date. You will come off desperate, needy, or aggressive, none of which are attractive and will warrant a second or third date. And if you don’t feel an immediate connection you will be incredibly disappointed, you will shut down emotionally, and your entire date will be ruined.
If you continue to do this over an extended number of dates you will eventually become bitter, traumatized and completely turned off by the entire online dating experience altogether. And if that happens, it will dramatically decrease your odds of ever finding the person of your dreams.
Your only valid expectation…
Having fun should be the only immediate expectation you should have when going into an online date. And once again don’t forget that only you are responsible for your fun. When you are detached to the romantic outcome of your dates you will remove resistance and have a great online dating experience (and so will your date). And believe it or not you will be able to attract your dream partner much faster & easier than you ever imagined possible. Below are a few suggestions that may help:
i. Remember, having fun should be the only immediate expectation you should have when going into an online dates.
Tell yourself that each person you meet adds something positive to your dating experience, and helps prepare you for “The One.”
ii. Remind yourself that online dating is exciting and appreciate every moment of being single – when the time is right you will be in a loving relationship.
3. Think ahead:
Shy people often feel less shy or nervous when they are prepared. Don’t over think this just read their profile and think ahead of time the things that you want to ask them!
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