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15 Secrets of Online Dating for Grownup Women – Part 1

Many of you who’ve read this Blog before know that I featured my friend and dating coach  Bobbi Palmer. www.datelikeagrownup.com

For those of you who haven’t met Bobbi let I’ll re-introduce her as “The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40”.

I like Bobbi because she’s the real deal, someone who shares a positive message for women looking to find love, someone who genuinely loves helping people and someone who has met her true love.
(Tip for anyone reading this, if you want to marry the man of your dreams then listen carefully to dating coaches with happy marriages.)

“So why listen to Bobbi”? I hear you say…Listen because Bobbi found love at 47.

If you are a single woman over forty, who is still hoping to meet the man of your dreams… If you’re tired of disappointing dates and feeling like it’s too late or too difficult…then please read on. Here’s the start of a 3 part article called

15 online dating “Secrets” for Grownup Women !

You Can do it!

You can meet the spectacular, special man who is going to be your life partner using online dating. I met the love of my life online, so of course I recommend it to you.

I’m Bobbi Palmer, the dating and relationship coach for women over 40. I encourage my clients to get online to find the man who will love and adore them the rest of their lives.

My clients are using online dating to varying degrees of success. Pamela’s beau is the first man she met online; Heidi went out with about four men before she met Tom and started her (so far) 3 year relationship with him; Peggy is on Bachelor #26 and happy that she is just having a good time dating for the first time in her life.

It took me years of being online before I met Larry. That’s why I can give so much advice about what to do…and what not to do!

It can happen

It may not happen for you overnight, but like me…it can happen.

I want you to go online. But before you put yourself out there, I want to give you some advice about how to show up, set your expectations, stake your claim, have some fun, and ultimately find a loving partner.
And know this: just because you’re online, that doesn’t mean it’s the only way you can meet men. You can meet them in the grocery store, Sierra Club hikes, your friends’ parties, and blind dates set up by your friends and relatives. This just exponentially increases your chances.
So get out there, and have some fun! But read this first.

Here are five tips to consider as you get you started.

#1. Be the Boss

No, I don’t mean be bossy. I mean be in control of your experience. Online dating opens you up to thousands more possibilities, and it’s a completely new way of meeting people.
Make some decisions and set some personal guidelines about how you want to integrate it into your life. How many hours will you spend each day? (Warning: this can get addictive!) What things can you do to ensure your physical and emotional wellbeing as you talk to and meet people? What can you learn or change to be a successful dater?
Intuition and special situations will create forks in the road. And as time goes on, you’ll likely tweak some of these decisions. Considering some things up front, however, gives you a tentative roadmap and, more importantly, an expanded awareness. I want you to have fun, be open to new things, and enjoy the experience; just do it consciously and like the grownup woman that you are.

Remember those jerks you met in bars 30 years ago? Well a few are still out there; they just have gray hair now. You need to be able to deal with them in a classy you direct manner; the best way is to have a good sense of what you want and who you will “be’ out there.

#2.  Stand out

Plain and simple: you have competition girlfriend. As we age, the ratio of women to men grows further apart. Some statistics say it’s as much as 11 women to each man after 55. Yikes!

If you’re dating after 40, I want you to stand up and stand out. You’re reading this so you’re already ahead of the game. Make sure your pictures are great. Get them done professionally. (Come on a couple of hundred bucks is NOT too much to spend to attract a fabulous man??)

Your profile needs to be unique and speak to men. Here’s a tip: If your best girlfriend loves it; it probably sucks because it’s too girly. Every communication needs to scream how special you are, show your personality, and tell him you’re interested. (“Hi” on the subject line means you wait in line or get deleted. Flirt a little and have some fun.)

#3. Be honest

You are online, but your goal is to actually meet men, yes? One of the top complaints of men is that we post pictures that are…let’s say…out of date. Just don’t do it. Post lovely, yet current, pictures. It’s disingenuous and a waste of time to do otherwise.

Also, be clear about what you’re looking for. I find that at 40, 50, and beyond there is a wide spectrum of what type of partner men and women are looking for. Whether you want a dinner partner or a husband; put it out there. There’s no need to scream it, but weave it into your profile. If you want a life partner, you don’t attract that man who is out there “just having fun.”  (Trust me, with Viagra and a computer…a man can have a lot of fun these days!)

#4. Consider a makeover

When is the last time you updated your look? Have you changed the way you apply your makeup or wear your hair? Have you bought any new styled clothes?

Doing this is as much about looking good for a man, as it is about feeling good for yourself. A confident woman who takes care of herself and looks healthy is a man magnet.

Go to your local department store and have a free makeup session. All the lines do this, did you know? Splurge for a fancy hair style. Check out catalogs~you don’t have to necessarily buy — but check out what’s hot (and what’s not).

#5. Check your baggage

Yes, I do mean don’t drag your nasty divorce, money troubles, or last case of gout into the conversation. (At least not anywhere near the beginning of getting to know someone.)

But, as important, don’t drag in all those beliefs and decisions you made 20 years ago. The woman you are today is nowhere near the girl who dated way back when.

It’s time to review all your checklists. Check the one that defines “the perfect man” and what he must do or not do to get to the next date.

Check the one that has all your “truths” about yourself, about dating, and about men.

It’s important to take time to ground yourself in who you are and what you want in your life today. Do this by yourself, with a friend, or with a coach. But do it.

Remember, stay the same means staying single, sister.

Dating online? Regardless of your age, the most important thing you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

 

Want to Have Fun Dating? Shed Your Dread of Rejection

My friend Bobbi from DateLikeaGrownup.com sent me this interesting article today, Hope you like it!

What are you doing this coming weekend?

Are you getting out to have some fun? Are you going somewhere to be around people and practice your connection and communication skills? Are you hopping online and writing emails to five fine people you’ve scoped out?

No? You’re not? If you’re like I was when I was single, or you’re like many of my private coaching clients, you may not be doing any of those things, and for one reason: you dread feeling rejected.

A few quick stories

Maybe if I tell you a few quick stories it will help you shed that dread.

1. Last week one of my clients told me that she sent an “I don’t think we’re a good match” email to a really hot guy. Why? Because he lived in the same small town as her cousin. She can’t stand her cousin and doesn’t want to risk seeing him.

2. A male friend of mine was dumped like a hot potato recently by his girlfriend. They had lived together for three years, and one day she told him that she “just realized [that she] really wanted a man who is taller and blond.” After three years, she just figured that out. And she left that day…along with most of his belongings.

3. I was going through profiles with a client the other day, and she dismissed men for these reasons (not all of which I agreed with, by the way):

  • One was not the religion she wanted.
  • One was separated and not yet divorced.
  • One was too short.
  • One wasn’t interested in politics and she was.

What do all these have in common? The rejections had NOTHING to do with the person’s worthiness as a person or partner! NOTHING.

These “rejections” were about logistics, someone else being crazy and losing her mind, and stuff that just didn’t make two people a good match.

Don’t take things personally

It can seem hard not to take things personally, after all…these are people saying “no” to you, right? Well, not really. They don’t know you at all. Any reason someone doesn’t choose you after just seeing your profile or just one date ought not be considered as a personal attack or reasonable comment on your worth as a partner.

Even if it’s been a long-time relationship, sometimes it’s not about you. My friend – the one whose girlfriend dumped him – was destroyed by the experience. It took him a good year to realize it wasn’t about him not being good enough. It was about her going a little psycho as a reaction to other things happening in her life.

So, I ask you again: what are you doing this weekend? What efforts will you be making to help you get closer to meeting that kind, smart and loving person who is going to share your already-great life?

Dating online? Regardless of your age, the most important thing you need to know…

Whether you are 25 or 95 Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great profile pictures we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

A recommended Workshop by Bobbi

I know that Bobbi is the real deal, and so she is one of the Dating Coaches that  I love and  recommend.

For the record Bobbi really does care about her clients, which is why I have no worries about telling you about what she does!

So If you’re living in California (Or just a plane flight away) she’s  teaching her breakthrough workshop Get Online, Get Noticed & Meet Your Man on September 29, 2012 in Sherman Oaks, CA. Click here to learn more and reserve your seat.

 

 

How to get rid of first date anxiety!

For many people a first date can be nerve-wracking to say the least.

Before the first date, people often get nervous just wondering whether they will like their date or whether their date will like them.

Here are 3 simple (Yet effective) strategies that will help calm your nerves and increase your chance of a way more successful first date:

1.Don’t forget the purpose of a Date.

Remember, having fun should be the only immediate expectation you should have when going on a date and a first date is simply to have fun and decide whether you want a second one. With that in mind don’t go on a date with expectations.

2. Be detached from the outcome

I got this advice from my great friends and dating gurus The Amazing Clarks

“Another huge mistake that people make is to go into online dates with specific expectations. The main one is usually “I have to make a love connection.” This is yet another example of what not to do while online dating. Doing this is yet another to ensure that you will have a disastrous online dating experience.

Don’t get us wrong, it is smart and necessary to have the expectation that you will eventually make a love connection and meet “the one.” And having this mindset is vital if you want to attract the partner of your dreams. But the key is to remain detached to the romantic outcome and to let that process unfold naturally. Do not try to force or rush destiny.

3.Relax…

If you go into your online dates thinking “this one is going to be the one, this one is going to be the one,” then you will put a huge amount of unwanted pressure on both you and your poor date. You will come off desperate, needy, or aggressive, none of which are attractive and will warrant a second or third date. And if you don’t feel an immediate connection you will be incredibly disappointed, you will shut down emotionally, and your entire date will be ruined.

If you continue to do this over an extended number of dates you will eventually become bitter, traumatized and completely turned off by the entire online dating experience altogether. And if that happens, it will dramatically decrease your odds of ever finding the person of your dreams.

When you are detached to the romantic outcome of your dates you will remove resistance and have a great online dating experience (and so will your date). And believe it or not you will be able to attract your dream partner much faster & easier than you ever imagined possible”.

So more tips

Here’s a video with some tips on getting over dating nervousness from Dating expert Kara Oh

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great profile photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Women: Stop over-analyzing your dates!

It’s been said that men over simplify and women over analyze?

How much mental energy do most women use trying to figure out how their date feels about them?

Most women get waaaaaaay too involved in trying to figure out what their date thinks about them; They want to connect with their date and they think that by understanding and analyzing every detail of the date that this will help them achieve their goal.

The truth is that over analyzing your date doesn’t help.

A funny story about analyzing.

Tonight, I thought my date was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.

Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong. He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior. I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.

Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep -I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

His Diary: My motorcycle wouldn’t start today, I’m not sure why, but at least I got laid.

Stop analyzing your dates!

The more you over analyze your date the more stressed you’ll feel about dating.

Stop hanging all your hopes and dreams on one man, maybe even before you know all that much about him.

Shift the focus

I’m not saying to totally disregard what he says, but try shifting your focus towards not whether or not he likes you, but rather towards whether or not you like yourself when you’re with him.

If you feel great about yourself when you’re on a date with him then you’re dating the right man. And if you feel insecure or unhappy when you are with him, then perhaps you need to rethink whether he’s the right person.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having  great profile pictures is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

New Online Dating book “Ace the chase” and Launch of the “Authentic Gentleman” website.

Let me introduce you to me new friend Jiron.

Jiron is an easy to chat to, successful guy who lives in Singapore.
Recently he contacted me to tell me about his new dating book “Ace the chase”, it’s aimed at guys who need help with online dating.

He kindly sent me a copy of his book “Ace the chase” to review.

When I started to read his book I was skeptical…boy was I wrong!

OK, so let’s put this in perspective, Jiron has written this book for men who are online dating in their 20’s and 30’s…and many of LookBetterOnline’s customers are in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s.

But “Ace the chase” has some  information  relevant to ALL men who are online dating; Think “Being real, being congruent, Dress sense, Body language”

Jiron made me laugh out loud when he wrote:

“I have always loved online dating. It’s like passive income – while you sleep, you earn. With online dating, when you wake up, you get a new email in your inbox.”

Jiron admits that he came from “That position where I was socially awkward with the ladies. So I know how difficult it can be for some men to go out there and approach random women on the streets”.

A lot of men fail miserably at online dating, and a lot of men spend hard earned dollars on dating coaches who promise them a “system” to attract women online.

Avoid the “Creepy dating vibe”.

The problem with many of these so called “Systems’ is that they often resort to tips and techniques that make guys look weird, and give off a “Creepy dating vibe”.

What Jiron promises (And Delivers) is good commonsense advice to help guys realize how online dating really works and he helps people let their natural best selves shine without having to resort to tips and techniques that feel odd.

Simply Authentic.

What I LOVE about Jiron is that he’s authentic!

When we were chatting he told me that He was “Unsure whether his material would appeal to older men…as in, the conversational parts”.

If you’re under 30 years old then BUY this book! If you’re older  and not offended by a younger message then read between the lines and adapt what he says to work for you.

http://authenticgentleman.com/

Thanks Jiron for a refreshingly honest read.

 

 

Dating online? The rule you can’t break…get great online dating photos.

Having  great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Dating after being widowed

Today I got a lump in my throat while on the phone speaking with a LookBetterOnline.com customer!

The customer (Let us call him John to give him some privacy) told me that he’d been happily married to a loving wife for many good years and that a couple of years ago lost her to cancer; He told me this because when we spoke on the telephone my English accent reminded him of his English wife.

He went on to say that it was difficult to rebuild his life and start dating again.

My intention on writing this post is to help people who are in his position, I’ve tried to educate myself a little on the subject and while I don’t have all the answers I hope I’ll be able to provide a perspective to make dating after being widowed just a little easier!

Dating again after the death of a wife or husband can be a very difficult experience for many people, it can often bring to the surface feelings of guilt and it can also bring out strong emotions from the family and friends of the widowed, who were often very close to the loved one who died.

I’ve put together 4 tips to help widows and widowers begin to date.

1.The right time is up to you.

As a widow or widower there is no set time period that you should let pass before dating again. We all grieve in different ways, for some people it’s years before they can date again, for some they will never date again, and for some they will meet someone when they least expect it. The most important advice is to be true to the way you feel; other people with the best intentions may tell you that you’re waiting too long or moving too fast. Just make sure that you move at your own pace and feel ready. I personally had a friend who started dating just a year after his wife died, many of his friends and family felt that this was too soon, yet many years later he’s happy and has no regrets that this was the right decision,
A key point in deciding when the right time is to date is to understand that if you’re dating someone because you think it’s going to stop the pain or fill the void, it’s not likely to work- Dating will not heal wounds; time and acceptance will, Before saying ‘hello’ to someone new, you have to say ‘goodbye’ to the person who had been your best  friend and lover and before you explore new relationships, it is crucial that you come to terms with your loss first.

2. Feeling Guilty Is Normal

Many people feel guilt and shame for wanting to start dating again after their husband or wife. These feelings are usually normal and because you want to date doesn’t mean that you are betraying anyone. We all need love and it’s in our deepest nature to want to connect with others.

Remember that you are not replacing your husband or wife by dating again.

3. Talk About the Deceased Spouse, but don’t live with a ghost

This is a sensitive subject to write about.
Your date will most likely be interested in you and your past story curious. Remember that while It’s okay to talk about your spouse when you’re are first dating someone that
constantly talking about your past makes it seem that you’re not ready to move on and start a new relationship, it’s fine to honor the memory of your spouse, but no one wants to live with a ghost.

4.Take things slow and easy

After losing a spouse people often struggle because as well as losing their best friend and partner they’ve lost their “love life” and we all need love and touch.
Needing love and touch his can make anyone seem needy, and it can force them into a serious relationship before the time is right.
Yet there’s really no reason to rush, keep things slow and easy and remember that there are many great people out there and let things unfold naturally.

An important thing you need to know…get yourself some really good dating photos

When the time is right to start dating again, having  great dating photos is the one of the most important things you can do when dating online, visit LookBetterOnline and find out why our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Encouraging news for 60 Million people dating with Herpes.

Working for LookBetterOnline.com I try to take the time to speak to customers each day, to stay connected with people who are dating online in the real world.

I’m always surprised at the how people will reveal their inner secrets to me. Perhaps it’s because I’m a distant English accent on the other end of a telephone that won’t judge or meet them, perhaps it’s a deeper human desire to connect with another person.

Recently I was speaking with a man who told me that he felt as if his dating life was over, he’d just ended his ten year marriage, his wife had given him genital Herpes many years ago (She knew she had it yet failed to tell him) and he had no idea how to begin dating with herpes, he was definitely afraid to start dating again and afraid of the stigma and possible rejection.

This post is my honest attempt to answer his question of “How could I possibly date when I have Genital Herpes?”

I hope I’ve done so in a respectful and sensitive manner and I hope that if you’re reading this post and have Genital herpes that my words will serve you and help you feel better about your situation.

The facts about Herpes

I was amazed to find out that 60 million Americans have Genital herpes!

For such a common condition Herpes carries a lot of stigma, which I think is way out of proportion to its effects.

One in five Americans has “Herpes simplex 2” (the most common cause of Genital Herpes) and roughly 90 percent of them are totally unaware that they have it!

HSV-2 can be passed to a sexual partner in the absence of any symptoms; This is why it is so prevalent.
Most individuals don’t go around having unprotected sex while they have an open sore; they pass on the virus in total ignorance that they have ever had herpes. (Dr. Jeff Benson states that “Most cases are not recognized by people nor diagnosed by doctors, because they do not cause the typical sores and an additional 20 percent of cases cause no symptoms whatsoever”.)

It’s often impossible to know if the virus was in your system for months or years, if you’re newly infected or if your partner got the virus and transmitted it to you recently; or if he or she too had it from the past. Blood tests may tell you that you have Herpes, but they don’t tell you when you got Herpes.

Studies show that those who harbor the Herpes virus can pass it on over 10 percent of the time, often without any symptoms. Your long-term partner, unknown to them, may have had herpes for a while and for some reason passed it on to you now. It’s important to be aware of all these possibilities before you accuse anyone of cheating.

You’re not alone.

Let me restate that if you have Genital Herpes you are not alone; millions of people have faced the challenge of dating with herpes.

How to tell your date that you have Herpes

Ok, so you know that you have to tell your date about herpes before you  have sexual contact with them, and allow them enough time to process what you’ve told them before deciding whether or not to have sex with you.

For many people this may seem like a HUGE thing to have to do, so here’s some advice to make it easier.

Don’t wait until you are in moment of passion and definitely do not wait until after sleep with them to tell them!
Honesty always has been and always will be the best policy. Even if you only want a casual relationship, your date deserves to know the truth before deciding to have sex with you, if you don’t feel ready to talk to a date about herpes then you are probably NOT ready to have sex with them.

Here’s a video I found that brings up some very valid points about talking to a potential partner about “Herpes”

Herpes does not define you.

Herpes does not define you. You are a normal person who just happens to have it, so don’t make a big deal about it…if you make it sound like a big deal your date may be more  concerned than needed. Try saying “I carry the virus for herpes.” instead of saying “I have herpes,” it sounds better.
And let’s not forget that we all have “issues” to deal with. There are worse problems to have in a relationship- Cheating. Lying, being needy to name just a few- if Herpes is your only issue, you’re not in bad shape.

Explain to your date that there are many types of herpes, and that the most common one causes cold sores. (80% of the US population already has HSV1 and got it sometime during their childhood from kissing and HSV1 can also be spread to the genitals during oral sex). “Shingles” and “Chicken Pox” are caused by a strain of herpes –HSV2 is just a different strain of this same common virus, or even print this post and get them to read it.

Your date might have the virus and not know it.

Remember that because HSV2 is so common, yet so few people who have it know that it’s highly possible that your date might have the virus and not know it. And even if they don’t, the odds are 1 in every 4 of their previous sexual partners had herpes, even if they didn’t know it and were not showing any symptoms.

Having sex with someone who has Herpes does not mean that you are going to get it. Although there are no guarantees, using condoms does reduce the risk of transmission and since you already know that you have herpes  and are taking steps to reduce the risk of spreading it, your date has a  bigger risk of getting herpes from any of the other 1 in 4 people with herpes  who don’t KNOW that they have it and aren’t using precautions.

Impressed by your honesty and ability.

When you talk with your date about herpes most of the time you’ll be pleasantly surprised, most likely they will be impressed by your honesty and ability to discuss a difficult topic. They will probably be more attracted to you and recognize that you are someone they should not discard simply because of a silly and very manageable virus.

If they decide not to move forward in a relationship, they are rejecting the herpes – not you.

Putting things into perspective

Remember to put things into perspective, Herpes is very common, let me reiterate that 60 million Americans have Genital herpes…One in five Americans, and for most people the symptoms are infrequent  and so mild that 80% of the people  who have it, don’t even know.

A Dating Website for people with Herpes

Another option for people with Herpes is to join a dating website where herpes is the norm, not the exception, where there is no stigma and definitely no uncomfortable “talk” to give.

CLICK HERE to visit PositiveSingles Website

Also remember that there are “Herpes cure scams” on the internet and if you need health and wellness advice always ask a qualified doctor.

Three things to think about.

It’s normal to feel upset after finding out that you have genital herpes.  But remember you will feel much better after you learn the real facts about genital herpes; Facts like:

  1. That Lots of people get genital herpes (500,000 Americans each year)
  2. You’re still attractive and desirable
  3. Most people with Genital herpes live happy lives and fulfilling relationships

Dating online…Get great dating photos.

You’ll need some dating profile photos when you date online.
Having  great dating photos is the most important thing you can do when dating online, visit LookBetterOnline and find out why our customers get better dates, and see how with great online dating photos we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Dating after an unhealthy relationship

Unhealthy relationships are awful and getting free (after often way too much suffering) is usually a big relief.

Life can be tough after the breakup of a  “Healthy relationship” so how do you rebuild your life, and find love after you’ve been in an unhealthy or abusive relationship? How do you rebuild your self-worth and move into a new chapter of your life?

The challenge is that after being in an unhealthy relationship, it can make the idea of dating again can seem scary. Many people are unsure or feel insecure about dating after they have left an bad relationship and fear to entering a relationship again (Even casual dating) . This is understandable.

Self-esteem is the first step

The thing most damaged in a bad relationship is self-esteem, this needs to be repaired before you can date anyone. You need to be certain that you’re worthy of a good person and a healthy relationship.

Here’s a great exercise to begin building self-esteem. Make a list of all your good qualities, you’ll find there are lots of them, if you’re not sure where to start writing out all the compliments you’ve had in your life, this is a good way to start to seeing yourself in a more positive light and start believing in yourself again.
Another way to build self-confidence is to dress sharp. Use this to your advantage, while clothes don’t change who you are, they certainly affect the way you feel about yourself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are.
And this doesn’t mean you need to spend a ton of money on new clothes, a good rule is “spend twice as much and buy half as much”. Rather than buying cheap clothes, buy half as many items, reduce the clutter in your wardrobe and dress sharper!

Also your fitness can have a huge effect on your self-esteem. If you’re out of shape, you’ll may feel insecure. Work out and improve your appearance and you will feel better.

Get clear about what you want in a partner.

What exactly do you want in a partner ?
Take a few minutes to write it down. Get clear on what you want and what you don’t want, and don’t settle for less

When you go on a date.

1)learn to trust your gut, if a date feels wrong simply and politely leave.

2)Look for red flags and old patterns.
Pay attention to the details, you don’t want to begin dating  someone like your EX,

3)Try to relax, (I know it’s hard, because of past experiences-you may even  be waiting for something bad to happen) so remember that he past is the past so don’t project your paranoia onto your date, they have no idea about your past history.

Last thoughts

Take dating slow and at a comfortable pace for you.
There’s no reason to rush, let things unfold naturally for you and your date and remember that there are some wonderful people out there. It is easy to become afraid, and cynical after heartbreak. However, there are many loving and respectful people in the world – and one of them might be the one for you.

4 Simple tips to help make dating more fun

Here are 4 super simple tips to make dating more fun

Relax.

Simply stated, you need a relaxed, carefree attitude when it comes to dating; If you can’t do this then you’ll almost certainly not enjoy the dating process and perhaps even end up feeling “needy”. If you go out on a date with someone you like and then don’t hear from them then instead of stressing over why – just accept it wasn’t meant to be and move on, save yourself all that drama and get ready for the next exciting dating adventure.

Trust your gut.

Following your intuition is always a good idea, and when it comes to dating, no exceptions.

Accept people for who they are.

How many of us are guilty of thinking they could change something about a partner?
Remember how we learned the hard way that we couldn’t change them? Look for a partner who you don’t want to change and the odds are you’ll live a happier life; If you can’t accept some trait or habit in a potential partner then simply move on and spend your time looking for someone more suitable.

Remember bad dates make good stories.

We’ve all had bad dates…don’t let a bad date ruin your day! Simply open a bottle of wine afterwards with your friends and have a good laugh!

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7 reasons why women love bad boys!

Here’s a question that many women are interested in hearing the answer to!

“Why does a “Bad boy” always seem to be surrounded by women when they know that he’s not going to be good for them?”

Most bad boys are rude, arrogant and often selfish (not giving a hoot about anyone but themselves.) What exactly do women see in a man like that?

1. Bad boys know how to talk to women.

If they weren’t confident and able to easily talk to women bad boys wouldn’t find it so easy to find women, a bad boy knows how to tell a woman what she wants to hear.

2. Bad boys are confident.

The perception that women crave bad boys isn’t entirely inaccurate. People are drawn to confident people.
Yes they wouldn’t be able to pull off  the “Bad boy attitude” if they weren’t full of confidence; Women find “confidence in a man” a huge turn on.

3. Bad boys are exciting.

When was the last time you did something crazy or reckless, just for the joy of doing it?
Bad boys aren’t afraid to live life fully, to the max…and women love this.

4. Bad boys don’t care, so are never “Needy”.

Bad boys just simply don’t care; They can take any woman or leave them; If a woman rejects them, who cares? They move on to the next one, so why’s this important…well because they don’t care, they are never “Needy” and as we all know, women hate men who are “Needy”.

5. Bad boys are a challenge.

Women often think that they’ll be the one to “fix” the broken man, and thus challenge will often keep them in a relationship with a bad boy when all else fails!

6. Bad boys are a unpredictable.

While many women crave security and stability, it can get boring…the unpredictability of a bad boy can make many a woman cry, yet they will never be bored!

7. Bad Boys are manly.

Many women see bad boys as real men, they often are “Confident, adventurous and masculine”

Here’s a video about why women love bad boys

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