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As the Former CEO of LookBetterOnline, Giles was responsible for making sure our customers get the first-rate service we promise. Giles was also responsible for recruiting and training photographers who are asked to join our growing network of outstanding photo service providers. Giles wass responsible for day-to-day operations and new business development at LookBetterOnline

What allows us to take great dating headshots

Here’s a rather Silly video that was recorded for us just for fun- Hope it makes you smile

So what is LookBetterOnline? What makes us different from every other photographer? How can we take the best dating headshots, and why is this relevant to you anyway?

Well I’m asked so many times that I thought I’d write 10 about our unique flavor here at LookBetterOnline, which will hopefully give you a few tips too!

#1 we ONLY hire the best people

…I hire only about 1 in 20 photographers…this is so important, with the best photographers minimal retouching is needed and we get great dating headshots, and we only pick people who are friendly and approachable~ No one likes to work with a moody-artist no matter how good they may think they are!

#2 We Take the time needed

I recently did a review of how much time photographers take when they create great dating headshots, now I was amazed many people take just 20-40 minutes maximum, our photographers take 45-90 minutes on shoots…to take less is to rush people-trust me on this one, it takes a little while for almost everyone to relax and almost all the work I’ve seen done quickly shows it! So make sure you have the time- You’re worth it!

#3We only give you the best dating headshots

…OK so what do I mean by this, well in the course of a photo session any normal photographer will take 2-300 photos, now some photographers will tell you that all 300 are worth having, in 99.9% of all cases this just isn’t true, from literally hundreds of pictures we choose just the 12, 18 or 24 pictures that you’ll need…and trust me again, you don’t need more than these!

4#Relaxed yet quality…not “glamor

dating headshots”, a glamour shot is not about The Real You, it’s about the photographer creating the image that they find the most pleasing. The photographer will use heavy makeup, hair styling, unnatural lighting and heavy post production retouching.

The result is a fantasy image, and it fails for online dating headshots on dating sites. People avoid them because they know no one looks like that, or they avoid you after the date because you didn’t measure up to the picture on the profile. LookBetterOnline photographers are trained to stay away from this style of photography. They take natural pictures that reflect who you really are.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…get great dating headshots

Having a great dating headshots is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find
out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

When They Have nice online dating photos But Something Doesn’t Feel Quite Right (Part 2)

In the last post I mentioned that regardless of how nice online dating photos can be you might come across two different kinds of deception online: the more common truthful economies that exaggerate positive qualities such as youth or wealth at the expense of complete honesty; and the total lies that obscure a character that likes to stalk, harass or otherwise make life miserable for their unfortunate victim.

When you come across the first type—and there’s a fair chance that you will come across the first type online, just as you’ll come across milder forms offline too—you can decide what you want to do. If you’re dealing with just a mild little exaggeration you might be willing to forgive them their trespasses (just as you might be hoping that people will forgive you yours).

But if you get the feeling that the person you’re dealing with is even close to being on the dangerous side, the best thing to do is cut them out quickly.

Just about all online dating sites allow you to block emails from members who are bothering you. Add them to your blocked list and if you’ve managed to keep your identity details secret, that should be the last you hear from them.
Don’t even think twice about it. With millions of people searching for singles online, with such a huge reservoir of people to choose from, there’s absolutely no reason for you to take any risks at all on the Internet even if people have great online dating photos The dangers are just too great and the alternatives too many for you to bother with them.

The moment you see even the slightest hint of a red flag waving, cut, run and move on to the next likely prospect. There are far too many fish in the sea for you to waste your time and your safety swimming with the sharks.

Millions of people have used online dating sites without ever coming across the slightest hint of danger, risk or deception. If you do see a flag, it’s more likely to be the light pink of a couple of years shaved off a birth date than the throbbing red of a Glenn Close looking for a victim. While it’s perfectly possible—and even easy—for someone to misrepresent their qualifications online, it’s no less easy for you to protect yourself from any danger and look for someone more honest.

To keep safe online, and to protect yourself from nasty surprises such as lying Lotharios and deceptive divas, you’ll need little more than common sense and a sensitive nose for the whiff of deceit.

Online dating? The most important thing you need to know…get great online dating photos

Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

When They Have great online dating photos But Something just Doesn’t Feel Right…

On the Internet, it pays to be suspicious. So what do you do when the online dating photos look good but something just doesn’t feel right?

When online dating, the vast majority of the people you meet will be as honest, direct and truthful — like the people you meet offline. It’s unlikely that you’ll come across many angels who will lay out their entire life histories, warts and all, right at the beginning, but it’s also very unlikely that you’ll be unfortunate enough to come across any axe-wielding psychopaths, stalkers or dogs pretending to be people.
The vast majority of fibs you encounter on dating sites tend to concern age, weight, income and of course photo, with ten-year-old graduation photos passing as up-to-date cool online dating photos.
That’s certainly bad enough but it’s not a threat and you can decide, when you uncover the real story, whether the truth has been stretched beyond the bounds of forgiveness.

You can get a feel for when someone’s lying online

Even if you can’t see the way they behave when they’re spinning you a story and you can’t hear in their voice that not even they believe what they’re saying. It’s hard to keep a story straight and there are often little inconsistencies the tell you that something isn’t quite right. If someone born in 1974 for example, talks about having been in their current job for twelve years and their previous job for fifteen, then that should set alarm bells ringing. If a potential date who claims on their profile never to have been married mentions a stay with ex-in-laws, that should raise a red flag. And if someone says they don’t like spending time with the police that should send out a serious warning.

These are exactly the kind of tell-tale signs that tell you that something isn’t quite right. And when you get those signs, it doesn’t matter if he or she has cool online dating photos, it’s always a good idea to trust your instincts.

 

The most important thing you need to know…get good online dating photos

Having great online dating photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

3 Dating Rules for women over 40

Online dating can be a big challenge if you are a woman and you are 40 years old or older.
USA today says that “Of almost 127 million Americans age 40 and over, more than a third are unattached (Divorced, widowed or never married).

Of these singles, more than 25 million are women, as you can imagine we’re seeing a surge in dating for women over 40.

For some online dating a scary journey

Many of these women say “I feel like I’m 19 years old again”, “I feel unprepared for dating after so many years of marriage” and  “I feel that I don’t know the rules of dating anymore since its changed so much since I was in my twenties”, and with a massive increase in online dating, new dating books and advice from the new gurus many of these women feel confused and at a loss for words.

So, here are some tips for those of you who are just getting out of a bad marriage and haven’t got a clue, the good news is that while many of the rules of dating have changed since the last time you dated that some of the important stuff about dating you learned is timeless!

Rule#1 Just because you’re 40 or over doesn’t mean you can’t have Fun!

Most people are dating online because they want to attract the love of their life and that’s great – but we recommend that you don’t make that your primary goal for online dating. Don’t get us wrong, we are confident that you will inevitably attract the love of your life but this is a process that has to unfold naturally and can take days, weeks, or months. The danger is, if you try to rush the process you’re almost guaranteed to have a horrible online dating experience.
If you are honestly having fun with the process, then you literally won’t care about or even notice how long it is taking to attract the person of your dreams. And ironically, you will actually be able to attract that special person much faster and much easier. So we strongly recommend that you take your time and have fun with your online dating experience. The next big question is, “who is responsible for your fun?”

Take responsibility for your own fun:

When you go on a date, odds are you believe it’s the other person’s responsibility to make sure that “you” have a good time (no pressure there…LOL). This is a very common perspective amongst most online daters, and it is also one of the most guaranteed ways to ensure that you’ll have a horrible dating experience.

Truth is; no one is responsible for you having fun except for you! This is one of the secrets that all successful online daters live by. They always take responsibility for their own fun, thus ensuring that they will always have a great dating experience, regardless if they have romantic chemistry with their date or not.

By taking responsibility for your own fun you will also take the pressure off of your date – and you will inspire them to take responsibility for their own fun as well. This will dramatically increase your odds of getting a second date that may eventually turn into a love connection. But once again, even if there is no romantic chemistry you will both still walk away feeling great and thinking “wow, I had a really great time. Below are tips that can help you create your own fun while dating online.

Tips to creating your own fun while online dating…

  • Make sure that you are in a fun, upbeat and positive mood before you show up for your date.
  • In the beginning of the date let the other person know that you want to have fun – and agree to only talk about fun, positive and uplifting topics.
  • Even if there is no romantic chemistry with your date, find things to appreciate like; your surroundings, your food, your dates cologne or perfume, etc.

 

Rule#2 You are probably more comfortable in your own skin than your younger counterparts

Self confidence in a woman is a big turn on, most men appreciate a woman who is not a shrinking violet, so show confidence, you are probably more comfortable in your own skin than your younger counterparts.. Don’t be afraid to let your humor and intelligence show.

And don’t think “How in the world am I going to compete with some “Perky-boobed 24-year-old”, yes, some men are looking for younger women. But those are not the ones you want
to date. And Besides, trying to look or act younger than you are looks and feels needy, remember unlike “Pert-boobed-Barbie” You know who you are and as a woman over 40 you’re not looking for a man to define you.
Also you’re also probably more comfortable with sex than many young women are (women in their 40s have far fewer hang-ups about sex)

Rule#3 Just because you’re 40 or over doesn’t mean you can’t be open!

When many people over 40 go on online dates their natural tendency is to go into it being very closed and guarded, this is often the case for nervous people who’ve just got back in the dating game after years of marriage!. They do this for a number of reasons; sometimes they are afraid to make themselves vulnerable because they don’t want to get hurt again after a painful divorce; sometimes they are afraid that they may say or reveal something that will turn their date off and scare them away; and sometimes they are just nervous and don’t know what to say or do. Being closed and guarded is also one of the most guaranteed ways to ensure that you’ll have a disappointing dating experience no matter what your age is. If you want to have a wonderful and successful online dating experience that you must open up and make yourself vulnerable on dates. (and yes I did say vulnerable!)

Think of yourself as a wonderful and entertaining book with pages and pages of interesting experiences, ideas, and dreams. But if you only show your date the cover of your book and prevent them from experiencing the wonderful content inside… they will get bored and put you back on the shelf.

And if you don’t let them read your book, than odds are they will not reveal the inside of their wonderful book to you either… and they will get bored and put you back on the shelf as well. Everybody loses!

When you are on an date don’t be afraid to open up and make yourself vulnerable. Let your date see what’s inside of you and show him / her who you really are right from the beginning. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not and don’t try to be politically correct. Be genuine, be yourself, and be an open book.

When you are your authentic self that’s when you are the most fun to yourself… as well as to others. This will make your date feel at ease and will encourage them to be their authentic self as well. And even if there is no romantic chemistry between you and your date, at least you will both still have an enjoyable time.

What if they don’t like your book?

If you make yourself open & vulnerable and your date dislikes what they see than don’t take it personally. That simply means that they are not the one for you, and that’s okay. Continue to make yourself open & vulnerable because it’s only a matter of time before you attract online dates that will love and appreciate the authentic you (including your Mr. / Mrs. Right.). And trust us you’ll be glad you did. Below are a few tips that can help:

Tips to help you remain open when online dating…

  • Remember that you are being open in-order to ensure that you can be yourself and have a good time.
  • If your date is not into you that’s okay, because you would not have been a good match anyway (they did you a favor).
  • If you open up you will inspire your date to do the same.
  • Remaining open will enable your perfect partner to be able to immediately identify and find you.

Online dating? The most important thing you need to know…

Having great profile photos is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

 

Online Dating Tips for Men and Women

I know we’ve all had a bad date at some point, which is why this video makes me laugh every time I watch it!

When I asked my good friends and dating experts “The Amazing Clarks” for some online dating tips for men and women they gave me this sage advice:

Be detached from the outcome.

That sounds counter-intuitive. We’re supposed to care about the results of a date. They could be life-changing, after all.

But it is a huge mistake to go into an online date with specific expectations — especially the need “to make a love connection.” It just ensures that you will have a disastrous online dating experience.

Of course, it is smart and necessary to expect that you will eventually make a love connection and meet “the one.” That mindset is vital if you want to attract the partner of your dreams. But the key, and in my opinion  one of the best online dating tips for men and women, is to remain

detached to the romantic outcome, to let that process unfold naturally. Don’t try to force it or rush destiny.

Take it easy in the same way that you let a friendship grow at its own pace.

If you go into your online dates thinking “this is going to be the one, this is going to be the one,” then you will put a huge amount of unwanted pressure on both you and your poor date. You will come off desperate, needy, or aggressive — none of which are attractive and will lead to a second or third date. And if you don’t feel an immediate connection you will be incredibly disappointed, you will shut down emotionally, and your entire date will be ruined.

Make the same mistake over a number of first dates you will eventually become bitter, traumatized and completely turned off by the entire online dating experience. When that happens, the odds of ever finding the person of your dreams drops dramatically.
Your only valid expectation…

Having fun should be the only expectation you should have when going into an online date —and only you are responsible for your fun. When you are detached from the romantic outcome of your dates, you will remove resistance and have a great online dating experience (and so will your date). You will even be able to attract your dream partner much faster and much easier than you ever imagined possible. Below are a few practical online dating tips for men and women that can really help:


Tips to help you remain detached to outcomes while online dating:

  • Remember that having fun is the only immediate expectation you should have when going into an online date.
  • Tell yourself that each person you meet adds something positive to your dating experience and helps to prepare you for “The One.”
  • Remind yourself that online dating is exciting, and appreciate every moment of being single. When the time is right you will be in a loving relationship.

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

 

Online Dating Safety Tip: Keeping Your Name (And Everything Else) To Yourself

Online dating safety tip: There’s no reason at the beginning of an online dating relationship to say who you are, where you work, where you live, what your telephone number is or any other identifying detail that you might later regret.

When you start exchanging emails, you can chat about your hobbies. You can talk in general about the kind of work you do. You can say that you like walking in Central Park or heading out to Sequoia. But tell someone you’ve never seen, never met and whose real name you don’t know that you live at 123 Killmenow Road, Apt. 103 and it’s certainly possible that you’ll have reason to regret it when you find yourself looking for a new apartment

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The worst 10 online dating profile pics ever

 

Happy Friday Everyone (Or whatever day it is for you!)

Just for Fun here’s the 10 worst online dating profile pics ever!

#10 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Did I hear you saying, a mullet haircut isn’t sexy.”

 

#09 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“A back tattoo guaranteed to make the ladies go wild!”

 

#08 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Showing off your muscles in the snow to attract the ladies?”

 


#07 Worst online dating profile


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ll grow some handsome sideburns and take a glamor shot, this is certain to attract my perfect match.”

 


#06 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Another attractive glamor shot.

 


#05 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Not only do I look hot, but I come with cat pictures and wall-paper too!”

 


#04 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Ex girlfriend, what ex-girlfriend?”

 

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#03 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I’m a great date but my mother will always be in the picture.”

 


#02 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I’m both well groomed and rich, date me!”

 

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#01 Worst online dating profile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Psycho’s need love too!

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Bad Things to Say on a First Date and the Worst Things You Can Do to Your Profile Pictures

Here’s a funny look at things not to day on a date

That’s a bunch of things you really shouldn’t say on your first date. They made me laugh, and laughing about dating definitely makes it less stressful and more fun.

Without decent profile pictures you won’t get a chance to say anything on a first date!

Some of the mistakes that singles make with their profile pictures are as bad as any of those in the video above.(only joking)

One of the biggest mistakes many people make with their profile pictures is to post dark and blurred photos. Profile pictures like those make even the nicest person look tired and/or shady
Here’s an example:

Notice how the darker picture doesn’t show off her beautiful skin and features?
Psychology studies have shown that people relate to brighter pictures better and choose them over darker pictures.

Getting good profile pictures makes a difference!

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

Read this and learn how to avoid a cheater in 5 minutes!

Lately I’ve spoken a lot about getting the right profile pictures, about how important these profile pictures are when combined with a well written dating profile to attract a great date

So when you get a date-how do you avoid dating a cheater?

Well- in our journey in this life we can’t avoid meeting dishonest people but here’s some food for thought!

“He picked her up at odd hours and took her to little out-of-the-way places”

Hmmmm…..this should be a warning signal, if your date is always unavailable at the weekends ask yourself why!

Often a cheater cancels plans, they always have “a lot going on” and will often drop plans with you at the drop of a hat. Why?  Because they often have someone else who wants their time too!

Remember a cheater has to watch their agenda and watch…does someone always want to have drinks at 8pm on a Monday? Or a date on a Thursday night!
A good sign of a cheater is that the real quality free time (weekends, holidays) are reserved for the person who matters to them …and always being out of town with family, now there’s another warning sign!

Most importantly use your intuition! (Most people who have dated a cheater when looking back with hindsight realize that things just didn’t feel right!)

Dating online? The most important thing you need to know…

Having a great photo is the single most important thing you can do when dating online, so visit LookBetterOnline and find out why more than 98% of our customers get better dates, and see how we can help make your online dating experience successful and more fun than you thought possible!

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures

I came across a very well written article online by OK Cupid called “The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures” it interested me greatly as the author had diligently looked at 7000 dating photos, analyzed much data, and seemed to find 4 myths about the way that people think about profile pictures, the article goes on to say that much of our collective wisdom about profile pictures is wrong, notably that:

Profile picture myth 1

It’s better to smile

Profile picture myth 2

The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

Profile picture myth 3

Guys should keep their shirts on

Profile picture myth 4

Make sure your face is showing

Now let’s be clear from the beginning where they got the data from:

“Our data set was chosen at random from all users in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32. We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”

Now let me make it clear that our dating  & profile photo company LookBetterOnline.com specializes in helping people who are usually older than the 18-25 year old daters, the only reason I’m writing this post is that I’ve had a few people who are over 25 ask me if this advice applies to them and I don’t think it does, there’s a world of difference between dating in your twenties and thirties, forties and fifties! I think that OK Cupid did a pretty good job of collecting this advice for a certain kind of person in their 20’s

Perhaps a more accurate title for the article would be:

The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average

OK I know, I’m joking, and if it were a paper researched by Doctors or Teachers then it wouldn’t be published with such a title, but let’s not dismiss this article yet!

I had a customer who asked me why I wasn’t following this article, they wrote that “My profile pictures do not follow the advice given” and wanted to hear my comments. Now I respect their privacy so I’ll keep my reply private, what I will say though is that they did, live in a big city, I’d guess were between the age of 28 and 32, although I believe they didn’t quite fit the profile as they were definitely very good looking and wanted to post more than one profile picture

The article defines success for women and men alike based on the number of responses that they got…

Now many of us have dated online and had many, many responses, yet somehow I was left feeling that the number of responses is a slightly empty number. If your profile pictures are attracting the wrong sort of people then success cannot be measured by

numbers alone, if I post a profile picture online and  get lots and lots of responses by people who I feel aren’t a match, then I’m failing (rather than winning as the numbers suggest). There are often issues created by statistics, interpreted by the reader “out of context” they become meaningless or worse give a false impression.

Again I’m not attempting to trash data that was diligently collected in a professional way, just showing how people can read an article and possibly get the wrong idea.

Let’s look a little deeper into these myths- and please only read on if you live in a big city, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 and look average

Profile picture myth #1:It’s better to smile

The article goes on to say that men and women have very different approaches to the camera~ that women smile more than men and make more flirty faces, that looking happy and making eye contact for online dating photos isn’t good advice, that women get the most messages by flirting with the camera and that men’s profile pictures are most effective when they look away from the camera and don’t smile.

Now here’s where I get to thinking, even if I was an average looking 18-32 year old, big city dweller with just one profile picture, would this be good advice for me? Hmmmm  for me personally NO…Women with flirty faces irritate me, and always have done, and I spoke with a few woman (over 25 ) who definitely don’t want a guy who looks away and doesn’t smile, (They commented that people who look like this are often self-absorbed or hiding something (Perhaps bad teeth) and they would avoid them)…for some people these photos are definitely a deal breaker!
My point is that for this advice to be helpful you have to be attracted to girls who make flirty faces or mysterious guys looking away!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys

Just kidding…

The real question you should be asking yourself is “who do I want to attract? If you think your ideal match wants to see you looking flirty or mysterious then this is exactly the sort of advice that you should follow, but if you want to attract other things in a person then perhaps a different

approach for profile pictures will apply! If you like to smile then smile-looking confident and how you want to look is important.

In summary not smiling may work if you’re younger, but there’s still a lot of opinion out there that says  to avoid it, (example Kurt Inman wrote an article called “Run Away from these 5 bad dating Dating photos” where he gives advice to avoid people with profile pictures who don’t smile, his valid opinion is “I ‘m not talking about a huge grin here. A real smile makes anyone look very attractive. I’ve seen people scowling, glaring, on the verge of tears and staring at the floor in their photo profile. How can you think this would be attractive to anyone?”, now I know many of you won’t agree with him…but many of you will (Especially the 28+ crowd!)

Profile picture myth #2:The MySpace Angle Is Busted (Photographs shooting from overhead down)

The article says thatThe universally-maligned “My-Space angle” is achieved by holding your camera above your head and being just so darn coy, we were sure these pictures were lame; in fact, the prospect of producing hard data on just how lame got us all excited. But we were so wrong.” We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place—so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again. No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pictures”

Now this doesn’t surprise me, if you take a profile picture looking down on someone then they often look better, I agree with this article that these kinds of shots when done right can be very effective, many professional photographers take photos from above for this very reason

The only time I disagree on using “My Space angle” profile pictures is if they are used to hide the body!
Let’s imagine this scenario, a girl wants to post only photos of her from overhead-down; her logic is, this way only her face and boobs show, and lets imagine it’s because she’s overweight and doesn’t want anyone to know until they meet her on a first date (She’s hoping to make a connection so that she won’t be judged on her size)
Now I hold nothing against anyone for being thinner or larger (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again-I do believe that there’s a body type out there for everyone) but if this girl doesn’t show her body in any of her profile pictures then one of two things will happen; One- people will look at her profile pictures and get  suspicious and think she’s hiding something OR Two-she’ll mislead someone; I remember a date where I’d seen my dates’ attractive “My Space angle” profile pictures and invited her on a date when I met my date she was 100lbs heavier, so yes she got the date through the pictures, but would she get another date? I don’t think so!

Profile picture myth #3: Guys should keep their shirts on

Here’s a summary of this myth; The male “Ab shot’ profile picture is an Internet cliché that everyone thinks is only for bozos. Yet the data contradicts this ~ of course, there is some self-selection here: the guys showing off their abs are the ones with abs worth showing, and naturally the best bodies get lots of messages. So we can’t recommend this photo tactic to every man. But, contrary to everything you read about profile pictures, if you’re a guy with a nice body, it’s actually better to take off your shirt and why should guys with great bodies keep their best asset under wraps? Dating, both online and off is about playing to your strengths, and it should be no different for men with muscles”

Now I’m a little confused at this point, earlier in the article it says “We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results”, and so I’m curious as they can’t recommend this tactic to every man does this make the statistics difficult to accurately interpret!

Again should the real question to ask yourself  be “who do I want to attract? If I think my ideal match wants this then this is exactly the sort of advice that I should follow, but if I want to attract other sorts of people then perhaps a different approach for profile pictures will be needed!

Perhaps the article title should now change to:
The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures for people who live in big cities, with only one profile photograph, between the ages of 18 and 32 who only look average and who like girls with Flirty faces or mysterious guys and who think that abs are important

Just kidding again…

Here’s some other really good points the article makes:

“If you’re not the type of guy who can show off your muscles, don’t veer off in the opposite direction and get all dressed up.

“For women, shots that show breasts get attention…A message like “Hey nice rack” isn’t really gonna lead anywhere, and isn’t very valuable to the recipient”

“the value of being conversation-worthy, as opposed to merely sexy, cannot be overstated”

I agree that whatever your age, location or attitude this is good solid advice…

 

Profile picture myth #4: Make sure your face is showing

Now I was as surprised when I read that “The facts were stubborn and your face doesn’t necessarily matter. In fact, not showing your face can in fact be a positive, as long as you substitute in something unusual, sexy, or mysterious enough to make people want to talk to you.”.

I laughed out loud when I read this and laughed out loud again when I read:

Of course, we wouldn’t recommend that you meet someone in person without first seeing a full photo of them, that still seems like a recipe for disaster.

Do I need to say more…
So in conclusion thank-you OK Cupid for taking the time to research and write this report, it’s definitely a great start in serving people who are online dating, and aren’t sure what do do when choosing a profile picture~ I hope that when you read this you’ll enjoy my comments on your article and I hope I made you smile too!

For readers of this post~ Both Online daters and Matchmakers alike, If you have additional questions about this article or anything else on effective, profile pictures please reach out to me via LookBetterOnline Facebook or Twitter, I’m interested to hear what you have to say.

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