On a first date, while most men are happy to be going out on a date with a girl and are hoping that they impress her. She will be quietly trying to figure out what kind of person you are, whether you’re worthy of her time and whether she sees a future with you.
There are many small things that may seem like nothing to you but will be deal-breakers for her. For men, the main aim of a first date is not to make her fall head over heels in love with you or to tell her everything about you. it’s to intrigue her enough to secure a second date.
Get clued up on these deal-breakers and you won’t be left wondering why you’ve just received a rejection text the next day or why she no longer returns your calls.
1. Don’t fiddle with the phone
It’s so annoying when you’re putting in the effort to talk to someone and they’re more interested in replying to their friend’s trivial text about the crazy thing they did last night or where they are at the moment. Stop fiddling around with whatever you have in your pocket and show your date that you’re genuinely interested in her by giving her your full attention. You can call or text your friends any time but you’re not going to get another chance to make a positive first impression on this woman. The only time you can use your phone is when you’re involving her as well by showing her a picture of you or a funny text conversation you had with a friend. It may even help to spark a conversation.
2. Don’t talk about your last relationship
There are few things that can put a woman off on a first date than having to listen to you talk about your last relationship and how it ended so badly. In her head, the first date could be the start of something new and exciting and although she no doubt knows that you will have had past relationships, it’s not the first thing she wants to think of when she thinks of and whether she has a future with you. There will be plenty time to talk about how badly your past relationships were on the fourth or fifth date when you know each other a lot better but for now, the aim is to tell her something about you that sets you apart from the rest of the bunch and sparks her interest in you. Also, women prefer guys who come across as positive and optimistic. It allows them to be happy around you to and enjoy themselves with you. Talking about how something ended badly for you on the first date will banish any chances you have of making her enjoy herself and instead will create a dull, uncomfortable atmosphere that most likely will not end well for you.
3. Don’t dress too formal or too informal
What you wear is important. You don’t need to dress in the most expensive clothing or wear something that the music artists are wearing these days but you should wear something that you personally look good in and feel comfortable in. Unless the situation warrants it, a suit on a first date is probably a little too formal. Over dressing on the first date when you barely know your date may make you seem too clingy or desperate and could scare her away. On the flip side, dressing too informal or looking scruffy will make her think you don’t care. While everyone has their own style, if you’re struggling to think of what to wear, opt for a nice, well ironed shirt with the top button open and some casual looking chinos. You can always find a good selection of shirts here. Your hair doesn’t need to be heavily gelled or styled but it should look neat. You need to look good but you don’t want to give her the impression that you spend longer getting ready than she does.
4. Don’t forget the chivalry
Chivalry is very important, for some reason we are seeing a lot less of it these days. On a first date, she will be wondering what you want from her in terms of where you want this date to end up. She doesn’t know whether you’re interested in a long term relationship or whether you’re just after a one night stand. Regardless of what you’re after, chivalry makes a woman feel special and wanted without making you seem needy or desperate – a very attractive trait in a man. Although many women may not admit it, they like to be pampered by a man at least a little bit and like to have moments when they feel admired or feminine. So open the door for her and pull up a chair for her – she’ll appreciate it and so will her friends when she tells them.
5. Don’t forget to let her talk
Have you noticed how women can’t seem to stop talking when they’re with their girlfriends but when they meet a guy they barely know, they sometimes struggle to start a conversation?
If your date isn’t talking to you a lot, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she doesn’t like you, it could be that she is shy or afraid to open up to you. One of the best ways to determine whether the first date was a success or not is to look at how much she spoke on the date. She’s a woman so rest assured she can talk and hold a conversation so start asking her open ended questions without it becoming an interview and try to make her feel comfortable.
Start the date by talking about something light. If you’re struggling to think of something to talk about then make a funny comment about something around you. Ask her open ended questions on topics that she is interested in and then give your own take on her reply. If you can’t think of something to say then just regurgitate what she has said. It will make her think that you are listening to her and she will appreciate this. The aim is to have her talking most of the time but for you to steer the conversation into a direction which you feel comfortable talking about.
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